Obesity Is a State of Mind Too

I have been obese most of my 48 years. I started life at 6 lbs 5 ounces and went up lol. I am male and stand 5' 10". I think I weigh over 400 lbs because I can't find a scale big enough to determine it exactly anymore. Now yes I feel like crap about not being thin and muscular, but I also know that I haven't let it stop me from living. I really believe being overweight doesn't mean you have to dress like a slob, feel terrible about yourself and worry what others think of you. I have been involved in many things from photography and the Chair for a Writer's Group.. to being 20 years in 4 different martial arts and getting my black belt in two of them.

I do believe people and society view us differently and for that there should be a change, but it also becomes the standard when we don't take care of ourselves because we are depressed and self-loathing. I believe you are what is inside of you. If you have let what the world sees as depressed and angry with low self-esteem, then everyone is going to see the worst in you. If you tell yourself every morning in front of the mirror that you love yourself and think happy thoughts about life, then the world is going to see you for that.

I once dated a girl when I was in high school whose father said that I was a slob because I was fat. From that day forward, I never wore track pants or sloppy clothes in public. I have always been optimistic in public and I do not judge or criticize others. Everyone has a right to be who or what they want. If their personality clashes with mine, I just move on and meet more people.

Over all we just have to take control of our lives and not expect everyone to approve. Who are they to judge us anyway? Why should we want anyone's approval anyway. There are enough people out there that we will find someone to love us as long as we are good and happy people.

Frostbear Frostbear
56-60, M
4 Responses Mar 22, 2009

Since I have gained weight, i have worried way too much about what people think to the point that i have missed out on way too much. I am now 57 years old and although i am still overweight, i am not going to miss out on things anymore. I like me as a person and i know many underweight people who are still not happy with themselves. It is a state of mind. It is hard to keep in mind, but there is not one person better than the other in this world and we all go out of it the same. Take Care!

Thank-you, starting today, I will try =D

Thanks chancemeeting and you are right. I am so sorry you feel the way you do Skinny. I know this sounds wrong but when I started telling myself this in the mirror (and some days still are tough) I lied. I sure didn;t love myself or who i was. I hated the feeling of my lard. I hated not being the one the opposite sex looked at. But that lying to msyelf every morning is also the only time I ever look into a mirror lol. You have to get past what it is that stopping you.

What a beautiful sentiment, I hope the world treats you with the respect and dignity that you deserve and I am so happy that you look in the mirror and love yourself...something I can't seem to be able to do!