Is It Ok To Be A Recluse?
I have just joined coz I wanted a place to just say I am a recluse and not have people who know me, sympathize.
I am happy being a recluse but it seems it is not the done thing in society. One has to be "popular", be "part of a group", have meet-ups, be outgoing, and so on.
Funny thing, I do appear outgoing and even bubbly. I recently went out with some new people and was later told that they thought I was the extrovert and my partner was the introvert. I don't know how that happens but it just does. When I am out there, you would never know that I really am no extrovert. I don't have to work at it or try hard or pretend. It just happens that I am mostly bubbly when I am out and about. But ...
.. the truth of the matter is that, on any day, at any time, any where, I would rather stay home, be on my own, not go out, not meet new people ... does that make me "wrong" or abnormal?
I joined another forum (hobbies) and I like that just the way it is - an internet connection. But everyone else seems so keen on meeting up in real life. Each time they arrange a meetup, I feel so abnormal. Coz I really don't want to. Just thinking about it makes my tummy hurt.
So I guess what I am saying is I am reclusive, I like it that way, but I can't fit in. And I even feel ashamed. I feel as if I am the only one who is this way. Is there anyone else there who is like me .. and feel ok about it?