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I Am Nobody Special

I am really nothing special. Average man with an average life. I make an average living thanks to my average job, drive an average car live in an average house that I am raising my above average family in.

I hate that no matter what I do I always seem to fit into some category. I feel like I am some statistic. I feel like my life is completely predictable. Sometimes I drive way out of my way to get home just to feel like I'm doing something different or unexpected but it turns out that I am still just driving home.

I am not upset about it. I don't feel like I am stuck in a rut. I am not even bored with my life. I feel lucky to have the life I have but I am always on the lookout for the chance to make this average man extraordinary.

NobodySpecial NobodySpecial 41-45, M 22 Responses Feb 1, 2010

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Interesting that you classify your family as above average. Very sweet!!!

5 kids, more than your average family.

good post. Were all special, Don't let anyone tell you different.Hugs!

I think some of the most special people I know are the ones that are dependable.. constant.. hard working.. sincere. Personally, I've found your username ironic. At least from my limited experience with you via EP, you're anything but "NobodySpecial".

I love irony. Like a sick figure with a super hero cape.

Also, thank you for your kind words. If being honest and sincere makes me special then I feel sorry for all of us since the majority of humanity is not honest and sincere. Thank you none the less.

Yes, I noticed that. I had a feeling it was intentionally paired with the username for that very reason.

I think you are special and I think it takes a special person to make the choice to go out of his way home just because! That choice makes a difference. I could make a list of special things about you but I won't. My wonderful Special!

well, this story is a few years old now and things are quite different. I'm not stuck in that rut like I was then and thanks to not having to find a different way to drive home for some change, I am self-employed and that fact provides lots of change.

Well, I'm Youneke;

Just like you, I'm average... and just like you, my life isn't outstanding in anyway and it's really not that bad.

I'm different because I couldn't care less if I'm a statistic or predicable. Go ahead count me! Categorize me, predict what I'm going to say or do, I don't mind. it keeps them busy. I'm still me :)

I'm not looking to be extraordinary, the wife, kids and a few others think I'm alright, the dog thinks I'm extraordinary. If it happens great, if not, I'm still me... good enough for me.

Thanks for the story, you do have an extraordinary way with words, and I'll bet you way more then just "ordinary as a person already".

isn't everyone! who says you don't do extraordinary things everyday and you just don't fully realise it!
Ripples on a pond ;)

More like a pebble in an ocean.

:) thanks

I think going home is the best part of life..no matter how we take the road..life is a gift..u a kind special *Guy*very blessed..

I understand, keep writing....it may lead you to an answer. I always feel better when I write something down. When I put it on paper, it's an acknowledgment of my feeling and brings it up out the "well" within me. One less "bucket" down there that I've been keeping to myself.<br />
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You could always dress like a clown and go into work that way (LOL). That would make you "stand out in the crowd!! <br />
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Wishing you all the best!

Thank you shepardess for the offers but you have to understand something... I'm not depressed. I love my life and I love my children but sometimes, often even, I feel like I was meant for more than what I have become. Maybe this is a midlife crisis I am living through. <br />
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I wrote a story about why NobodySpecial is my user name. One of the lines in that story was " If everyone is special, isn't that another way of saying that nobody is?" For me "NobodySpecial" is another attempt at standing out from the crowd.

Thanks Geetar for the kind words. That is what I want is MORE extraordinary.

You know, I'm rethinking everything here. This is just my opinion so do with it what you will, but, I think you're showing signs of the classic mid-life crisis. You keep re-evaluating your life. I've done this a million times myself, I think it's just part of being a family man or woman. You dedicate your life to others and start to run out of steam. <br />
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I never see you write anything about your relationship with your wife. Maybe that's at the core of this, I don't know. Do you have any close male friends you can go out and have a good time with? Everybody deserves a break from the mundane. That always cheers me up. Maybe a fishing trip? <br />
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Maybe you could talk to someone about how you're feeling? Maybe you need medication to help with depression? Don't ignore your pain. <br />
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Well, I think I've budded into your business enough. I'm always around to talk to, if you'd like.<br />
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I'm wishing you peaceful, breezy days and nights. Take care of yourself!<br />
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P.S. Yes, Holidays do become markers for time past. They become bittersweet as time goes by.

Hmmmmmmm. Sounds pretty extraordinary already but I think i know where you are coming from. A day goes by in service to the job, the family, the kids and then begins again. Weekends come and go filled with commitments, chores, more family stuff etc. Holidays are special in many ways but start to serve as markers for time past. You start to wonder if this is all their is - if there should be more? Not that you think what you have is lacking in any way but that you have the "capacity" for more. Is your dedication to family noble and worthwhile? Absolutely! Will it ever be second to anything else? Absolutelty not! Do you have the ability to be more Extraordinary? Absolutely. You just have to figure out what that is.

OK, I'm going to have to sit you down now and give you a talkin to. DO NOT say you are nobody special. Most of us are also nobody special. The nobody special's are the heart and soul of this world. We work the nothing special jobs and live the nothing special lives but we are good people who are not driven by greed or notoriety. We take care of those we love and are willing to help others. <br />
We don't shine like the stars but we're the backbone that holds the stars up. Please remember your role here is so much more important than you are realizing. Again, you have 5 wonderful children who think you're very special! What, if anything, is more special than that. <br />
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Please reconsider who you are to those around you. I'd much rather be somebody's "nobody special" love than anyone else.

Thank you SS. I am the person you would pass by durring your daily routine. People might not remember me but I am the person that holds the door open for you on their way through it. The polite soft-spoken man that always gives a thank you and a warm smile. <br />
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I think I want to look back on my life one day and know that I made something of myself. I want to know that I am remembered fondly and not just by my children but by many.

It's a crazy, complictated world. What you consider normal & average may look pretty special to someone else. It probably sounds silly, but what I consider to be extraordinary moments in my day may seem like nothing to someone else. It might be a smile, a comment made, help offered ... normal behavior for them but it had a greater effect on me. You just never know how your words or actions may touch another.

:) and you are to me FG

You are very special to me.

Its good to build things, fix and repair things, make and modify things just to be doing things, and you are one organized man as my shop was your typical everything everywhere, but I loved it and miss it. I hope rut breakers of interest here and there come your way just to make things a bit different as we all seem to get caught in routines that can get old.

Shepardess thank you, I have many children, 5 actually, and not only are they extraordinary because of the number of them but they are all wonderful kids. If I am special in any way it is because of them.<br />
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Timesoftrouble I do think that I am a good man and father however I don't think that makes me special. Maybe I am a bit naive but I hope that most people are hard working, dependable, healthy, sober ********* haters. I do have to remind myself that I am more than just another face in the crowd. Thank you for your comment.

Being that you are as a book with a cover there are things that go on in your heart and mind that nobody knows, therefore being just an individual there may be many special things about you. <br />
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Care to know what does make you special? You love your family, your not out committing adultery, you have employment, your dependable, not an alcoholic, not in a hospital, not a drug user, not a rapist, not a *********, you have natural wants for more in your life; therefore you do fit into a category; a category marked way above average and in the category of excellence. Now if you top that off with a heartfelt love for other human beings, you have made the highest grade possible because to have love is what pleases God Almighty far above anything else. <br />
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Have cares? Give them directly to God because he does care about you. 1 Peter 5:7. Like truth and reality, don’t expect to find it in churches but only from God. I was once like you in one aspect, unhappiness and needed something different. <br />
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I simply became different by following the instructions in Proverbs chapter 2 for understanding of God. So now after eighteen years I do, and I have nothing to do with doctrines of man, churches or traditions because God tears them all to pieces throughout the Bible. <br />
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So I am different as non religious by the standards of man, yet extremely devoted to God by His own standards which give me inner peace no matter what the storms in life may be. <br />
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You take care Mr. Not Average.

Well, you said you have an above average family, that's pretty extraordinary!