My husband and I have been married 4 years. Mid-December he starts acting distant and cold. Looking for reasons to leave the house. Constantly staring at his phone. On Christmas Eve I couldn't stand it anymore and asked him what was going on. He said he was going to wait until after Christmas to tell me he doesn't love me anymore and is leaving. I found out the reason he had been leaving and on his phone was an ex-girlfriend. He denies this had anything to do with his decision. He left on Christmas Eve afternoon. He came back on Christmas morning to pretend for the kids. I am not coping well. It has been almost 3 weeks, but I just cannot snap out of the depression and sadness. The person I usually lean on in difficult times isn't here. I'm fairly isolated working from home. I know this doesn't help. He agreed to attend a counseling appointment on Jan. 14. He is holding all the cards in his hand, and I can't stand it. A month ago I thought I was with my lifelong companion. Today, I am a lonely mess. This is one Christmas I wish I could forget.
hdp81 hdp81
31-35, F
3 Responses Jan 11, 2013

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Sorry to hear about your troubles. My husband asked for a divorce right before Christmas too so I know exactly how you feel. It's really good that you could pretend you were fine so your kids could enjoy Christmas. Your husband sounds like a real prize. You're much better off without him.
Take care of yourself!

At least you know where he stands painful as it is . It is better than living a lie