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I Just Want To Feel Appreciated

I hate it when I am the only person to do EVERYTHING around the house when the other 4 members of the family are capable of taking care of themselves! The thing is, I don't mind doing it, but it's the feeling of being taken for granted that gets me mad! There are no "thank yous". no hugs or kisses. I just want to feel appreciated for what I do so that I can feel loved also ..
earthboundangel earthboundangel 36-40, F 5 Responses Jan 7, 2011

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I know exactly how you feel. I do everything in my house, the cooking, cleaning, laundry, I take my kids to school and pick up, to all sports, activities, dentist, doctors, and orthodontist appointments. I volunteer at the school and pay all the bills. I have a dog and cat that I myself take care of. I work partially at home and 2 days in the office which is usually 32-37 hours a week, plus I do all invoices, bills, bank statements and any other paperwork needed for 2 companies that my husband owns. My husband goes to work and comes home and eats dinner and lays down, usually for the night. I am so frustrated and I just don't like him anymore. We have been together for 25 years and married for 18 of them. I don't know why I have stayed so long, well mainly for the kids. I would just love for someone to do something for me, just the little things, maybe a, I can cook or clean up tonight, or just a surprise slurpee to be brought home for me. Slurpees are my favorite drink. I have just had a bad day and it feels good to tell someone how I feel. I don't talk about it much because I don't want to complain about the same things over and over. Your not alone, we can always share or just complain.

I spent all morning cleaning the house, I try to tell my family to keep things clean because I notice the house and the bathrooms that I just finished cleaning not 10 min. ago are getting dirt again. I ask them agai to please clean up after themselves because I just finished cleaning when my dad calls my name and tells me "better that you don't clean at all then remind us that you cleaned the bath room. I rather it be filthy then have you *****." I just coul not believe that he said that to me..I feel so unappreciated And I feel sad. I hate that he is so mean to me when I try my best to make him happy.

I appreciate you!!

omg its the same at my house. except its just my mom. i feel like i have to do everything cuz i have no job and i dont see any other way of helpin out. i never hear a thank you and when i do i have to tell her what all i did..she wouldnt noticed if i did tell her. and also what gets me is if like i dont do something for a few days she starts b i t c h i n g bout how i dont do nothing to help out and i lose all credit for the s h i t i did jus the other day. this s h i t really makes me hate being home still...

I am sorry you feel this way at home. Please remember that although your mom is bitching at you all the time, she probably does not intend to or realise that she is making you feel unappreciated. Moms gets busy and has a lot on their minds so just try not to take her bitching as a personal attack... take it as a "mom thing". I am sure she loves you! (((((( hugssssss )))))

i understand... nt totally but partially in de same boat... i try 2 b d best in everything for every1 nt only in home bt among my frndz as well... bt at de end... i stand nowhere coz other who dun care or do anythin as special as i prepare things 4 dem... they alwayz show their marked difference kidna thing! :( i also dunno wta 2 do... bt dis is lyf... if we want 2 spedn our tym thinkin abt nt being appreciated... it will lead us nowhere bt ending up lyk me... wid depression n mental disorders! b happy wid hw gud u r 2 ppl though tehy dun understand coz God has sent us here wid loadz of benefits 2 b able to share, give away wat we cud do 2 others... if its nt returnin on tym... hopefully deir wud b a tym when u'll get all de fruits at once in a better picture n sumwhere more useful! cheer up! :)