I Always Wanted to Be a 23 Year Old Perpetually Single College Sophomore Who Still Lives With My Mom. Not.

 I so thought I was going to be a grad student at an ivy league (or at least top-notch) university by now. and with kids, and maybe even a husband. and with my own house, complete with indoor canals so that i can boat from room to room and go swimming whenever i felt like it. 

okay, maybe the canals were scheduled to arrive sometime in my later twenties. so there's still hope for that. but that doesn't change the fact that i'm only just now getting a transfer associate's degree from a community college. transfering to Brown? hardly. try State U.

It's not so bad- it is the best Kentucky has to offer, after all. But oh, did I ever screw myself over in my senior year of high school.

I'd like to think I'm somehow better off being where I am now, though. Now I can live life without the pressure of anyone ever expecting anything of me. How thrilling!

NaomiZero NaomiZero
26-30, F
7 Responses Apr 21, 2009

hey, i just came across this story. i think the fact that you are concerned about living with your mom forever says you are way more on track than most 23 year olds who live with their parents hahaha. im 20 and going to school, and i really, really hate my college. i go to supposedly the best public school in my state but the people suck. you might end up having a great experience going where you didnt envision yourself. coming to a school just for its reputation was a mistake, but i feel like everything happens for a reason. im just still trying to learn why exactly i'm meant to be here!!!<br />
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i hope everything has been working out well for you!

Well im a 26 year old (still studying, my third certification now lol) who still lives with mah parents and i am single and i have no job or drivers license heh :D hope that makes ya feel better

Naomi, take it from someone who's been around the block a few times: Don't get so down on yourself. Expecting to be in a certain place by a certain time rarely if ever happens. Life is unpredictable, and there are about a zillion variables that are totally out of your control. I have found that the best way to navigate life is to let IT guide YOU rather than the other way around.

:D haha i love it. didn't even think about staffing gondoliers. great idea

knownow, you're right. all is not lost and you're probably extremely right about the whole divorced and miserable alternate reality version of me. as for the transferring to a better college, it's mostly about money. i can only afford in-state tuition. when it comes to getting a master's degree, i might just spring for the extra $ and go to the college of my dreams. for now, i'm just trying to keep my freedom from suffocating debt for as long as i can

There is more than one way into a better college. Transferring after a success year or two with grades that prove you can do college level work is one way to go. Think about how many freshmen and sophmores don't make for one reason or another. Colleges still want to fill their places and gladly take transfer students. Sometimes offering scholarships or grants that would help pay the way. You have an advantage over younger students just by your age. If you were married with children at 23 you would probably be divorced and miserable by 27 so take it slow and appreciate the journey.

I understand, I did the same thing though, but later in college. I'm from rural Missouri, so I can relate with your culture. It seems like there's alot of pressure to just give in and go into a trade or other job that doesn't require a degree. I did for five years while trying to go to night school, worked a trade. Then, with my wife's help, I went back to school full time and got my bachelor's in two and a half years. I'm in my early thirties now, having graduated 3 years ago. I find that I appreciate what I have and have accomplished more than others because I had to work so hard and sacrifice for it. As much as I hate to admit it, this is one of those things that builds character like no other experience can. I hate it when Dad was right.