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I'm Pretty and Smart. Why Is That a Problem?
A personal story in the experience: I Am Not Your Stereotypical Anything
Aug 22nd, 2007
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hate stereotypes! Because I am pretty, people, some people, assume I am stupid or just not intelligent and it makes me so angry sometimes! In my small town, men out number women, and most men seem to believe that I should be passive and cute, not smart and feisty and cute.
I'm not supposed to be educated or hold a good job. I guess most expect me to be at home with kids. I have 2 kids but I am not a stay at home mother!!!!!!
I am not the stereotypical blonde EITHER! I'm smart, pretty, getting educated, a great person, and I am damn proud of it!
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  | Posted Aug 22nd, 2007 at 5:13PM Most small towns are, by their nature, not very diverse. People have a limited experience dealing with others who are different. That is why so many young people move away from those towns to cities. Smart and pretty are a good combo in my mind. Small-minded people aren't worth worrying about, so don't let their opinions get to you. Maybe they are threatened by you. Have a chuckle......You go girl.   |
 | Posted Aug 25th, 2007 at 7:58PM Guilty as charged! I've caught myself making assumptions about pretty women - and handsome men, too - that are more to about having soaked up too many TV stereotypes as a child than anything to do with the living, breathing person standing in front of me. That stuff lodges in so deep, its hard to get past it sometimes, just like any other cultural prejudice. I'm sorry you run into that crap. Sounds like your head on straight to deal with it. |
 | Posted Mar 6th, 2009 at 1:48PM I know what you mean I wouldn't call my self pretty but I look like a typical little blond so people tend to patronize me. I hate it but it was definitely worse in the small town where I lived before i moved to london. |
 | Posted Apr 24th, 2009 at 9:28PM Sure... let's stereotype little towns, now. That would help your cause. Way to go. |
 | Posted Aug 6th, 2009 at 12:10AM People assume that if you're pretty, it means you spend a lot of time on your looks, and truth be told, most people who care about their brains, don't spend much time looking in the mirror, because there are better things to do. It sucks for those who are just passively good looking, because it's like Pavlov's dogs, ya know? Trained reaction. |
 | Posted Aug 25th, 2009 at 5:16AM good for you!! |
 | Posted Sep 9th, 2009 at 3:36PM It's not just small towns. Whole cultures play into that mode of thought. The world is unpredictable and we love control. If we must put people into boxes, particularly those they don't belong in, to maintain our fragmented grasp of "how the(race/gender/religion/nationality) are", the unspoken concensus is "So be it." Lomax, I wish you the best on whatever road you choose. |
 | Posted Sep 10th, 2009 at 2:09AM I don't really understand the problem here. You have qualities that many people wish they had but don't. |
| Posted Sep 10th, 2009 at 2:10AM I don't really understand the problem here. You have qualities that many people wish they had but don't. |
 | Posted Oct 9th, 2009 at 10:55PM Being in the young culture as an Asian, I'm constantly being judged. I understand how to cope with it, but it's still hard sometimes. I just listen to all kinds of music, Pop, Country, Japanese, etc, and it helps to soothe the frustration. |
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