Surrogate Mother

I'm an older Witch, a Crone, and very fortunate that I don't need to be in the broom closet. I have a large Pagan family, and we live in the middle of nowhere. We recently did a Baby Blessing for my grandson here. 

I know most of you are young, and many of you live in cities or places where it isn't easy being Pagan. Some of you might need a Mother figure to offload onto. I'm good at that, I'll listen. I'm friendly, I'm kind, I'm even funny. But I will tell you the truth. I will not mollycoddle you.

So, perhaps this is an introduction rather than a story. I have many stories:)

chovhani chovhani
46-50, F
10 Responses Aug 29, 2007

That is amazing! Im wiccan but pagans seem interesting. I would love to know about it if your willing to :)

Crones are inspirational women, considered wise women, and very valuable to the pagan community. When you reach that stage, you tend to have a lot of life experience under your belt and you usually know of where you speak. I'm not Wiccan, per-se, but i do like the whole Maiden, Mother and Crone symbology, as it fits the stages of a Woman's life very well. I am male, and i value both the femminine and the masculine, but i have always valued the wisdom of my elders male or female. And I ramble a lot as well hehe

No, I'm not Wiccan. I can join in with Wiccan rituals just fine, and not make too many embarrasing mistakes, but Wicca is more structured, and I am not, ROFL. Being Pagan is always tricky to define, but for me it boils down to the divinity of Nature and my connection to that. Really, the rest is just details. But you raise an important question, so I am going to post a new story on this group covering just that.

Chovani, what does it mean for you to be pagan exactly? Do you practice Wicca?

chovhani Merry Meet, I have been Wait and wanting you to log in Merry Met and Merry Meet Again. I got To Go but will be on again soon

I think the best book for the day-to-day stuff is "Paganism" by Joyce Higginbotham. I recommend that to anyone curious, because it's no-nonsense stuff:)

It only works financially if you commute or are flexible with where you work, and when there is work out here, wages are usually lower. My husband commutes, I work at home. There really isn't a great deal of work out here at all. But property is cheaper than in the city, be it purchasing or renting, so the lower income balances out. Socially, no, if you are a person who needs nightlife it wouldn't work. We have to entertain ourselves. Country people don't support bars, clubs or restaurants, so even if they open out here, they don't stay in business very long. We have a minimum 45 minute drive to eat out. Likewise for movies. Our social lives, therefore, centre around visiting each others' homes. <br />
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It's like every decision about where to live, you must weigh the advantages against the disadvantages. I think perhaps the country life is more suited to the middle-aged, or to kids who've never known any different.

That sounds amazing, like the type of life I'd love to be living. I'm stuck in the big city. I've always lived here, so I'm used to it, but I'd much rather be out in the middle of nowhere with nature, living off the land. I just don't think it's really financially or sociably feasible for me at this point in time. Maybe someday. :)

I consider myself very fortunate, yes. But of course it takes time, it didn't start out this way:) So much seems to depend on where you live, I'm so remote there's still only dial-up internet;) We moved here by choice so we could grow food and raise animals and generally do as we please. The only time I don't relish it all is January and February when it's so cold and snowy. But even that has its good bits.

Oh I envy you!! I have a small circle of Pagan friends and thats all. :( You seem like you live a neat life!