Well I Like To Think I Was...

I used to congratulate myself on being so perceptive...understanding how people are feeling, why they react the way that they do and in some senses I still am...I know what to say to make people feel at ease...but since joining EP, I've learnt that you can never tell what lies behind that avatar...it never ceases to surprise me...

surprise me...
Isshe Isshe
36-40, F
8 Responses Jul 10, 2010

I'm not sure what happened there TNP...a repeat of my other comment???<br />
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It's true, I have a great friend who has AS, and without it she would be a completely different person. And I like her just the way she is. AS and all! One thing I notice that you are both good at is your ability to express yourself in words. I struggle with words but find that despite this disadvantage so many people I have met have been able to see past my awkwardness, and see the real me.<br />
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WB, you are right..there are the odd few EPers who are not trustworthy. In my year here I have maybe met a handful but I refuse to let it get in the way of being open to meeting new friends.

It's fascinating to watch relationships form and break apart on here. It's a constant ebb and flow of emotion. You do have to be careful of those who will take advantage of the vulnerable. The written word can be fraught with misunderstanding if we are not careful and it's wise to be cautious. Overall though there are many decent people on here and it's worth making an effort to get to know them.

Thanks for sharing that with us TNP. It seems that no AS individual is the same. I got the impression that the internet was a great mode of communication for people with AS as it put them on par with everyone else...no confusing voice tones, facial ex<x>pressions, body language...but I guess the written word is not always literal either...

Oh, it helps a lot. Seriously. Before I knew I had AS, I just let it be known that I was a bit offbeat before I met people. Now that I know I have it, I'm completely open about it. I like people to know what I'm like before I meet them so that they're prepared for the stranger elements.<br />
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But... it's still not perfect - the difficulties go deeper.<br />
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Butbut... I don't want to sound like I'm complaining. AS has difficulties and challenges, that's true. But the condition isn't just about those. I don't consider it to be a disability or a problem or something to be lamented. I actually enjoy the differences. I'd be a completely different person if I didn't have the condition. But probably not a better person. And almost definitely a less interesting person.

Thanks for sharing that with us TNP. It seems that no AS individual is the same. I got the impression that the internet was a great mode of communication for people with AS as it put them on par with everyone else...no confusing voice tones, facial ex<x>pressions, body language...but I guess the written word is not always literal either...

Very little about social interaction has ever come naturally to me. I scrutinised people and read books on the subject. I studied it. And I learned how to fake it. Surprisingly, I developed some very skewed results. There are still things I will never understand, but there are other things where I will look straight to the heart of a person and decide - in a heartbeat - whether I can trust that person or not.<br />
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Online, though... it's a very different story. I can't tell the difference between gentle flirting and jokes and serious statements and threats and warnings and hundreds of things like that. So often, when there's been a bit of flirting or joking, I'll step back a bit, then come straight out and ask a person whether they're being serious or not. Just so I know where I stand.<br />
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I love the internet. It's a great way of getting to meet new people. Ultimately, however, it's got to lead on to actual genuine meetings or phone conversations or bits of interaction without being concealed behind this facade of words on a screen. Or I'll never stand a chance of getting to know the people I'm talking to.<br />
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So... it's definitely possible to surprise me. In fact, the surprises are what I'm waiting for.

Yes...it's the eyes that usually say it all...

....and I thought you guys were too little to jump! lol