Lost

My husband, of 12 years, told me 41/2 months ago that he no longer loved or cared about me, that he misses what we had, while we were overseas with a group of people. We were having a bit of trouble before we went, but to tell me in a strange country where English is not the first language & so far away from home, I mean what the hey. He still lives here but is slowly moving out, only staying 3 - 4 nights a week at the moment. We have a business and work at it together, sooooo very hard. I was pushing myself through the first months but now I can't seem to get out of this deep sadness. Has anyone got any suggestions?
Help4menyou Help4menyou
46-50
2 Responses Dec 15, 2012

I understand where you are coming from. My husband and I decided to sperate 3 months ago. We are going to counceling and he has moved in and out several times. I really want to save the marriage but he is having feelings of us just putting off the inevitable. Im an emotional mess, I just want my marrige back. But seeing him is becoming more painful because I am always looking for that answer I want to hear, and I dont get it. My problem is the same as yours we have 2 business together. Selling them and moving apart just is not a financial thing we can do. But I cant seem to find happiness working with him. Please let me know if you figure out how to handle working together. Im at a loss. Best of luck to you.

What is happening to our lives and marriages in this world?
My husband of 14 years told me almost two months ago that he didn't want to be married to me anymore. And even tho we are still living in the same house we stay in separate bedrooms. I can't look at him because no matter how hard I am hurting, he is still the love of my life.
I could not imagine working together all day and the going home alone at night. My heart hurts for you and I pray that you have some peace.

Embrace the sadness for a certain period of time, then do only for you. Sell the business, cut ties, make him leave. You can not get on with your life while you are part time married. Quite frankly he was a real ***** for telling you over seas and a coward. He knew you couldn't do anything. What do you want? How can you get it? Start making a plan and then do it. Action is always better than inaction.