Cut All the Drama About Pervs, Ladies. It's So Old.

I think they're very emotionally confused, and generally don't even realise they're manipulating others because they choose believe in whatever they say so strongly because it can rid them of blame in the end if anything happens. I understand what you say, and I see it a lot myself. Apart from that, almost everyone is a pervert to some extent. Labeling someone as a pervert is very limiting, there's more to a person that that usually.

I agree,good to see "some of these women"

Well I've gotten a handful and they seem to do it regardless of me putting my real pic, even this owl pic or looking at my experiences! It's disgusting! This isn't a s.ex site so it gets kinda creepy and uncomfortable! Unless you've gotten messages and pics of their d¡cks that gets sh¡tbombed in your messages, you won't fully understand! But a great post made me think!

Verbose

lol it's kinda true some put pictures with them almost naked and they complain about receiving sick messages ...oh come on...

Most of the guys I talk to are very polite and gentlemanly

Now this one I would say you have kinda of a point, not so sure about the "often time" , bit of a broad stroke for me to say that. No idea of the numbers of females you are talking about but think I understand where you are coming from. I had commented to a male friend that I could not understand why I would be getting certain types of men adding me, eg overtly sexual, into wife sharing blah blah blah. I was like where on my profile does it list that I share those interests !!! And he pointed out that my profile was actually quite sexual at a glance, so yeah had to tweak that. The sexual content is still there, just moved around a bit, not first thing you see. Also I have to accept that some people on my friends' list are indeed, openly very sexual people, they stay, more to them than sex lol. So I was trying to explain this point to a female member last night, if you have a sexy avatar ie showing some flesh, you have to accept you WILL get a lot of attention and not all of it nice. Does NOT make it right, and yes sure it can be wearing for them. But milkshakes do bring all the boys to the yard. Hey if it did not work why would do some men use the same style of avatar themselves !!! It would help if people were respectful when contacting other members, perhaps that is part of the problem. But if you attract a crowd a few of them are going to be rude and crude.

"Often times these women are just the types who are specifically on a networking site just to talk about sex and their love for sex anyway, yet don't want men messaging them about it. But I discovered that many of these women sending those warnings often put their real pictures on their pages and really only like to give those warnings just to make you think that they're beautiful in the eyes of many men and that men send them inappropriate messages much less often than they really do, if at all. "

I am not guilty of committing any of those crimes. I never had posted a picture of myself on my page (except for 2 FUNNY ones I uploaded like 2 days ago). You can thoroughly read all of my stories and you will not find any dirty stuff in it, except for the times when I am kidding (but it is 100% obvious I am only fooling around because my tone makes it so obvious). However, I do agree with you. There are some women out there who are like that but it's not fair to paint us all with the same brush. Why not write an article discouraging pervs from contacting us? The reason why *I* name and shame pervs is because when I first joined EP, three men were sexually harassing me on my white board and inbox as well. I had no pictures of me up back then, either. I was ignoring them. I literally never said anything to them, except asking them to stop messaging me. When they continued harassing me, I blocked all three men and that's when I decided to start naming and shaming pervs so any man who DARES to contact me knows what's going to happen to him...and...not surprisingly, it's worked. I haven't received a single perverted messaging after exposing a perv in the Q&A section not too long ago.

I had starting getting lewd and suggestive personal messages but then I deleted my account and all my stories. Recently I came back to EP and have joined select few groups and written even fewer stories. Even though I am using the very same name that I was using before, I have yet to receive any unwanted emails. I am changing how and what I write about on this site and I'm sure I won't find it necessary to block anyone, again.

To me, this is kind of like when someone says: "OMG, I SERIOUSLY hate drama", you can almost be sure that they're often involved in the drama themselves.

An interesting observation Nate. I suspect that some of what you say applies to some of the woman who protest ... but equally there are those who are genuinely pestered continually. Personally, I have the "can't contact me if you're not in my circle" button well and truly pressed and it stops all the nonsense. I get something like ten new fans a day, all of whom are attracted by the fact that I have a "red dot" and are obviously up for it with every male in town (!) ... since most of the fans are called "hugedick" or "uluvbigguns" or "mypenisisthebest" it's pretty obvious what kind of contact and friendship they have in mind. But it's all par for the course on the internet ... and I never add any of these fine specimens to my circle unless one of them really takes my fancy and comments on stories and tries to communicate (I make them work for it you see!). This probably makes me sound like a terrible prima donna .. but I do see both sides of it .. However, all's fair in EPLand I suppose and you have to take the rough with the smooth.

Yes, I have seen the disclaimers on a woman's profile, but really...I felt they needed to have them there as the men here can be relentless....I have received messages from many undesirables...so I understand! However, I do understand where you are coming from! Thanks for posting this!!!

I like the way you think, turning it around like that

You clearly have thought this through much deeper than I ... and arrived at a much different conclusion. I guess I tend to believe people are honest and that anyone making such a claim, man or woman, would be sincere. Who knows ... but I know I won't over think it ... or assume they are as you depict them.

One of my friends said "you get back what you put out there" and now i bear that in mind with every action i make...........

I had not considered your thoughts until I read this and you are correct,I see many women saying those things in their profile...I will always wonder from now on when they post such a thing.

Interesting. No doubt plenty of women are being approached by the sex creeps; however, I think when you post a warning it acts more as a magnet rather than deter. Creeps are persistent and revel in annoyance -- getting in the last word "Oh, so you're not here for sex? Well, I'm going to send you a message anyway." Easier to ignore or block.

Wow, I really had no idea. I always thought they were just uptight and unable to figure out how to laugh off the dirty picture and hit the block button.

So, basically you're saying that these drama queens are trying to make them appear more popular & desired than they really are just to get more attention? I can see that.

If these women are having such an issue with this problem....there's an easy solution. Don't allow messages from anyone outside their circle...and screen those who want to be friends.

Problem solved!

I bet none of them would take my suggestion though.....after all they are drama queens.