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I'm A Great Party Trick?!

   I'm not sure if I should be annoyed or flattered, but my sister recently described me to someone as a great party trick.  She referred to a specific instance a long time ago when I shocked my then boyfriend and his best friend, who my sister was dating.  We were playing a game, girls against guys, where each team could ask the other any question they wanted, and if the opposing team didn't know the answer, they had to do whatever dare the other team decided on.  The guys asked us "What's the rear end gear ratio in Eric's Jeep?" and immediately started high-fiving each other because they figured that there was no way that we would get that one right.  I answered 3.55, which was correct.  Their faces were priceless!  But it bothers me that people are so shocked that I  know a lot about cars.  I've been in the automotive performance and service industry for over 13 years, and it's something that I'm interested in, so of course I have a lot of knowledge on the subject.  My sister told the person that she was describing me to that I'm "a gorgeous 5'9" blonde who looks like somoene who would be laying on a beach somewhere instead of leaning underneath the hood of a car".  I do appreciate the gorgeous part, but it's disheartening to me that when people look at me, they automatically put me into a category, of which I usually don't belong. 
   I suppose that it irritates me so much because it's something that I've been dealing with for a long time.  There have been instances where men would flat out tell me that they would rather be helped by a man, or would look at me in disbelief as if I couldn't possibly know what I was talking about.  Quite a few women have been just as guilty, though, making statements like "We're just women, so we don't know anything about that stuff."  Excuse me?!  I have always made it my mission to free the minds of those people by showing them that categorizing people by stereotypes just shows how ignorant they are.  It just gets really old after a while, and although I do enjoy proving people wrong, I just feel like I shouldn't have to defend who I am so vehemently.  I wish that more people would learn to accept others for who they are instead of putting them into a little box, not allowing themselves to believe that they could possibly be wrong.  In this case, I am flattered that my sister thinks that it's great that I'm not what people expect me to be, but describing me as a "party trick" for some reason feels like an insult.  It's no trick, it's just who I am.  I also would rather mow my lawn than do laundry, played full contact football in a women's pro league (until I got tired of getting laid out flat by girls 3 times my size), bought a fixer upper house and am doing the work myself, have a raunchy sense of humor sometimes (which I blame on being around mechanics for so long), don't want children and am saving to buy a motorcycle. Those things don't make me any less of a woman, although some people would probably argue against that statement.  All that I know that I can do is to do my small part to dispel lingering outdated beliefs about who women are and what they can do.  We can be or do anything that our hearts' desire!   It's time that everyone knows it.
TreadingWater TreadingWater 31-35, F 27 Responses Apr 8, 2011

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I know what you mean. I was thought of as a "party trick" that i couldnt decide on my own desires but i had to convince everyone that i WANTED to give myself to the wants of this girl Katrina Stanley and let her pee down my throat right in front of everyone at the party and i proved to them that women can choose to show their loveing passion in the open public by me sayinbg and gurgling that girl Katrina Stanley name outloud the whole time with my throat constantly full with her warm yellow salty tasting urine so everyone there could hear me.

I know what you mean. I was thought of as a "party trick" that i couldnt decide on my own desires but i had to convince everyone that i WANTED to give myself to the wants of this girl Katrina Stanley and let her pee down my throat right in front of everyone at the party and i proved to them that women can choose to show their loveing passion in the open public by me sayinbg and gurgling that girl Katrina Stanley name outloud the whole time with my throat constantly full with her warm yellow salty tasting urine so everyone there could hear me.

I know what you mean. I was thought of as a "party trick" that i couldnt decide on my own desires but i had to convince everyone that i WANTED to give myself to the wants of this girl Katrina Stanley and let her pee down my throat right in front of everyone at the party and i proved to them that women can choose to show their loveing passion in the open public by me sayinbg and gurgling that girl Katrina Stanley name outloud the whole time with my throat constantly full with her warm yellow salty tasting urine so everyone there could hear me.

I know what you mean. I was thought of as a "party trick" that i couldnt decide on my own desires but i had to convince everyone that i WANTED to give myself to the wants of this girl Katrina Stanley and let her pee down my throat right in front of everyone at the party and i proved to them that women can choose to show their loveing passion in the open public by me sayinbg and gurgling that girl Katrina Stanley name outloud the whole time with my throat constantly full with her warm yellow salty tasting urine so everyone there could hear me.

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it sucks to get called a party trick. i've been called that for different reasons, but it doesn't really matter why. the idea of being trotted out like a show pony to entertain with something that is really just who you are can be demeaning. also, you might want to stand still, as i'm almost done my statue of you for the pantheon of heroines. * grin *

you go girl!

"I wish that more people would learn to accept others for who they are instead of putting them into a little box, not allowing themselves to believe that they could possibly be wrong." I smiled with teeth when I read that. Some people are just SO ignorant, it galls me. Just keep on being yourself, and feel sorry for the people who have to live their life in a tiny box with closed minds. GOOD FOR YOU!! <br />
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((Hugs))

Regarless of gender(or race or anything that divides us humans into different categories), I am a woman. I enjoy anything I like regardless if its typically a male or female interest. Why should it matter? I can fix or repair just about anything. Not cars, just not an interest. But if a problem arrises, 9 times out of ten, I'll figure it out. Honestly, I can't stand chicks who just ride the"oh i'm girlie, I just like to be girlie" Great for them, but imagine they don't have a lot of goals or interests. I'll try it all. I know I'm great at adapting and evolving. Isn't that important to us as a human race!?!?!

You go girl :-) u dont have to be all girly nd feminine to be a woman, and ur correct none of those things make u any less of a woman. U rock Girl

i'll be around tomorrow night.....need a full service , rear end needs touching up and you can give me a complete overhaul....<br />
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p.s. i'll be arriving by taxi and leaving the car at home.....<br />
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seriously - you are one cool dude :-)

There is more tome than the surface too and it frustrates me sometimes when people are repeatedly shocked by what I do because I am female. I am a bit of a 'girly girl' but I know how to take care of things around the home and help others when needed. One instance that I actually noticed the contadictions that others see though happened this summer. My partner moved house and needed some changes made to the plumbing and the dishwasher and washing machine plumbed in. It was taking longer than I had hoped as the DIY shop just wouldnt have it that it was even possible to do it with his plumbing so took best part of an hour trying to explain the parts I needed as everything is in storage behind the counter. I dont know the names of all the parts but I knew what I needed and that the things existed but I needed to chop some parts up and connect them to make the things I needed that they dont make.<br />
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So after this long discussion with so called plumbing experts and being told it was a great idea that they would recommend to others in future I finally get back to my partners and get everything pulled out and ready. So as I already said it is later than expected so my partner has to head off to pick his children up from school. I know I have limited time before I need to get home to my children so I'm going as fast as I can cutting holes in the unit by hand and cutting pipes etc. Its height of summer and seriously hot so I think as I am alone I can get away with taking off my jeans and t-shirt so I can work without overheating as that would make me very ill. So there I am under a worktop with saw in my hand, surrounded by pipes etc and I suddenly have to laugh as I realise I am doing the plumbing in full make up, underwear and I hadnt taken off my heels either as I didnt want to stand on a nail or anything. No wonder sometimes people are just totally baffled by me at times. I realised I have even put up shelves wearing a dress and heels before and wondered why friends gave me odd looks. <br />
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I can kinda see it from their point of view a bit more after all that. Its still not right. It still drives me crazy when people say I cant do it or that they would rather get someone in to do it especially when it is something I have done perfectly a dozen times. But hey I sometimes like people to be surprised by me and I like to challenge the stereotypes they like to impose on people and if they say they didnt think I could do it because I am good looking and dress well then hey I get to surprise them and I get a compliment

I know what you mean, toodeep, everyone does have a different version of reality ba<x>sed on what they know from their own lives. I'm glad to hear that you don't let children saying that you're a lady because of your long hair hurt your feelings. However, remember young children are still learning and are different than full grown adults who should know better. I understand what you're saying, and I totally agree. I do whatever I can to educate those who have misconceptions about who women are and what they can accomplish, but it's just disheartening to have to find out how many people out there need that education. I also agree that different is important, and I've come to realize that being different means having to defend yourself from time to time, but I just wish that it wasn't such a struggle to do so! Thank you for your comment and I hope that you have a wonderful weekend.

This is all just just language differences. Remember everyone defines their reality by what they observe every day. I'm a guy with long hair and small children quite often say I'm a lady (Trust me - I'm not feminine!). Thats water off a ducks back for me because they are simply telling me that their experience does not include many long haired men. Of course I know that I'm no less manly because of my greater experience. I know about the Spartans and Samurai for eg. So don't be offended, educate! Expand their reality. Extend their definitions! Oh - and yes. Being different is Hard. Humans like conforming, but different is important. Most people cannot embrace different and strive to be normal. If you are strong enough - then go the other way and get in peoples faces about it! Same has been done B4 (Not so useful). While different has not! Very useful!

Thanks, Sunshine!

I love this perspective u have... andthe old fashion desc<x>ription of what makes a woman is changing yes!

Ugh! I know you've got to want to just reach through the phone and slap some sense into them sometimes. There is a lot of gratification to be had, though, when you show them how wrong they are. Hopefully we're paving the way for a change in the way people view women in a man's environment.

I empathize with you. I co-own a salvage yard and when I pick up the phone men always ask to talk to someone that can help them : ( <br />
I basically have to convince them that I can answer their questions about parts.

rhban - I love that your local service station is run by a tiny spit fire of a woman. :)<br />
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truckskirt - Thanks so much for your encouraging words!<br />
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Suzanne - I haven't seen My Cousin Vinny, but I may have to Netflix that one tonight. Thanks so much for your response, and it's great to hear that you appreciate women like me!

I know exactly what you ALL mean, and have been guilty of doing it myself...and not out of meanness, but simply because I didn't know the person and/or her capabilities...even though she was an "intake" person or "scheduler" at a local car dealer's business. I Love multitalented women!<br />
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@Treading Water - You Go Girl! One of the movies I have enjoyed in the past dealt with just this subject...the one with Joe Pesci, Maria Tomai. Fred Gwynn and others... I do recommend "My Cousin Vinny" to anyone who needs to be made aware...of androgeny...capability...etc. And Damn I wish I were 40 years younger I'd certainly be interested in meeting and dating you!<br />
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I personally love to be able to chat with someone who knows what they're doing...of any gender...and a hell of a lot of arenas...and believe me, I do love to see girls who are capable and knowledgeable and into, occasionally, the traditionally male oriented arenas...and, I do not care for the "clinging vine" types - even though they do tend to "stoke my ego"...I much prefer those independent and competent girls...who aren't afraid to speak out when they know something!

Glad to see a woman that do so many things. What we need more women like you. It is ashame that mechanics take advantage of women, more women need your knowlage of autoes and house repairs. You are my type of woman. Keep up the good work and don't let people put you down

Katnip - I see! Oh well, at least it's not the worst thing in the world. :)<br />
Mejoe - I agree with you. It is hard to believe that people still think that women have distinct roles, and I'm so happy to hear that you don't subscribe to that old school way of thinking. <br />
Backwoods - Be careful of what you wish for! A mechanic's sense of humor can have a sting to it sometimes. <br />
Slervo - Thank you! It's good to hear that some guys are into a DIY type of girl. I think that a lot of guys still kind of want someone who needs to be taken care of. It can be intimidating to men sometimes if a woman doesn't really "need" them to take care of things.

You know the rear end gear ratio in your friend's Jeep? Have a raunchy sense of humor? Are doing a major remodel on your house? Um.. will you marry me? Just kidding, But I have to say you are the kind of woman that I would very much love to meet. Just FYI. A woman who knows her way around a shop is insanely hot.

If your single, I'm interested!! I've been looking for a gal with a mechanics sense of humor for years!!

I find it hard to believe, Although i shouldn't, that most people still have these stereo types of women. I know I do not know much about cars and I figure if there is a women working in te auto parts store she must know what she is talking about. My wife is the same way she would rather be in the yard mowing,and such than cleaning the house. I think in most families today things are shared by both sexes, there is not so much the man's job or the womens job. I have two friends that have wives who work full time and they stay home with the kids and work part time.

Well, I should have clarified, the husband used to work in a field that dealt with machines that had electricity, moving parts, and magnets in them so he should be well versed on the subject, yet isn't.

I couldn't say that I understand electromagnets, either, but good for you that you do! I think that's awesome. :) Yay for tool box ladies!

I know what you mean. I am the one with the tool box in my marriage. The husband sits around watching TV all day while I get to be the one to take apart the electric fan to clean the electromagnets. Geez, he doesn't even understand the concept of electromagnets!