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I Am a Domestic Engineer

When ask about my occupation I regularly answer that I am a "Domestic Engineer". It is a title that explains what I do.

So what is the job description of a Domestic Engineer?

1) All household duties, including but not limited to, cleaning, laundry, cooking, minor repairs, yard work, and many short notice projects.

2) Arrange transportation for family members to any number and variety of events and responsibility.

3) Care for and clean up after sick children...including spouse who becomes as a child when ill.

4) Comparison shop for all needed household items, including but not limited to, food, cars, car repairs, household repairs, gifts, vacations, and any other need that arises.

5) Handle any urgent matters of the household by whatever means necessary; email, letters, phone calls, etc.

6) Organize the household in such a way that you can find any needed document in a split seconds notice, even if the family member never showed you the needed item.

The pay is lousy, but the benefits package is great. It includes smiles, hugs, kisses, high fives, and late night snuggles to avoid bedtime.

I am so much more than a housewife, or domestic goddess. I know that sometimes it is okay for the house to less than perfect in order to take my princess to the park. I know that I can wear the same shoes another season so that my thoughtful teen can have the new ones that "are to die for". And I know that when the walls are closing in from boredom and illness and frustration that it will all pass and I will look back at this job in years to come with joy and tear-filled eyes.

ColorMeReal ColorMeReal 41-45, F 10 Responses Dec 21, 2007

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ALL YOU CRY BABIES GET OVER IT. I am so sick of my species who have the nerve to whine about this letter from a woman who wrote it in 2007. Women did not get that much respect in 2007 and being a home maker was thought of, "oh, you don't work". If this letter bothers you so much then you need to look at yourself in a mirror, and reflect exactly why this letter or term bothers you, then get over it. Homemakers are not appreciated, and I am a retired Professional, General Manager in the food industries for over 35 years. I am proud to call myself a Domestic Engineer, I am proud of calling myself a home maker, but HOUSE WIFE, excuse me, I married a man, not a house. Now that term is demeaning. So all you "women libbers, insecure cry babies" stop it. Most of you who are commenting are probably in your late or early 20-30 range. Sorry, you have not lived long enough to make these nasty comments and you know nothing of struggling with women's rights. Which means this woman has "the right" to refer to herself as a Domestic Engineer. Think about that one, cry babies.

From a 65 year old woman who has enough self-esteem to carry all of you to hell and back.

The term "Domestic Engineer" is used by people who are insecure or ashamed to say, "homemaker". It's like calling a janitor a "custodial technician". Trying to make what you do sound fancier than what it truly is. I once heard a woman on television being asked what she does for a living and she actually replied with domestic engineer. It was so cringy.

I am surprised that a story written so long ago is getting any attention now. There was never any disrespect meant for any profession. I am, in fact, a counselor by profession. I see no reason to be offended by the name of a story. Guess there is something to the lack of humor in the profession.

Well I can't be a "domestic engineer" because I have a sense of humor. I forgot engineers do NOT have a sense of humor. <br />
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I am a woman who is an engineer. A real engineer. <br />
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I have to fight so many sexist comments and attitudes in my life, because women in my industry are so unheard of. <br />
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Please don't make it any harder for women like me, who study for years, who stick with engineering when they're the only woman in a class room, when men are making "get back to the kitchen" jokes, when employers and fellow students don't take you seriously because of your gender...<br />
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I do all the things you do. I also balance that with my full time career as a mechanical engineer. So please stop making it so much harder for women to be taken seriously in my industry. Would you call yourself a "domestic doctor" or "domestic architect"? No, because they imply much more than home duties. Please consider my profession in the same way, because what you do to make my degree and hard work seem so much less than what it is, and increase the belief that women CAN'T work in my industry, is so terrible for every woman or girl who has to fight those sexist beliefs to do what they love.

gypsylover89: I too am an engineer, and a woman, and I am not the least bit offended by the domestic engineer title. Too bad you are so insecure that this would affect you so greatly. Gimme a break, being a woman in this field is hardly martyrdom. You want to make yourself out to seem so ground breaking, being taken seriously in this industry is completely in within your grasp. If you are having troubles, surely it's not the domestic engineers fault... its 2012 sweetheart and part of being a true feminist is allowing people to be whomever, whatever they please and getting credit for it. A "domestic engineer" does not detract from what you do or highlight all that you don't do. Like a true engineering student you are worried that there is only one "A" to be handed out.... there are lots of "A's" in life, and you don't have to put someone else down to get yours. Get over yourself. There was no sexism in this post until you brought it to the table. I would hate to be one of your coworkers lest you do the same at your place of employment!

To Actual engineer, I would put all my money on it that you would not be able to handle all of the duties belonging to a domestic engineer, and your work as an " actual engineer" how many hours a day do you work? A domestic engineer is on the clock ALWAYS; every minute of every hour of every day of every year, your job desc<x>ription and degree couldnt come close to being equivalent to that of a domestic engineer, so the tilte of "actual engineer" is crap and puts you under that of a domestic engineer and for your coments here deems you a jerk off.

To Actual engineer, I would put all my money on it that you would not be able to handle all of the duties belonging to a domestic engineer, and your work as an " actual engineer" how many hours a day do you work? A domestic engineer is on the clock ALWAYS; every minute of every hour of every day of every year, your job desc<x>ription and degree couldnt come close to being equivalent to that of a domestic engineer, so the tilte of "actual engineer" is crap and puts you under that of a domestic engineer and for your coments here deems you a jerk off.

To Actual engineer, I would put all my money on it that you would not be able to handle all of the duties belonging to a domestic engineer, and your work as an " actual engineer" how many hours a day do you work? A domestic engineer is on the clock ALWAYS; every minute of every hour of every day of every year, your job desc<x>ription and degree couldnt come close to being equivalent to that of a domestic engineer, so the tilte of "actual engineer" is crap and puts you under that of a domestic engineer and for your coments here deems you a jerk off.

you give actual engineers a bad name. <br />
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Actual Engineer: What is your occupation? Do you have a degree? <br />
Domestic Engineer: I'm a domestic engineer, and I have don't have a degree.<br />
Actual Engineer: So you're unemployed and you're not an engineer. <br />
Domestic Engineer: uhmmm...

No, "actual engineers" give engineers a bad name.

of course, you are nothing without a degree right? The value of your contribution to society apparently ends there ....
suckit9999 , it appears you actually do suck it ... a lot ... which clarifies why you are such a moron!

I assure you that it is counter-productive to argue my word choices here. Perhaps you need to look up the definition of the word "engineer" , and see what Mr. Webster had to say about it. On a sidenote, I am neither uneducated or unemployed. It would do you good to stop guessing about things you know nothing about.

Toughest job; lowest paid! ;P