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I Am Not Close With My Father

I've Tried For Years............

By: WynsHeart
Written on May 25th, 2011
    

A "Daddy's Girl", I'll never be. I'm not sure why but it seems my father just doesn't know how to be a father. At least not to me. He's a great uncle, brother, but father seems to confuse him to no end. I use to think if I was just smart enough, thin enough, pretty enough, that maybe, just maybe he'd notice me. He never did. My one flaw was I was born a girl. I guess being born a girl wasn't what he wanted. He hasn't remembered my birthday since I was born, Christmas presents, birthdays, all the special occasions when there would be something from "daddy" was my mom's doing. She didn't want me to know that he never cared enough to do those little things to celebrate my life. He just doesn't care. I've come to grips with it but it still hurts & I still find myself trying to be perfect so that no other man I love will ever find me lacking.... like my father does.

I know it's stupid, but a woman needs to know her daddy loves her. It can screw up her whole self image & the way she looks at men & the world when he doesn't acknowledge her or even care enough to spend the time getting to know her.

TO ALL THE FATHERS OUT THERE READING THIS, LOVE YOUR KIDS. SPEND TIME WITH THEM. LET THEM KNOW THAT NO MATTER WHAT MAY HAPPEN BETWEEN YOU & THEIR MOTHER, YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE THEM. IT'S IMPORTANT......... MORE IMPORTANT THAN I CAN EVER EXPRESS THROUGH WORDS. BE THERE & ALWAYS CARE ENOUGH TO LEARN WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO THEM! THEY'RE ONLY CHILDREN FOR A SHORT TIME BUT HOW YOU DEAL WITH THEM CAN MARK THEM FOR LIFE. MAKE SURE IT'S A GOOD MARK. PLEASE!
By: WynsHeart
Age: 36-40 , Female
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  • heiwa
    heiwa

    You have put it so well. I wish I could express myself in these words. There is nothing like getting your sense of self worth from your father, a thing I sorely miss in my life.



    Love and peace.

    Jul 29, 2011
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  • accomplice
    accomplice

    You're absolutely right.



    Often the relationship with their fathers can effect how women see themselves -- their body, their mind, their worth as a person. It can influence what type of person they will chose as a mate, and will influence the dynamics of those relationships.



    I never miss an opportunity to tell my girls how wonderful I think they are, how proud of them I am, how smart they are, how beautiful they are, and how special they are -- not just because I tell them so, but because they are!



    Both my girls have abundance of self-confidence. If I am to err in any direction, let it be this one.

    Jun 2, 2011
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  • AliceeChick
    AliceeChick

    I think your right and i found this inspirational :) i am goign to write a blog about my expeeriences with my father if you wanna check it out :)xxx

    Jun 2, 2011
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