Not Dieting, Taking Care of Myself

I have always been overweight, since I was a kid.  So when people say "i just wish i could get back to the size i was when I was in school or college, etc" I don't understand this.  I have gained weight since college but when you start out overweight, it doesnt seem to make a huge difference.  I have worked for a long time to really love myself and I have accepted my overweight body (for the most part, I think everyone has those "fat days" regardless of how thin/big they are).  I have started trying to take better care of myself, instead of trying to "lose weight".  I try to go for a walk at least 3-4 times a week and I have been cooking for myself which means more fruits and vegetables and good fats and not so much crap food!  I am still overweight and I probably always will be but I am feeling so much better lately!  So energetic!!
EmoHst EmoHst 26-30, F 19 Responses Sep 17, 2007

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Hi I'd like to help u when will u be online?

Its a process Emo, take your time and go easy on yourself. If you are feeling better that is a great start.

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I love how you are talking about this! It is about taking care of yourself. Fad dieting and extreme measures aren't necessary. It's better to look at it as a journey and you are doing a great job! Good for you!

I am going to have to lose my extra 30 pounds for a job that I plan to take later on. I have had to make some tough decision lately and I realize that where I am now is just temporary in several areas of my life. I cannot do the type of employment that I want for myself unless I weight around 150 and I am at 190. However I am tall and lanky so I don't look quiet as fat as that sounds but it still is depressing. I used to just go get something to eat right about now but that is self sabotage. I am looking for others that will help me stay on the wagon. EP has been good for me these last few months and I am reaching out about this weight thing. I don't want to take pills or anything I just want to eat right and start exercising more and maybe do some light weights to get better arms and leg toning. I felt and looked great at 150 lbs. Is there anyone out there with similar circumstances that would set some goals for weight loss with me by June ?

try searching it on Google its a book titled "The Truth About Six Pack Abs". i know its for men but it has advice on how to lose weight by not punishing your self on diets. whats the right meat to eat etc. it helps me lose weight. give it a try

Another healthy solution is incorporating coconut water into your diet. It's a metabolizer and full of electrolytes and nutrients. My favorite brand would have to be Vita Coco, it's really tasty.

Exercise should be part of everyone's routine for health reasons among others. I drink coconut water (my favorite is Vita Coco) and exercise reguarly, and I'm not a model or anything but it helps me feel better about myself.

one thing works and you can find out from me im honest and ima tell you what worked to get me from 256 to 172

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try searching it on Google its a book titled "The Truth About Six Pack Abs". i know its for men but it has advice on how to lose weight by not punishing your self on diets. whats the right meat to eat etc. it helps me lose weight. give it a try

I am the Founder/Executive Director for a non profit group called StaytheCourse Plus Size Community in the Kansas City metro area. We are a support organization that believes diet and exercise is only a band aid for the real deeper problems of overeating, emotional eating, compulsive eating. D&E are important components of course, but NOT the “be all-end all” it is touted to be. We believe in creating healthier lives (by your personal description of what that is).

We also believe it is important we not shut ourselves up in our homes and become hermits and world watchers. We are much too important and vital for that, we must function in our communities, no matter the size or shape of our bodies. I know how hard it is I weighed 425 pounds.

But my most important message today is to NOT focus on weight this year. There are so many other wonderful and varied ingredients within you- chose another focal point. Think about what else will give you the satisfaction of feeling healthy. Laughing more? Dancing naked? A relaxing moment to yourself?

Above all, StaytheCourse in your goals to healthier. And love yourself, like you want others to love you.

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I thought the same thing!

I lost 62lbs and if you read the inforamtion below you will find out why.

Being overweight is not your fault.

It doesn’t mean you’re a weak person with no willpower. The cause is a metabolic disorder called hyperinsulinism. The real culprits are food and advertising companies who spend BILLIONS every year convincing, courting, seducing and manipulating you into making all the wrong decisions for your health. Food companies design foods that are not compatible with human metabolism –– foods that are addictive, make you repeatedly hungry and cause you to gain weight. These manufacturers love overweight people because they eat much more than those who aren’t – and that’s good for business. With most commercially prepared foods, you are caught in a vicious cycle of their making – and anyone who is locked into it will inevitably pack on the pounds.

Diets are the problem, not the solution.

If you’re an American, you’ve most likely been on a diet—probably many. Sometimes you drop some weight; but then you gain it all back and more. That’s what most dieting does. It keeps people overweight because it looks at excess weight from the wrong metabolic perspective. Think about it. Americans diet more than anyone on Earth, and yet they’re the most obese people on Earth. Even diets that do work are tough to follow and only temporarily successful at best. Not a new idea...but a different approach.That’s why we had to come up with a totally different solution.

Our mission was to design a program so simple it could go on the back of a box — a program that would turn everyone’s diet problems into a simple solution. Our approach is based on work that’s been extensively reviewed by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), the Institute of Medicine and used in different forms by many high-cost medical weight loss clinics.

With this program, you eat LOTS, you won’t be hungry, and the extra fat will just fall away, with or without exercise (though exercise is always good)! Then, once you’ve dropped your initial weight, we transition you to a program pioneered by Harvard’s top weight management doctor, Dr. George Blackburn, so you can learn to keep the weight off once you’ve achieved your goals – and most importantly, stop your body from trying to return to its prior weight.

Remember, it’s not just about looks.

There are many other huge benefits that come from “downsizing.” Dropping as little as 10% of your body fat can reduce disease risk significantly. Many people report better blood sugar control, lower cholesterol, lower blood pressure, less joint pain, improved energy, better self-image, and greater confidence! The list could go on and on.

I hope this helped. Let me know if I can be of any help to you.

Happy Holidays!


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I had to make my husband my diet keeper because I have no self control when it comes to food. It has really helped to have someone who 'smacks my hand' when I go too far on snack food.

Just wanted to wish you luck! It takes time, but exercising and eating right will help you feel better.

Stay strong. :)

Yor story inspired me to take better care of myself. Starting tomorrow (it's 10pm) i am going to eat healthy and exercise!

Its so hard to eat healthy and exercise and have an normal life. Last year I joined nurtisystem and lost about 40lbs. I stopped eating crap, worked out every single day before work. (Which meant getting up sometimes at 3am). I felt great. I really did. I want to go back to that again. But im down b/c I have lost two jobs in the last year and im feeling pretty worthless right now. It seems a lot of bad stuff is happening to me lately and I feel like I have no control. I keep saying im going to get back on it b/c I have gained 20lbs back of the 40 lost. I want to be tiny b/c im 5'3. I did it before and I know I can do it again. Your story helped me realize that I feel better when I eat right. Thank you for sharing your story!