I'm making a lot of bad decisions lately, consciously making them. What is my problem? Why do I feel the need to self destruct?
lilHuman lilHuman
26-30, F
6 Responses Aug 20, 2014

I think you are trying to say something and is coming out in that way. As an example, those people that cut themselves are trying to say they are in pain. But they can't say it, so that expression manifests itself in cutting.

People do it all the time(bad decisions), I'm guilty of it. The one thing I try to change in my decision making process is to try to pretend I'm giving advice to someone else about that particular decision. I'm much better at giving advice than following my own, so I try to systematically trick myself. Of course it doesn't always work, but it's better than nothing.

Then again some people do better, work better, react better when push comes to shove.

I've never thought of doing that. That's very good advice. People constantly ask me for advice, because they think I've got it all together, when I most certainly do not haha. I guess we're all a little like Alice. "I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

It also fits the "Do as I say, not as I do", that people like to follow. Like I said, it works part of the time, but it also depends on the situation, mood, setting, but it has worked/helped me in the past. I'm the first person my friends turn to for a question, or an opinion whether relationship wise, or business. I've always had an ability to look at something in a non-judgemental way and give an honest opinion. A lot of people tell you what they think you want to hear, or fluff something up as a good idea or just blow smoke up your ***.

I completely agree. I'm going to have to try this on myself. I suppose I'm much more judgmental towards myself than anyone as well.

Hope it helps :)

I think it will, thank you, honestly

You're welcome.

Any luck?

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You're not the only one. Have thought patterns like that too. But i think in order to come into realization. You got to take into consideration your thoughts and actions you do. Be aware of them more. Almost like a study yourself session and dissect every little detail.

Maybe you don't like yourself - and on some level you want to hurt yourself and sabotage your life because you think you deserve it. Then, when you do self-destructive things, it only makes you dislike yourself more.

That makes a lot of sense

its not u its the unobserved mind thats taking decision

Can you explain that

for the last two years i have been reading spirtiual books,,,and from that i have know that all those sadness is not of us its of the mind activity which we think is us,,,,we identify with what we think

i have read spiritual books from hinduism,christianity,islam and all of them say about the unobserved mind..in the bible it is reffered as satan or serpent

not completely just some part of the books

as the group title says you are your own enemy but this you is not really you..its the mind which u think is u

So how does one escape this? I have a lot going for me, I should be happy. Whenever I accomplish my goals I'm happy for a while and I'm not sure if it's boredom or if it's masochistic, but I just feel like destroying it all.

if you really want to be happy and put an end to your suffereing it all i suggest that you read the book " A new earth" by eckhart tolle,,,,its a free book

when you start observing your thoughts you can see that the mind is the element that creates all unnecesary unhappiness...

So basically you're saying I have negative thought patterns?

you dont have negative thought patterns,,,you think that you are your thoughts,,,you take your thoughts to be you but you are beyond thoughts

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