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I'm the same whether it's here on EP or anywhere on-line, while I am on Instant messenger or the phone. I use my real photos and location here as I do elsewhere. EP has a great community overall, albeit that there are always a few scammers, fakes, drama queens, petty gossipers, agitators and, unfortunately, even psychos here and most anywhere else one might go. 

For the latter, while remembering that the vast majority of persons I have talked to have been fun, interesting, genuine, and any number of positive things one might say, I have noticed that virtually any problem I have had with others invariable involves those using an Avatar or otherwise obscured image (usually be extensive cropping so just showing a pair of lips or eyes) to hide behind.

Part of the appeal of EP is the relative anonymity that it provides in expressing oneself without concern for reprisals or  the like. However, there are those few that abuse this and act with impunity in their words, with their  judgments and accusations, assumption and declarations. Opinions and assumptions can and are leveled against others as if they already a well proven fact.

Now, I've many decent and admirable friends who use an Avatar of some sort and I am sure that often there is a good reason. This is not an issue if it is not abused. The key to being most successful in this or any endeavor in life, especially dealing with inter-personal relationships, was best said by the Genie in the Disney animated movie Aladdin, when Genie urged Aladdin to "Beeeee yourself!" 

There seems a penchant for what ever small percentage of people that do seem to abuse an Avatar to say and do things that they would not if they were speaking to my (or other people's) face. I call this the "Keyboard Kommando" syndrome. This is kinda like "Beer muscles" in actions or "Beer Goggles" in perceptions. Perceptions that may well be skewered, but taken for action as absolutely valid observation despite evidence or facts to the contrary. In other words, it lends itself to knee-jerk reactions and even cowardly behavior. The worst outcome are from those who never bother to ask for clarification or information nor bother to, at the very least, to see what the other side of the story might be.

I'm a grown man; I've paid my dues, served my country, did the community involvements things, Boy Scout Leaders and all that, and while raising 2 boys into fine young men who are polite, respectful, and intelligent members of society while attending college full time on scholarships.

Unlike certain others, I am very open minded, very tolerant and am not judgmental on other peoples wants, likes, fetishes, deviancies or life styles. I DO care if they are interesting and intelligent, and contribute too. I don't care how hot some female may be, if she is vapid or ignorant I don't waste any time with them, as the other wise sexy exterior is then worthless in my opinion.

Nor do I add people simply to see their pics and typically won't even look at them until I get to know them a bit. What's the point if I happened to make an error and she is ugly on the inside? If that is the case, then the outside is worthless-at least to me. Also, I do not care to add just to collect friends, so if my list gets too large, it is simply from being too lazy to cull the deadwood.

Okay, so long story short-just be yourself and I will too. When in doubt-ask! We don't have to agree on everything and share all of the same interests and views. In fact, that would be boring! So I have joined some groups that I have no particular interest in, but may be curious about finding out more about it, or how that works, and some others that I may be actively curious about or interested in-but either hardly makes me in that lifestyle...yet others may speak of preferences and lifestyle choices or pursuits. 

At the same time, don't just assume based on these choices or anything else, if you would be so kind. Feel free to drop me a line. Ask, and we could discuss it and end up being great friends-and I am a good friend to have too; reasonably intelligent, articulate, fun, witty, non judgmental, with common sense, and perhaps more importantly; I am typically polite, considerate and well mannered.  I do not gossip and I keep any personal items or secrets safe with me. It's just the way I am. About the only thing I really cannot stomach (literally) that seems to be common here is scat play. Sorry, that just makes me want to vomit.

Other than that, feel free to give me a try, as I will you the same consideration in return. If you do not end up exchanging or engaging, then feel free to remove me as i would you too, we can always try it again when we've more time or wot now, so no hard feelings at all :)