And I Am Not Even Pretty

Have you ever stared in the mirror for so long that it physically hurts your bottom (from sitting down so long)? Well, that is the story of my life...sitting and staring; all too often hating the reflection.
CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick
22-25
14 Responses Jul 26, 2010

I think I'm obsessed with my look too much. I want to stop it, seriously, it affects my daily life. I couldn't focus on studying because I always want grab a mirror to look myself. I admit that I am good looking and many people say so too. And I have gotten more good looking as I grow up. I am happy with the fact I have become prettier, but I hate that I have become more and more obsessed with my look. It's almost like I am in love with my face. The sad thing is, even I look cute, I have low self-esteem and confidence. I feel lonely all the time, and guess what, it's weird but I feel better if I look myself in the mirror. My friends suggest me of getting a boyfriend, but I am very shy and not very sociable. I am too afraid to look into a boy's eyes and feel very awkward of having a conversion with a guy that's around my age. (I don't have much problems with older men though...) I don't know what to do. I like my look but sometimes I hate it too. Anyone could help?

I think I'm obsessed with my look too much. I want to stop it, seriously, it affects my daily life. I couldn't focus on studying because I always want grab a mirror to look myself. I admit that I am good looking and many people say so too. And I have gotten more good looking as I grow up. I am happy with the fact I have become prettier, but I hate that I have become more and more obsessed with my look. It's almost like I am in love with my face. The sad thing is, even I look cute, I have low self-esteem and confidence. I feel lonely all the time, and guess what, it's weird but I feel better if I look myself in the mirror. My friends suggest me of getting a boyfriend, but I am very shy and not very sociable. I am too afraid to look into a boy's eyes and feel very awkward of having a conversion with a guy that's around my age. (I don't have much problems with older men though...) I don't know what to do. I like my look but sometimes I hate it too. Anyone could help?

she posted her comment twice to make sure I understood how pretty she was hehee lol<br />
I got it the first time around :P<br />
No need to affirm it twice<br />
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and awwwwwwwwwwww I need to work on it I know, it's just that what I see is disgusting :(

i can understand confident but that seemed a little narcissistic to me. i believe in confidence but she might be pushing it a bit but i am probably wrong .<br />
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no i'm not its the truth your just in denail

I understood your beauty the first time hun' again, good for you

CJ--no she's just confident, that's admirable :)<br />
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And you're too kind!

wow.... byach someone's a vain little girl. Chicky your beautiful inside and out even if you can't see it. but i love you for whats inside not outside .... i wouldn't mind staring at you for a bit though hehehe

good for you.

Yea I see what you're saying....<br />
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don't you think it's a tad rude that you say that God will be offended? I mean who are we as people to judge God's actions..<br />
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And that guy is AMAZING (in regards to his fighting spirit) and despite the fact he is missing his his arms and legs he is very physically attractive! Very inspiring I must say

how can you except people to find you pretty if you dont find yourself pretty.. a girl with no confidence is like a shadow, no one looks at them... a girl with confidence shines! instead of looking in the mirrow hating on what you look like, i want you to look at each and every part of your body appriciating the body the god has blessed you with rather than wishing you had the sterio typed image of what media displays, everything that god has created is beautiful sweety your offending god if you dont like what he has created... http://www.fadedtribune.com/2009/07/no-arms-no-legs-no-problem/ everytime you frown about a little imprefection look at this guy smiling!! X

WOW honeybit! Very cool! I am so happy for you and thank you once again for taking the time to comment... :D

I'm glad to hear that you are up to the challenge because there's just no need to go through life not totally loving you when you don't have to. I'd heard of the law of attraction a long time before I checked it out and actually learned how to apply it to my life. It was like trying to bake a cake with only the title of the recipe but none of the directions... big difference once I started digging for instructions. Several years ago I had nine swings made for my yard because I have nine grandchildren. My neighbors asked why so many swings and when I told them it was to accomodate all of the kids at once they laughed at me because all of my grandchildren lived 1500 miles away, were happy with where they were and had zero intentions of moving anywhere. Four years ago four grandchildren came to live with me and two years ago four more moved, walking distance, down the street from me. Only one isn't here and that's because she's 21 and on her own now. I talked about them coming long before they had any plans (not to them but to others) and I acted as if they were coming and now they are here. I'm still learning but am not wasting any more time finding out all that I can. Just wish I'd known sooner.

Honeybit, Thank you! You have given me some amazing advice. I love how insightful and sweet your comment was..I will definitely take it to heart. Again; thank you so very much!<br />
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And yes, I am familiar with law of attraction and I do agree that their is a "self fulfilling prophecy" element to our lives--we have to be proactive about what we want. It's hard for me to come to terms with liking myself and positively improving my life, but I am up for the challenge!

the good news is that that staring in the mirror and thinking thing that you do naturally is actually a very good practice... especially if you're looking in your eyes and daydreaming of what you wish for your life to be if it could actually be ANYTHING that you wish for it to be...it is one of the best ways there is to plant seeds into your subconscience that will take root and change your life over time if you keep up the practice regularly<br />
the bad news is that you are thinking on negative things... and so the negative things are kind of like instructions that you are giving your brain to send out vibes and connect with 'like' vibrations -- thereby drawing into your life more of the same vibes as you are 'putting out there'<br />
obviously the trick is to direct your intense thoughts toward positive subject matter that makes you happy -- if you make a list of all that you dream of and dwell on it as if you actually have these things in your mind you start the process of your subconscious search to bring these things into existance in your life...<br />
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if you 'get' what I'm saying then I suggest that you go to 'the secret tool of visualization and law of attraction works' on youtube -- then google law of attraction and law of universal vibration -- you will be amazed