My Personal Story - To All The Female Feminist Haters!I was brought up in a strict old school, Sicilian household. I was taught that I was supposed to be subservient. I was not allowed to express my own opinion. I didn't have any rights.
Both my brothers' education was paid for while I was encouraged to learn to cook and clean. Although I had a high IQ and was very inquisitive, I was told I needed to learn domestic skills and that education was not important. My sole role in life was to be a support to men. Subsequently, my education was not paid for or encouraged.
Both my brothers were not responsible for any domestic chores. I was supposed to serve them, clean up after them and be happy about it. They got to go out and have fun. They got to date and sow their wild oats. I was expected to remain a virgin until marriage.
Women in my culture took the responsibility for their brothers. Some even sacrificed their life. Yes, they didn't get married and sacrificed their life trying to financially support them while their brother's could be irresponsible. However, because I didn't do so, I was labeled a rebel.
I was also solely responsible for a man's response to me. So yes, if I got raped,it was my fault. I must have done something to encourage him. So I tried very hard not to be attractive but sometimes no matter how hard I tried I still came across as attractive to men and apparently it was MY fault. I almost got raped when I was 17 and I was grounded for a year because of it.
I thank feminism for giving me a voice. No, they are not always right! No, men are not always jerks. And women are not better than men But I am happy they gave me a voice. I am happy that they gave me the me the opportunity for education and freedom of choice. That I now know that I don't have to serve men and can be myself.
I am a fairly traditional and ejoy nurturing children/ relationships and I like making my house a home. But I also know that I can have opinions; I can have a career if I want and I can have choices and a voice.
In some cases I think that feminism has gone too far. When feminism puts down good men and says that they are inferior this is just ignorant. But let us not forget all the wonderful things feminism has done for women too. Let's just be balanced and agree that women and men are a partnership and complimentary.
lagatta 41-45, F 13 Responses 15 Aug 14, 2012