I Am Not Here To Please You
I have been stewing on this for a bit...I am truly a people pleaser..I want everyone to be happy with me. THIS is going to STOP right here and now.
Let me begin by saying this:
I love the friends I have made here, old and new!.. I am grateful for the support, love, laughs that they bring me daily and I truly love when I can do the same for them. I try my best to keep up and I am usually signed in on a daily basis..so this is not tough for me to do...
HOWEVER....recently I have been going through quite a rough patch..I am slowly coming out of what I think was a depression onset by the hormones during my pregnancy...I have spent the last 6 months in a fog. I have been parked in front of my laptop at home stuck in my own world...not getting out to see the sun...not wanting to do anything other than be on here...THIS IS NOT HEALTHY..( no this is not PPD ..)
I have 2 children who require my love and attention..I NEED to come back to this world FOR THEM and for ME! I need to find my happiness and figure out my marriage....
These are the things I deal with in my world on a daily basis....
I come here to write, escape, have fun ..laugh with my EPeeps!...
With all of this said now I will begin with the part that some of you may not like...
I recently added some new people to my circle...as we all know I do not add everyone..so if I add you then it means you are interesting to me and I would like to get to know you....
HERE ARE SOME THINGS TO REMEMBER:
1. I will NOT get to ALL of your stories right away.....I WILL glance through them and read some of them ..BUT I MAY NOT COMMENT RIGHT AWAY... in fact I DO NOT REQUIRE NEW PEOPLE TO GO READING EVERYTHING I WROTE IN A SPECIFIC TIME frame!
( I recently had someone remove me because I did not interact or read or comment on their stories fast enough...so therefore I was a waste of time....mind you..this was in the middle of having my heart ripped from my chest...this was VERY EVIDENT by my status updates and stories being written..IT WAS CLEAR as DAY that I was going through something rough, hard, debilitating..I sent a message asking why I had been removed, as I was baffled ..when I explained that I was sorry and had been not communicating with anyone really AT ALL they did not seem to give a rats arse...all they cared about was that I had not commented on their stories or interacted with them to their liking)
You know what?...how absolutely rude...Did they not notice that I was a wreck? Maybe I should have removed them from my circle because they did not pay a bit of attention to my status update in their face.....GET REAL...
2. I try to respond to all pm's in a timely manner....because I like when my messages or e-mails are responded to in a timely manner...BUT again... this IS NOT my top priority.. and even if I am signed in that does NOT mean I am at the computer or able to respond to a long message that requires a bit of thought and time...DO NOT assume that because you see me signed in that I will answer you right away..MY CHILDREN ARE MY PRIORITY their needs always come first...NOT your damn PM...
I am angry as you can see...I am angry that I lost a circle member that I was truly interested in communicating with because they were so impatient and could not take a moment to see that I was in a bad place...GOOD Gosh everyone else in my circle knew that I was NOT OK...so how can you miss that?...I am NOT here to please YOU...and be on YOUR time schedule of responding ....I do not need to be harrased about responding to your messages.. I certainly do not need reminders every other day about your message that I did not respond to yet!
Harrassment of this nature will result in removal ...I am not attempting to be rude, or a *****..I am simply being realistic...
I interact daily..I am a good listener..I love meeting new people..I am friendly and I do pay attention to ALL of my friends...I may not get to you every day ...I may not answer a message right away...this does not mean I am ignoring you or unintersted...it means I have other things going on...
I m sorry if you feel offended by any of my words here..I am sorry if you think this is about you...(if you think it is it might be)...I just want to put it out there that I am not here to please anyone..and if anyone does not like it they can hit the road..I am done being a door mat...tired of allowing people to manage my time for me....and tired of people who DO NOT PAY ENOUGH ATTENTION TO KNOW THAT RIGHT NOW YOUR private message is at the bottom of my list of things to worry about! (doesn't mean reading my stories but glancing over my status is a pretty damn clear view)
Rant over...for now
Let me begin by saying this:
I love the friends I have made here, old and new!.. I am grateful for the support, love, laughs that they bring me daily and I truly love when I can do the same for them. I try my best to keep up and I am usually signed in on a daily basis..so this is not tough for me to do...
HOWEVER....recently I have been going through quite a rough patch..I am slowly coming out of what I think was a depression onset by the hormones during my pregnancy...I have spent the last 6 months in a fog. I have been parked in front of my laptop at home stuck in my own world...not getting out to see the sun...not wanting to do anything other than be on here...THIS IS NOT HEALTHY..( no this is not PPD ..)
I have 2 children who require my love and attention..I NEED to come back to this world FOR THEM and for ME! I need to find my happiness and figure out my marriage....
These are the things I deal with in my world on a daily basis....
I come here to write, escape, have fun ..laugh with my EPeeps!...
With all of this said now I will begin with the part that some of you may not like...
I recently added some new people to my circle...as we all know I do not add everyone..so if I add you then it means you are interesting to me and I would like to get to know you....
HERE ARE SOME THINGS TO REMEMBER:
1. I will NOT get to ALL of your stories right away.....I WILL glance through them and read some of them ..BUT I MAY NOT COMMENT RIGHT AWAY... in fact I DO NOT REQUIRE NEW PEOPLE TO GO READING EVERYTHING I WROTE IN A SPECIFIC TIME fr
( I recently had someone remove me because I did not interact or read or comment on their stories fast enough...so therefore I was a waste of time....mind you..this was in the middle of having my heart ripped from my chest...this was VERY EVIDENT by my status updates and stories being written..IT WAS CLEAR as DAY that I was going through something rough, hard, debilitating..I sent a message asking why I had been removed, as I was baffled ..when I explained that I was sorry and had been not communicating with anyone really AT ALL they did not seem to give a rats arse...all they cared about was that I had not commented on their stories or interacted with them to their liking)
You know what?...how absolutely rude...Did they not notice that I was a wreck? Maybe I should have removed them from my circle because they did not pay a bit of attention to my status update in their face.....GET REAL...
2. I try to respond to all pm's in a timely manner....because I like when my messages or e-mails are responded to in a timely manner...BUT again... this IS NOT my top priority.. and even if I am signed in that does NOT mean I am at the computer or able to respond to a long message that requires a bit of thought and time...DO NOT assume that because you see me signed in that I will answer you right away..MY CHILDREN ARE MY PRIORITY their needs always come first...NOT your damn PM...
I am angry as you can see...I am angry that I lost a circle member that I was truly interested in communicating with because they were so impatient and could not take a moment to see that I was in a bad place...GOOD Gosh everyone else in my circle knew that I was NOT OK...so how can you miss that?...I am NOT here to please YOU...and be on YOUR time schedule of responding ....I do not need to be harrased about responding to your messages.. I certainly do not need reminders every other day about your message that I did not respond to yet!
Harrassment of this nature will result in removal ...I am not attempting to be rude, or a *****..I am simply being realistic...
I interact daily..I am a good listener..I love meeting new people..I am friendly and I do pay attention to ALL of my friends...I may not get to you every day ...I may not answer a message right away...this does not mean I am ignoring you or unintersted...it means I have other things going on...
I m sorry if you feel offended by any of my words here..I am sorry if you think this is about you...(if you think it is it might be)...I just want to put it out there that I am not here to please anyone..and if anyone does not like it they can hit the road..I am done being a door mat...tired of allowing people to manage my time for me....and tired of people who DO NOT PAY ENOUGH ATTENTION TO KNOW THAT RIGHT NOW YOUR private message is at the bottom of my list of things to worry about! (doesn't mean reading my stories but glancing over my status is a pretty damn clear view)
Rant over...for now