Moving Out, Moving Up?
First, I am new to ths website. It looks really interesting.
I moved out two weeks ago yesterday. This is the end of a 27 year marriage. This is the second time I moved out. The first time I did it very badly (worked up hatred and anger toward my wife and had an affair). This time it is really different.
When I came back four years ago, things never really took off. We had massive trust issues, and even bigger intimacy issues. I went into therapy, and made great strides, but she didn't see a need for it. I worked at it, and I guess she did too, but we just could not make headway.
This time I got a lot of community support. Some of my best friends are with me, and this time I have no secrets, no affair, nothing to hide. It is hard. We have three children, one who is ten. The ten year old seems to understand why we are doing this more than anyone else in the family. My wife still does not seem to understand why I left, which is one our problems.
I live in a dry cabin just outside of Fairbanks, Alaska. ("Dry" means no running water. I have "walking water."
Anyway, that is the tip of the iceberg.