I Am Open Minded

Thinking To Be A Pornstar

By: lana9

Written on May 13th, 2010

Hi all, I'm married mother of 2 sons and a daughter... I'm 39 years old... Those days i'm on a very strong need to do p-orn movies... After long discussions with my husband he said:OK, after that I breathed a sigh of relief... I'll do on movies what I can't do with my husband at home: I'll try Anal... I'll do all kinds of the homosexual acts... For my children I think most of the pornstars are married with children, and thats not bad for them. Whats your opinions, votes and tips?

By: lana9

Age: 36-40 , Female

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85 responses

he4she

**** stars live a short life, they usually end up with a std

Apr 19
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Woodworker70591

I say go for it. U are very sexy.

Apr 16
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RobotModel790

You're gonna be one smoking hot MILF.

Apr 16
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Alventure

Lana,
Sounds like a good idea. Would you like someone to practice some of these moves with? I'd love to help.
Alventure

Apr 15
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blackcougar

1. I think mbuch wrote it best
2. I didn't see mention of money, maybe you should join a swingers club instead. Most people there are married, you can bring your husband and most people there want to keep it private.
3. I know a couple who started one in Texas if you live in the Austin Area.

Feb 24
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onemug

39 is a bit old to start in ****.

Feb 11
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sabull

I always say if you are happy in doing it, and you feel comfortable and you don't have to lie about what you do, go big!!!!!!

Nov 27, 2012
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mbuch

It depends. I've had friends in the adult entertainment industry. some of them have lost their children because of it. Your husband might truly be all right with this right now, but if he wants a divorce for some other reason later (like because you are enjoying yourself too much), he as a good chance of getting custody if you're seen as a person of low moral character.
You should also think about your health. There was a scandal recently in the po-n industry about STIs. If you do amateur stuff or work with male actors who also do gay ****, you're increasing your chances of infection.
The po-n industry is also very hard on women. You'll be expected to go out and work as a ******** in order to promote your videos if you are doing anything but amateur work. You may have to get a boob job and other plastic surgery in order to fit the current ideal. And, of course, you'll have to deal with fans who might come up to you while you're with your kids or family, unless you are willing to disguise yourself some way. Most successful **** stars chose to date and marry within the industry or to marry after their careers were over. It's hard to be married to a guy who is not in the industry, especially when those videos of yours start getting viewed by his friends and co-workers, who will probably think you are a **** even though you aren't.
Why can't you do anal at home, or with your husband?
Before you decide, you might want to read Jenna Jamison's autobiography. It's very revealing and shows both the light and dark side of the industry.

Nov 15, 2012
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- raysmith344
  Wow, extremely well written and thoughtful. This letter is 100% full of wisdom and knowledge. I take back my: "Go for it." Listen to mbuch. My previous was written from the perspective of a horny ****, and not a rational adult. You are beautiful, married, have children to think of. If you were my grand daughter, I would not want you to go in the direction that could destroy your family.
  
  Nov 16, 2012
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- mbuch
  Whether we like it or not, we have to deal with how the world sees us. I'm not saying she shouldn't go into ****. But if she's considering it just because her home sex life isn't as fulfilling as she would like, that's not a good enough reason. There is still a very strong stigma attached to being in the sex industry. If a person (particularly a woman) has children younger than college age it can lead to a lot of problems. for instance, does she mind if her kids' friends look at somebody's **** stash during a party and find out she's a star? Does she mind if one of her kid's teachers sees her in a *****? How about her boss, if she still holds on to a day job?
  Just like prostitutes are stigmatized worse than the men who go to them, and strippers are seen as bad women but men who go to ***** clubs aren't, women in **** are viewed very differently than people who don't appear in front of the camera, or men who do **** for a living. Even then, most women don't want to date or marry a man who has had sex with hundreds of women. Men might fantasise of dating a **** star, but most of them don't want to bring them home to mother; there's a reason why many **** stars either come from broken homes or become estranged from their families. Does that mean everyone does? No. You can work in the sex industry and not lose your family. But you're not making it easy for them to face judgmental friends, neighbors, and potential life partners either. If you don't mind that and they don't mind that, by all means go for it. Just understand that your choices might affect their options, as well as their access to certain things, and that **** videos don't disappear once they've been released. Your choice will be following you for a very long time, as well as following your husband, children, parents and other relatives and friends. Unless you plan to get a whole new life, I would suggest that you find some other form of sexual self expression, like going to on-premises swing clubs. But don't take my word for it. There's an annual **** convention in Las Vegas every year. If you are that determined, you might want to attend the next one and ask some of the women how they navigate having a private life while working in ****. Asking a bunch of strangers whose lives have never involved being in the sex industry is not the smartest move. It's like asking people who are scared of spiders what it's like being an archeologist, or asking someone who's afraid of fire what it's like to be a smoke jumper.
  
  Nov 21, 2012
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- RAMLov
  You see some of those **** women you are crazy they don't need boob jobs she looks gorgeous she does not need plastic surgery you're crazier than hell
  
  Mar 7
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raysmith344

Go for it. You have the beauty that I would pay to watch. It sounds like you have alreay watched enough **** to know what is involved. It also seems that you are willing to be very open.

Nov 14, 2012
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randalrand

By the way lana9, you definitely have the looks!! You are a doll!

Nov 7, 2012
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randalrand

go for it, your intentions seem pure, help family, satisfy self, save marriage, have fun, make money. Are you lesbian, because that may be the can of worms you dont want opened in challenge of your family, it may be the water spout you prefer to leave closed lana9, I am single so I will play how I choose, however; there are many more variables involved in your situation, other than yourself. My mother used to say "not all that seems good, is good." or "not all money is good money". You seem to want to explore and do it right, get ****** anyway you want, and get paid, and there is nothing wrong with that, just be careful that you do not walk into a den of vipers, and take your family with you. Good luck let me know how it goes.

Nov 7, 2012
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therealfokker

I am amazed by all the closed minded people on this forum! Whether you believe that lana9 is just playing you or not...take a moment and think why would anyone consider doing as she writes? Could it be that she needs to acted out some repressed emotion or need. Consider that you don't know what her childhood like! I believe that if she has something driving her need then she should discover what that is! If performing in this way connects her to herself, reveals something then as silly as it might sound i think it may have some personal value.

Nov 5, 2012
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- mbuch
  I think you wrote this before I showed up. However, I'll address it.
  Not only do I know people who have been (and still are) in the sex industry, I've actually worked indirectly in the sex industry myself. And I can tell you, from the little I've seen, there's a big difference between dreaming of being a ballerina in a pretty pink tutu while twirling around on a stage, and taking dance classes starting at the age of five, enduring broken toes, losing weight to the point of not having a period, and never being able to eat a full meal for fear of getting cut from a corps de ballet. The sex industry is the same way. People see **** stars on screen and thinks it's cool. What they don't see is the hours of waiting around, the boredom, the drug use, dealing with idiotic fans who think you put out to everybody, the boob jobs to get more work, getting your ****hole bleached and your nether lips tightened because that's the latest thing, doing the same scene over and over again, making appearances at ***** clubs and being on the road, not seeing your kids for days on end (that is, if you get famous), trying to explain to your kids what Mommy does for a living, aging out in a short time because the average career in **** for women is five years or less, and dealing with your cover being blown.
  I have a friend who used to shoot the stills for **** films when the industry was on the East Coast. That was in the 70s. She still works as a photographer and is quite good; plus she still does erotic photography along with gigs with some famous tv shows. However, she's lost work over the years from being associated with ****, and her face never appeared anywhere. A former friend was a prominent professional dominatrix. She came to the US with nothing and ended up putting herself through college on work, and buying a house. She put her kid into a great private school too. But when I last saw her she was terrified that someone would find out about her career. She got married to a former client and then ended up getting divorced, because he didn't want her to work at the profession that had provided them with a home. Se could have made more money if she did fetish films, but she was afraid someone might see them and send copies to her family in Latin America; they thought she just ran a photographic studio.
  Neither of these women were doing anything illegal. They weren't even having sex with strangers. Yet they still had to live with being associated with the sex industry.
  
  Nov 21, 2012
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- raysmith344
  Again, after reading your responses on this topic, and not seeing any more posts from Lana; I hope she has read your comments and has responded to you. What you write is very insightful and comes from your heart. Your knowledge of the industry is very enlightening. I have reread Lana's original story. "I'll do on movies what I can't do with my husband at home: I'll try Anal... I'll do all kinds of the homosexual acts... " Why can't she do that at home? Husband won't try anal? She does not have a way to find a girlfriend to try sex with? I believe now than there are better ways to try her desires than going the **** route.. I really want her to find what she needs sexually with no regrets. Good luck Lana
  
  Nov 22, 2012
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LostOrStuck

It may be just me but my bullshit detector just went off

Oct 26, 2012
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- gigi55407
  Mine three.
  
  Oct 26, 2012
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- feelinrandy
  Ditto
  
  Oct 29, 2012
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- justsomeone2
  Mine four
  
  Oct 31, 2012
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hpaulh1h81

I say go for it, video it first so you can see what you like and how you perform on camera.Good luck

Oct 14, 2012
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- randalrand
  That is really good advice
  
  Nov 7, 2012
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dirks69

You should ask a friend to film you and your husband or your husband to film you and another at home first to see if you like it.

Oct 10, 2012
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- randalrand
  again, solid advice, from people that know, I appreciate that. I am considering having sex with a man, as a man, It will be the first time I have made that decision despite of curious experiences from the past. This would be a full blown (pun intended) endeavor......however; I do realize it will have to be done right
  
  Nov 7, 2012
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8Homer

We need some new fresh **** stars. All I see is the same old tired group that shows mostly from the neck up.

Sep 16, 2012
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jancha

Dear Iana9,
I really admire you. Although we haven't filmed our actions my wife also thought to make a film. My wife Mamtha also like to become a **** star. I vote for you

Sep 16, 2012
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thejurg31

You should do some research... look on YouTube for "dead **** stars"... it's not a glamorous lifestyle... give up the thought.

Sep 14, 2012
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sam262

Are you doing that for fun or as a job. if it's for fun, you can do so without filming it. so nothing is distributed in case u change your mined. but if it is a job, that is something else.

though I 'd love to see you in a **** movie, think it over.

Sep 9, 2012
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Sirandthatsall

protection, protection, protection... bite the pillow I'm going in dry.

Aug 30, 2012
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Nitehowl

You might try making a few video's at a friends house and see if it feels right to you. If so, then contact those in the industry. Any label on a po'rn video will get you a contact address. See if you like their films first before contacting them.

Aug 27, 2012
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Brandie1960

I say go for it.

Aug 27, 2012
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romeox

i can make your films... :)

Aug 27, 2012
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JonBrutus

Your feelings are right or wrong, they just are. If you have a desire, follow it. It won't magically go away just by trying not to think about it and those that want to judge you for your desires aren't your friend. I appreciate your bravery for posting here and wish you the best in your exploration!

Aug 24, 2012
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btrain25

Honestly? I think i would be horrified if i saw my mother online getting used by some other guy(s). Think about what other kids will say to your children if they find out? If your doing this to get things your husband cant give you then you don't need to advertise it all over the world. Meet people. Get your brains ****** out. Pee on them? Get weird and crazy so that way if they freak out you can still go home to a loving family who will have no idea what you did. Just my opinion.

Aug 5, 2012
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jer9

Add me love to see your solo playing **** debut

Jul 27, 2012
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me69sa

won't your husband get jealous that you will do things on camera that you won't do with him? or is it more that he doesn't want to do things you would like to and this will be a way to get that release?

Jul 26, 2012
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HStoner

Having no firsthand, or even secondhand, knowledge; I would think that two of the biggest downsides to doing **** would be that (a) sex would become boring if it was your job and (b) you don't get to choose your partner(s).

Jul 26, 2012
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knottednow

I understand your need. Let's get that out of the way first. Now keep in mind the negative impact this is going to have on your friends and family. This stuff will be posted somewhere and someone who knows you is going to show it to someone else until that someone else is your Mom or your daughter. Then your going to have some splainin' to do. We already know you have your husbands ok with it, so why not look into some private clubs where you can scratch that itch and not worry about it.

Jul 26, 2012
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goforbroke

why the need to do ****...what brought to you to that idea or conclusion...how does ur husband feel about it..or even ur kids...it might fun at the beginning but have u thought about the down fall on ur kids what they may hear or be told---if this is going to be ur choice be sure u look at evey aspect of ur life and how it will imapct it..i dont want to sound prude or take ur gusto out...i believe one should do what they feel like doing as long it does not hurt anyone in the process.good luck in decision...

Jul 20, 2012
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