Why Is That Such a Bad Thing to So Many Women?

Why is it so bad to trust a man to run a household? Why is it so bad to be a stay-at-home mom? Women who do these things do it because they want to! Isn't that what feminism was supposed to be all about? A woman's right to choose her lifestyle? I think the feminist movement has mutated in an ugly way when career women without families look down their noses at mothers who just want to take care of their children. And so many feminists talk about how they think women should be superior to men! It's emasculating the way feminists treat men in this day and age. I recall an incident where a man held a door open for a woman- a simple act of politeness and chivalry. She proceeded to yell at him and accuse him of being a chauvinist who didn't think women could rely on themselves. How humiliating for him, and how undeserved! I think women should have a choice of what they want to do with their lives, but there are some borders you just shouldn't cross, like when it comes to sports and such... it's biologically true that women are typically not as physically strong as men. End of story. There are things women are better at than men- the men aren't pushing their noses in and trying for "equality"! I think today's feminists just don't get it. They don't see the big picture, that men have their strengths and women have their own as well, and neither one can do EVERYTHING.
Christabel Christabel
18-21, F
13 Responses Jul 26, 2007

I agree with you that the feminist movement has become very ugly. Career women do look down on housewives as if we are of inferior intelligence or importance to society. My choice is to be a wife and a mother. I agree that feminism has become emasculating to men. I think men need to be the head of the household and the breadwinner in order to fulfill deep seated needs for self-esteem, things that are genetically built in. The event you discussed about the woman getting angry about a man holding open the door for her is not a singular event involving only one woman acting like a jerk. It is the way most feminists I've ever met act and I have even seen cartoons about it in major newspapers. It is commonplace nowadays, and it is sad. the feminist movement has done some good, I admit, such as gaining us the right to vote and equal pay when we choose to have a career. But the notion that career women are superior to housewives is ludicrous. Personally, I like being a housewife, making the home safe, peaceful, and inviting for the man I love, who goes out and faces the stresses of the world to keep me safe. I finally met a man I want to have children with. He says being a wife and mother is the greatest job in the world, and I agree!:)

There is a difference in the women's rights movement and the feminist movement. Feminist like to take credit for earning the right to vote and the like. They like to take credit for those good things to legitimize their movement and hide their true intentions.

I agree with you. I especially hate that people can't be a stay at home mum anymore without being looked down on.

Like most -isms, there is a difference between feminists and Feminists. And there's lots of differences between different sorts of Feminist. And a lot of people who call themelves Feminists aren't feminists...<br />
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Small-f-feminism is simply the (nowadays rather misnamed, something like anti-sexist might be clearer) belief that people should not be expected to make certain choices based on their sex. It doesn't force you "out of the kitchen" if that's where you want to be, just gives you other options!

I'd vote for Obama or Hillary, whichever makes it to the plate. I just don't want to see Mr. Burns get elected while we're in such a weak and critical situation.<br />
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I don't think we're ready for a black president OR a female president. But I don't think we will be until it happens. But if McCain gets elected, I'll probably cry and have nightmares. I'm not kidding. I cried and had nightmares when Bush was re-elected.<br />
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Anyways, I just wanted to say I support the feminism that is about women making their own choices. And if a woman told me off for holding the door open for her, I'd point out that I hold the door open for men too, and that she can't resent me for being nice. And if she had an attitude about it I would probably make her look like an idiot. I hate people with bad attitudes and I love to make them look stupid in public.

What that women did was completely rude. She did it because she was a jerk, not because she was a feminist. There are Christians, Muslims, vegetarians, dentists, circus performers, pro-life activistists and bus drives that are ar jerks. It has less to do with their beliefs and more to do with their individual personalities.<br />
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My best friend is a Palestinian Muslim. She wears the traditional head covering (you can still see her face, lol!) and she believes in traditional roles for men and women. However, she also understands that women regardless of what religious texts and tradition say must be able to make their own decisions. If they decide that their husband should be the head of the household, then that's great. If they don't think that's right, then they just won't marry a man with super-traditional ideals. My friend is against abortion (she's against outlawing it though) and she shaves her legs and loves wearing feminine clothes. However, she maintains her idenitity as a feminist, because she knows that if she doesn't, she is giving up her right to speak out when women around the world are wronged.<br />
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Yeah, I would love it if Hillary was elected, but I agree with Celanin. America is NOT ready for a woman to break that glass ceiling. No way.

It gets a bit old actually all these isms. Humans are humans. They vary by size, age, gender, shape, colour, ability, beliefs...and a whole lot of other things. How about treating everyone as a human, no more and no less, and dealing with the details separately. <br />
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Oh and by the way I once heard a good line "Feminism is the radical idea that women are people too".

as much as i support hilary clinton, there's no way she has a real chance. keep in mind that nobody is talking about how rudy giuliani is looking "pear-shaped," "outspoken," or "ambitious." i was driving home today and saw a barn that has been painted for years "HILARY STAY HOME." things are most definitely different for women.

Why do you say that? I think she has a fairly good chance. There are a lot of people saying they're ready for a female president, a lot of people like her. After the bad run the country has had with George Bush Jr., I think there are many people who will refuse to vote for a Republican for fear that things will continue on the same road they've been on, so as Hillary is a Democrat and one of the most popular candidates, I think there's a fair chance she'll take the presidency. I'm not voting for her myself, but my reasons for that have nothing to do with her gender.

Actually if you've been following, Hillary has been dominating the Democratic polls so far. And I don't think that's a great deal beside the point.

Maybe you're right, TardyDodo; I realize that there are a lot of different ideals of feminist women nowadays... I just feel that the feminist movement (or at least the part of it I've been talking about) has been partially responsible for some of the problems in society. I believe in equal rights for everyone, but not specifically for women, so I still would not consider myself a feminist. I think part of it goes along with my disdain for overbearing political correctness, and what I wrote above is just what I've seen.

No you hit the nail on the head the first time. Read my story "my favorite feminist quotes."

I think you're misrepresenting feminism, to some extent. The movement still encompasses a broad spectrum of beliefs, and individual women's actions can't be held up as examples of what is in truth a very broad set of ideals. I think it's certainly true that parts of the movement have gone down a very destructive and counterproductive path, but that doesn't mean people should chuck the baby out with the bathwater, so to speak.

Amen sister! =)

wow! she YELLED at him for his polite manner? thats unbelievable! one should never automatically assume another persons behavior as offensive if their action is commonly regarded as polite.

It happens all the time. This isn't unusual. Just another example of the world we live in.