Numb!I just recently moved out and separated from my husband of 25 years. It's not the first time but hopefully the last. I just learned that I have been emotionally abused from a passive-aggressive husband. For years, since the beginning, there has been issues between us. I've either chalked it up to immaturity on both our parts, learning about my husband's likes and dislikes, maybe some of my own depression issues. But after all these years, I felt not intimate with my husband and couldn't understand why. I had thoughts of what my life would be like if I was single or with someone else. I really thought I was unhappy and it was all my fault until I found the subject of passive aggressive and the veil has been lifted from my eyes. OMG! Everything made sense. I brought it up to my husband and he did his typical excuses and I explained that I love him but we have to change. I am gonna seek help for my co-dependency and said he has a year to show me that he really either loves me and wants to get help or he likes the way he is and we will just get a divorce. I am so hoping for reconciliation. I've moved 2 1/2 hours away and transferred my job and am so lonely. This is really hard and I don't have anyone to talk to yet. So I'm just reaching out here.
deleted 26-30 4 Responses 2 Aug 14, 2012