My Wife Is Leaving Day 2I am considering giving this letter to my wife. Please be so kind to let me know what you think.
I have taken some time and searched deep inside me and I am sorry for how I have handled the George situation. I have always been afraid of losing you. I see all the great parts of you. The kind, loving, giving, responsible, hard working, beautiful woman that you are. I could not imagine a more perfect girl than you. Where you ask why would anybody want to be with me, I ask how could they possibly not want to be with you.
But I cannot control you and your life and feelings. What I would do and how I feel are sometimes different than what you would do or how you would feel. Whatever choices you make are up to you. I can only control my reactions to those choices.
I choose to trust you. You have never done anything to give me any reason to not trust you. I have no reason not to trust you now. I have been making the situation worse with my reactions. But no more.
I am strong and getting stronger. I have some issues but I am a good man. I love my wife and my family. I would do almost anything for the people in my life. I have worked hard and I am successful. I am working on making a lot of changes to make me an even better man. You have seen some of these changes and you know that I am working on others. I have a beautiful life, one that a lot of people would trade me for in a heartbeat.
You have trusted me with your feelings, your confusion, your pain. There is no doubt that it has hurt and I am scared. I bet that you are hurt and scared too. This has been the most difficult time in my life. But I will be OK. I have accepted the fact that if I don't let you go, you will leave. I want you to be a part of my life but I want you to want to be there and that means you have to find what makes you happy and whole.
I made a promise to you 15 years ago. I meant what I said back then. I will continue to work on fixing our marriage with every ounce of effort I can find. If it works, the rewards will be worth the tears. If not, I will still be a better man for putting in the effort. Plus we have two sons who are innocent victims of our situation. We have to do the best we can for them always.
I hope you can find what you are looking for and I hope you can be happy. I will love you and care for you always and forever.
Dakota06 36-40, M 7 Responses 1 Jan 25, 2013