I'm Nice, I'm Polite, I Listen Well......but I also count the number of people I really trust on single digits.
It's not that I don't like people, I just like them in small doses. I don't trust most people at all, though I've gotten quite good at concealing this fact from most everyone.
The first thing I ask myself whenever someone starts up a conversation is "What do they want from me?", the second is "How are they going to get it?"
Most of the time people just want to talk, a bit of discussion, a bit of discourse, perhaps an opinion or two. So why is it that I get all the ones who want money or a warm body to make use of for a while? It's happened too many times - too many friends who took me for money and work and made out like bandits in the end, too many people who wanted to add me to their collection of freaks they can say they know or names to drop to make themselves look more interesting.
I'm a lot of things - not all of them good, I hasten to add - but I don't operate that way. I at least ask nicely and explain myself up front if I want something from someone. When last I checked, that was considered good manners, even in the United States.