Don't Think I'll Be Able To Handle It :-(

I have hard enough time dealing and caring about myself and I'm nowhere near being able to bring a child into my life.

I can't have children myself but I've often thought about adopting a child.

I just don't think I could handle taking care of another human being 24/7. I'm so scared that I'll end up like my mother, taking my frustrations out on the child like my mom did to me. Sadly I couldn't even take care of a Chihuahua dog She's the most adorable being I've encountered but after taking care of her for 2 years I had to find a way to release her from my care and tricked my grandma to take her. She took her and they adore each other to pieces and she's now my grandma's companion and I go visit them as often as I can, she's only a few minutes away.

If I can't take care of a pet then I'm most definitely incapable of taking care of a child...

I do want to work in a orphanage either in India or Africa. I want to HELP take care of unwanted children.

Maybe if I ever get myself in a good and stable condition in the future and have found a spouse I may adopt or become a foster parent.... just not in the near future....

Spiritsinger Spiritsinger
31-35, F
3 Responses Feb 23, 2010

I agree with your assessment that if you don't have it in you to take proper care of a pet, you probably have no business trying to be a parent. (Personally, I think anyone who's planning to become a parent should consider having a pet first as a test run of sorts.) As I mentioned in my own story for this group, a child is not something you can simply fob off on someone else if you realize that it's not working out even though some people do that anyway. In my estimation, that's one of the very worst things which a parent can possibly do to a child because the child will almost certainly blame himself or herself for it as young children often do and believe that the parent did it out of anger over some flaw within the child when nothing could be further from the truth. Such an experience has a significant potential to mark a person for life...I know, because it happened to someone in my family (even though I didn't find out about it until I was older) and I don't think he ever completely got over it. You deserve a ton of credit for having the wisdom to realize all this beforehand instead of after the fact -- there are a lot of people who can't say the same, who had children without taking the time beforehand to ask themselves whether they truly have what it takes to be a good parent. (Then again, would someone please explain to me why we don't require high school or college students to take classes in child care, since these are skills that the vast majority of them will need at some point in their lives???)