Unhappily Married

WoW!! What do u mean we all live in the same house?.

Maybe your husband feels the same way. Have you ever went to counseling together? I lived with my first husband for 22 years and was always unhappy, I loved him for the fact that we had a child but I was never in-love with him. I finally decided after all of those years taking medication for depression, going to counseling, praying and everything else that I tried, to leave as my child was starting college. I did not stay single long and remarried the third person I had dated after my divorce. Now we have been married for four years and have had many, many upsetting moments in our marriage (gutting our first house which still isn't finished, letting a number of relatives live with us while we paid the bills, almost losing our home from him accumulating a lot of debt and filing bankruptcy, always living paycheck to paycheck, my husband lying or I think cheating for a period of time), my list could go on but this time instead of falling into my own depression, I looked at the fact that he was obviously depressed on some level and decided that I really love this man. I made differences in our home by doing simple decorating which is hard to do when rooms are not finished, took control of the finances, made a rule that no one stays with us longer than a week and set many other ground rules. Our life now is far from perfect but we now communicate more, enjoy our home more and enjoy each other more. My husband was just waiting for someone to take control of our out of control situation. I hope that this helps. If you truly are in love with your husband then you can make this work, if you think that you are not then make careful choices before jumping into single life.

I could have written your first 9 sentences. I wish I had an answer.