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25 Years Wife & Mother, Replaced By Woman Known For 2yrs

My husband has chosen a woman he met through facebook over me and my heart is broken. Our house is now up for sale and we are both still living here though seperately. As once sold we will go our seperate ways. He refuses to discuss whats been going on just said has not been happy for a while. I never thought I could have so many tears but it has been an emotional rollercoaster ride for me these last few months and I cannot stop crying. I find myself alone and feel old for the first time in my life, so many emotions, so many unanswered questions going through my head. Bottom line is he is choosing a girl he has known for 2minutes over a woman he has shared his life with.
tessa77 tessa77 46-50 6 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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It appears like a sudden decision from your husband. But are you sure you didnt see this coming? Im not hacking on you. I know you're in a lot of shock and pain. But if a couple can't see things like this are wrong well before a sudden walkout well then ... there's your problem. Things broke a long time ago it seems like to me. And I'm speaking from experience.

Thank you all so much for your words of comfort, I do have good friends and family around me but try as they might they just dont get how I am feeling. Its good to hear from others who are going through the
same situation and see how they are coping, as when something like this happens you feel so alone. Will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers in the hope we all get over this hurdle life has thrown us and onto better and happier times.

Well, my husband of twenty five years left yesterday, saying he s unhappy. I don't want him to be unhappy, but this is so so so hard. What to do? I have no idea beyond surviving each moment as it arrives...

Tessa77,
I can relate to what you are going through. My husband of 9 years (we dated 8 years before that) just one day came to be a said, I love you but I'm not in love with you. He did not want to discuss, he did not want to go to church, he didn't want to do counseling. He just wanted a divorce asap. We have a three year old daughter so we will forever be joined by her. I completely understand you probably feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you. I have good days and bad just like you describe. Everyone says it will get better so just try to believe in that. Believe that better things are in store for you. Surround yourself with family and friends, people you can lean on. I understand how you are feeling. I was crying like a baby just yesterday and today I feel okay. It's such a roller coaster. I believe once you are not living under the same roof it will slowly get easier. Don't put too much pressure on yourself is what I have learned these past couple of months. Sending you a great big hug :-)

Thank you, I do have days when I feel free to go do my own thing and they are good days. I feel I will cope better when we actually go our seperate ways which unfortunately will not happen until we sell our home. Today is a bad day the hurt and pain of feeling betrayed that all we have worked for has come to nothing just hits without warning. I hope it will get better.

I can't say that I understand what you are going through. However life was meant to progress & you'd be alot better off moving forward. See this as what it is. A chance at a new life! Do things you've always wanted to do, or go places you've always wanted to go, make new friends! It may be the end of one thing, but it's the beginning of another. One day he will wake up & realize his mistake. It's the way of things.Go live your life! Be happy, free, have fun! I wish you All the best!