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My Story Is Similar, I Suppose.

Like many, I first identified as bisexual, unaware that there was a term that much more appropriately encompassed a capacity for love much larger than just "male" and "female."

I tend to fall for people on a individual basis, regardless of what gentialia they do (or do not!) have. In fact, I've never understood how anyone could be comfortable placing themselves within such rigid parameters where love is concerned. Why limit oneself when there're infinite possibilities?

lastleafoffall lastleafoffall 26-30 21 Responses Apr 21, 2009

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So am I.

how would you define pansexual.
I define it by; could I fall in love with any LBGT person as my soulmate.
what are your thoughts on this?

For me, its being attracted to who a person is inside...regardless of their gender identity or outward appearance. I tend to not care what folks have going on down below or how they identify. I'm open to the idea of loving anyone.

Thats how I feel too. I wonder if others can't understand our position/feelings because they have a hard time seeing the person inside themselves or others. Maybe this leads them to lashout or reject the idea because they want it but can't grasp it. Humm, I don't know but it make me feel a little sad, and at the same time I feel a little motivated to try and do something to help. Again, thank you for posting this it's a very strong step in encouraging others to understand if in no other way then admeration of your confidence and passion.

I like your idea of considering yourself pansexual as a development, evolution of the idea of bisexual. I'm trying to develop this aspect of my sexuality, but I am also very intrigued by the idea of polyamory. Have you considered it?

I have in the past, yes. I've never actually tried it, though. There was a time that I loved two people at once, but the one wasn't about sharing me with anyone. I have seen it work before, though. Its a beautiful concept, for sure.

Dear lastleafoffall,

I have only considered this hypothetically not in real, practical terms. You might want to take a look at a book called 'The Ethical ****'. It investigates the wide variety of implications of loving more than one person at the same time.

I would love the chance to experience that.

You are not the first to suggest this book to me. I may just have to give it a read. :)

See the second edition. The ideas are further developed by the same authors. I was convinced to buy it, even though it's not something immediately applicable in my own life. Just reading it helps you to envision all of the emotional, legal, financial, medical and other issues that arise in such combinations of lovers.

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Intricate entwined and diversely involved is to sum up the possibilities in sharing of two people's desires. Quite right ! Why limit the options ?

add me please. lets talk

You are fortunate in that your emotions lean toward postitives, ie., love, relationships, etc.
Ours are however, less noble. Good for you, and thank you for sharing.

I have defined myself as straight for most of my life. I'm certain a significant part of it is in adaptation to the norms I have been exposed to but I'm not sure how much of it is that and how much of it comes from somewhere else.

This is exactly the way it worked out for me. I originally called myself bisexual purely because I didnt know how else to identify. Then someone told me what a pansexual was and it all made sense. It was just great to finally be able to put a name to how I feel.

I, too, have labeled myself as bisexual, but consider myself to be more accurately a Pansexual... though I must admit I do NOT consider myself to be Pan-emotional (to coin a term). While I enjoy sexual pleasures with those of any gender or other persuasion... male, female, CD, TG, etc., experience has shown that I do not tend to form strong emotional bonds with those of my own gender, men. Not to say it COULDN'T happen, but I just don't see it. While still fairly masculine, I am also a man more in-touch with his feminine side than many, and I delight in sharing both sides of my personality with women, or others who are as feminine as a biological woman.

Very well said! I too enjoy sex with M,F, CD, and TG, etc, but form stronger emotional bonds with the opposite sex. I think I would be happiest with a bi or pansexual woman.

so well said...............bravo!

so well said...............bravo!

100% true<br />
thats what we need...thanks 4 share

Exactly. Who can't stop who you fall in love with. Why try and narrow it down, when it might be something totally different than what you expect?

i hate the idea of accepting the roles that the old out dated cultures set up for us. if a women wants to wear a strap on and ride me i am ok with that be cause if we are at that point my main wish is to satisfy here wishes.

For quite a while I used 'trisexual' - "I'll try anything, at least twice to make sure I did it right the first time."<br />
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When asked if she was bisexual in an interview, Ani DiFranco one replied, "bisexual, trysexual, whatever - make me an offer!"<br />
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I love that. When we're in a world where all anyone expects from anyone else is "make me an offer," I'll be quite happy.

I love you lady ^_^

Very true

i didnt know there was a term until the past weekend

Wow<br />
I understood that.<br />
Iam straight but admire that alot

you said it all

exactly honey. x