We just can't connect. I find them to be very exclusive always talking about their missionary trips and they make me feel left out...I am close to one girl but that's about it. They have sent missionaries to my house trying to convert us...but when they knew they couldn't convert us they gave up. We have good relationships, but I don't think we'll ever to bond on a personal level.
I wish I had some spiritual relatives who understand where I'm coming from, it would be nice to have some cousins where I can be able to share and fellowship...cause you can't fellowship unless you are in the same boat...no one is on my boat. I pray that maybe I can be an inspiration to them regardless of how deep in their faith they can be. I've realized that being a born again Christian, I have a passion for God...not just the true church. I don't undermind them, I just wish they see the things the way I did and I don't blame them...if they were raised one way its hard to change their beliefs and faith.
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Posted Feb 6th, 2008 at 9:41PM I guess you can consider yourself lucky then. My faith and theirs don't match therefore we don't relate on that level...sure it shouldn't get in the way but for me I just feel that it has, not so much as me seeing them different but them seeing me differently cause I'm passionate about Jesus. Maybe it wouldn't be a problem for people who aren't passionate about their faith. Everybody has different experiences. This is just mine. | |
Posted Jun 23rd, 2008 at 3:38AM My heart goes out to you. Have you tried to find common ground? As a mormon, married to a man whose family are "born again" tool. I had the same problem you did, only opposite, because I am the mormon. They thought I was weird, they also thought I belonged to an evil church. But it is just not true, I shared with them my belief in Christ, who he is, what he did for all of us, I shared my love and my absolute devotion to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We found our common ground through the one who loves us all. We set aside the book of mormon, and only discuss the bible. I told them how I felt, they agreed to set up ground rules so that neither one of us would feel left out, or offended. It has made for a beautiful relationship with them. We have centered our thoughts on Christ. I love it, it means so much to me that they were willing to see how I felt. Now we can talk about so many things, and I can even share some of my "mormon" beliefs without offense, they know I am not trying to convert them, that it is just part of me and they have learned to accept it. My husband is also a member, which in the beginning cause MAJOR problems with his family, but 10 years later we are all doing wonderfully as a family and respect one another. I know they love me, and they know I love them. We realized that both of us were on fire wanting to share what meant the world to us, because we loved the other. Trying to convert should be felt in love, your cousins sent the missionaries because the love you. Accept that, tell them you know they love you, and tell them your testimony/witness of Christ. Let them know you appreciate that they cared enough for you to share there church with you, but you are where you need to be. Let them know you would love to have conversations that uplifted you both, where the Spirit of the Lord is shared. Tell them that you love God, and all that he has done for you. Keep the doors open with them. We are all Gods children regardless of what religion we are. We all have truths, so find the common ground. Oh, let them know the "Mormon Lingo" makes you feel left out - ask them to explain the things you don't understand, and love them even though they have some different ideas then you. Your Jesus is the same as their Jesus. Find the spiritual truths you can share together. They probably have NO idea how often they say things that confuse you, or are mormon words. You might find that you all have more in common then you know. where do they live? Utah? Anyway, if you EVER need someone to vent to, I am a willing participant. Even though I am mormon, I would be glad to be a sounding board for you. Just keep loving them, try to understand them, and share your experiences with them. We all have moments where the Spirit testifies to our hearts. Share those with them. Those experience are missionary moments for all involved and we can all learn from them no matter what church we go to . | |
Posted Jun 23rd, 2008 at 3:46AM My heart goes out to you. Have you tried to find common ground? As a mormon, married to a man whose family are "born again" tool. I had the same problem you did, only opposite, because I am the mormon. They thought I was weird, they also thought I belonged to an evil church. But it is just not true, I shared with them my belief in Christ, who he is, what he did for all of us, I shared my love and my absolute devotion to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. We found our common ground through the one who loves us all. We set aside the book of mormon, and only discuss the bible. I told them how I felt, they agreed to set up ground rules so that neither one of us would feel left out, or offended. It has made for a beautiful relationship with them. We have centered our thoughts on Christ. I love it, it means so much to me that they were willing to see how I felt. Now we can talk about so many things, and I can even share some of my "mormon" beliefs without offense, they know I am not trying to convert them, that it is just part of me and they have learned to accept it. My husband is also a member, which in the beginning cause MAJOR problems with his family, but 10 years later we are all doing wonderfully as a family and respect one another. I know they love me, and they know I love them. We realized that both of us were on fire wanting to share what meant the world to us, because we loved the other. Trying to convert should be felt in love, your cousins sent the missionaries because the love you. Accept that, tell them you know they love you, and tell them your testimony/witness of Christ. Let them know you appreciate that they cared enough for you to share there church with you, but you are where you need to be. Let them know you would love to have conversations that uplifted you both, where the Spirit of the Lord is shared. Tell them that you love God, and all that he has done for you. Keep the doors open with them. We are all Gods children regardless of what religion we are. We all have truths, so find the common ground. Oh, let them know the "Mormon Lingo" makes you feel left out - ask them to explain the things you don't understand, and love them even though they have some different ideas then you. Your Jesus is the same as their Jesus. Find the spiritual truths you can share together. They probably have NO idea how often they say things that confuse you, or are mormon words. You might find that you all have more in common then you know. where do they live? Utah? Anyway, if you EVER need someone to vent to, I am a willing participant. Even though I am mormon, I would be glad to be a sounding board for you. Just keep loving them, try to understand them, and share your experiences with them. We all have moments where the Spirit testifies to our hearts. Share those with them. Those experience are missionary moments for all involved and we can all learn from them no matter what church we go to . | |
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