Over 40

Hi, I am wondering how many people are over 40. I am female. Kids are grown and gone. I am trying to get a life, find someone to talk to about life in general and share experiences. I love to read. I am a depressed, low self esteem, anxieties etc. but sometimes I think it is because I am lonely. I am in a good relationship, but we do not share the same interests. He is not a talker so this is what I think I am missing. I need a friend to just talk to about anything.  I am a good listener also.

Cassandra

Cassandra Cassandra
51-55, F
10 Responses Apr 10, 2007

Lot of us are over 40 here as I am also. I can talk.

i am over 40 and i am looking for new friends to do fun things with or learn things with or even just talking and laughing.. i have grown kids who don't want to hang out or do things with me.. i don't even have a man.. i don't even have good friends..

Whiteagle,<br />
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I feel for you. What kinds of outings or home gatherings are you accostomed to doing?<br />
Maybe there are similar things in Ontarion. You can ask people over. I am sure you have tried or thought about it. <br />
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Good luck. Meanwhile we are here at EP. <br />
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R

I find it difficult to make meaningful relationships called " friendship" very difficult in adulthood. I have my childhood friends still but they live very very far away. I have tried to plug into this town in Ontario, and I have had no luck in making friends. It seems like no one is very social up here. Not like where I'm from. You'd have to beat people off you they are so friendly and willing to be your friend. I think I am still in serious culture shock.. .and its been a year. So I'm looking for friends. :O)

Do you know how cool become crunk?<br />
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R

I enjoy people in all the age groups. Those of us who have children and grand kids near by can keep up with the times. <br />
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Once we decided to try to bridge the lingo gap and had a great talk after a Thanksgiving dinner. My grandma used to say things were "swell" when it was good. My mom used to say it was the "cat's pajamas". My generation said everything was "cool man" and my kids said that it was "awesome". Then came along the idea that it was so good that it was "bad". <br />
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What lingo do you remember evolving?<br />
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Radiant

Hi youngsters!<br />
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Actually, I have MORE energy than in my twenties, thirties and forties. Partly because I take time now to enjoy bits of each day, and partly because I am not going through any female problems, or the twenties developmental and social changes. I do have the last part of menopause, which creates unwanted mini personal summers.<br />
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I have simplified my surroundings and time schedule and I do not allow people who are cavernous pits of need into my life. I have bananished anyone who is a leech, liar, manipulator or consistently uncharitable.<br />
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The kids you all have, can be your only big source of consternation, for the most part of the next few years. <br />
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This too shall pass, and while you are going through the journey, you can find bits of love and satisfaction with them as well.<br />
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Good luck youngsters!<br />
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Radiant

Kids at any age can be a challenge!!!!<br />
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What a ride. lol

I am soon to be 60. Kids and grand kids are reagular autonomous people but we keep in contact. I find that friends at my Center for Spiritual Living and work are seen about as often as family is seen. My hubby is home often and he is attentive so I am not lonely. Now that I have a new 8 week old kitten, moments sitting or laying down include a good purr and cuddle. Books are often god for time, characters and interest. <br />
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Keep on filling your life with people and great moments, <br />
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R

Wow, i think we are twins, lol. I'm female, 45, clinically depressed, divorced, often lonely, in a good relationship but he is so busy at time, thank heavens though he is a talker. If u ever feel like being email buddies, just let me know!! Either wat, take care aand if u enjoy reading, the autobiography by Sidney Poitier *The Character of a Man* is a GREAT book.