I Think I Am Often Misunderstood.

In my opinion there's a lot of people that don'tknow how to be. So they follow the crowd and do what the crowd is doing. And whatever it is that makes the crowd the way it is dictates the way people are going to treat you. If your in a crowd full of sarcastic jerks take for instance that is what you're going to get back. If your in a crowd full of fully secure,happy people who live to be fun and make you laugh that is twhat is going to show up and be apparent. Just don't worry about it so much. The more you are yourself the better off you're going to be. If people cant accept you for who you are as you are, then dont think twice about it. Especially if you are well rounded and have good morals and have your head on straight.Dont get confused about it, it is these people let these people keep jamming to that off beat. It doesnt matter. You are how you are for a reason, there's millions more people like you. you have to find people who understand you. People in a lot of cases are insecure and ignorant, they didnt have the right upbringings. So if you find yourself feeling this way, then there's a good chance your in the wrong organization. Things that are clear to your understanding and foggy and weird to others only means they have there own problems to work out. Just sit back and watch them that is all it will take for you to see if you in any closeness resemble the other people. Its not easy finding people you can get along with. Its easy to turn up as an odd ball. That is why people will kiss eachothers butt and even go as far as trying to put someone down because this helps them and is beneficial. Being an outcast i wopuldnt go back and change anything. Because i like it that way. Im glad that people dont understand me because i know god does. People may pretend they dont get you but maybe there just flat afraid of you, it doesnt matter..Do what makes you feel the most comfortable. The world wouldnt function as well as it does without you doing that. Beleive it. We all play a part.were all misfits thats what is the truth about it all.People are just afraid to admit there flaws like its a bad thing....oh well

I am misunderstood too, and there are times when I do not understand what the other person is saying. I am simple, and straightforward, so it takes me time to understand other person's sarcasm or read between the lines. I too keep trying to make people understand me - using both verbal and non - verbal means, starting from my family members to everyone I speak with. I have good vocabulary but I also think I have not so good communication skills. One reason definitely is the way my family was towards me, my upbringing. Being misunderstood and always keeping on trying to explain to people - this exercise has taken a toll on me. I too think I will care a damn what people say or think, but when the rest all think the same about me, misunderstand me alike, I feel this is the general impression- wrong impression which I need to change. I end up explaining after explaining, only leading to one misunderstanding after another. Now, even if I would be expressing myself correctly, because I am so certain I will be misunderstood, I end up already trying to explain- which only results in confusion. This has been taking a toll on my self esteem and confidence. People don't take me seriously. I have great ideas but I dont speak much, when i speak and i am framing words, sometimes I end up stammering- although I dont have this condition at all. When I speak, I am at the mercy of peoples' thoughts. Also, I know I am different. Maybe our level of thinking and analyzing is much higher/sharper than many (normal etc whatever), we look at the bigger picture easily and hence, others cannot comprehend and hence misunderstand.

please dont waste you precious energy on morons it will age you before your time. You know who you are and your assests and liabilities, in this life some people are going to think the worst about you no matter what. Remember the last perfect guy was hung on a tree. Im no holy roller either but you get my drift, and I have been where you are now maybe quite a while ago but people dont change. good luck and just hang in there.

Humanity sullers from a preception problem and you have to learn to ignore folks and not take things personally

I know this feeling!!



Just be yourself and go forward with your life! I don't live to PLEASE Everyone Anymore! I have deleted Negative People out my life and now I have a New Life!!



My words of advice to you is the following: Just be you and be Happy!



Eric :)

CC I have learned so much from you all. Can't express much to add any clarity to the discussion but it was nice to see your perspectives on the subject..one I see happen with women and men.

Thanx for your thoughts ..very valuable. smiling

I think you are a good person, you seem friendly, kind and considerate, you also seem very intelligent and very nice looking, I don't know why people would have a problem unless they are just jealous, That is very sad for them, if they could overcome that than they would only benefit from knowing someone as nice as you.

think your bunny rabbit is very cute, but It is not fair to judge a book by it's cover and the same goes for people. It is not fair or valid for someone to judge you just by how you look on the outside. I think what is really important is what is inside a person especially what is inside the person's heart.

I think your bunny rabbit is very cute, but It is not fair to judge a book by it's cover and the same goes for people. It is not fair or valid for someone to judge you just by how you look on the outside. I think what is really important is what is inside a person especially what is inside the person's heart.

Hey CC - Don't be so hard on yourself - Maybe you need to surround yourself with smarter people ! Success allows you to be the person YOU want to be. Mr Gorbachev, Tear down that wall !!

It's funny, I'm someone who blends into a crowd pretty easily. When people do notice or talk to me, often they say I appeared quite serious and intimidating as if I was on a vendetta. This grew to be a point of pride as crazy as it seems. My friends know the depth of thought I'm capable of, my dark humor as well but that I care deeply and have mostly honorable intentions with my actions. However I'm drawn at times to act as a different character just to make someone uncomfortable or see the expressions of those sizing me up. There is always one guy in a crowd who will stare in defiance like they want to do battle. lol



You know who you are and sound to be successful in life. If you can ignore those who judge then enjoy life, if you cannot then I suggest making them uneasy for kicks.

I know I am misunderstood, mainly due to the fact I am not a believer in God. I got tired of explaining my non belief, and now I just don't say much when the issue of religion pops up. It's wiser to keep silent or lurk on forums such as this site, where I can anonymously post my views without a bunch of flak. I also understand about being attractive and not taken seriously. Haters and other jealous types will make your work life miserable - this happened to me @ Dell. I'm so glad they shut down that place and all those a-holes lost their precious manufacturing jobs! I left the hellhole to work for myself as a Freelance Legal Assistant (well, I still work for lawyers but it's really my own business).

Excellent story! I tried very hard for a long time to fight my true nature and be more ‘understood’ to please others. I went to more parties, I was more 'cheerful,' I went on more dates, struggled with who I naturally am on behalf of others. All to try to please Them. I essentially tried to 'fix what was wrong with me' but to no avail and this was frustrating – for years. Then one day I found myself and an understanding that I am also different than others. I figured by extension others must feel the same way about themselves, to varying degrees.



I created a wall so high and thick that I didn’t recognize myself behind it. I was so busy maintaining this wall that I took my eye away from who I was in the first place. When I did eventually learn to ‘come back to myself’ I found it was much, much better to just be myself than exert so much energy maintaining this counter-productive wall that actually created its own misunderstandings. The pressure just dropped once I had internal peace. Understanding myself and taking the time and patience to have others understand me was so much easier. It all begins with self-respect. Great post CC!

Hey there!!!

I understand 100%

I get guys thinking my profile picture is my REAL picture... It's Lady Gaga! So they send me messages that are sugestive.

People don't get me either in real life. I have women who get caddy with me, don't give me a chance or even think that my niceness is being flirtatious (when I am equally nice to men and women). I am very sensitive to how I treat people (because of this) and don't ever want to hurt anyone. I am told it's because of my looks. But I have NEVER thought I was very attractive at all. I'm got tired of it, so I now I stand back and don't get involved or try to make friends. It's so frustrating... especially when I have tried so hard to make everyone happy and it still doesn't work. I feel like I've lost who I am... the happy go lucky person I used to be.

If you ever want to chat, I am here! keep smilng and stay strong!

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