Feeling Put-uponSo i wrote in (Couldn't have my heart broken in a better way) about how i felt about L going monogamous, and going his own way in a different relationship. I was dong well.. i was all about him working this relationship that seemed to make him happy and settled in who he was..
the NRE didnt last long for him, and for a long time i was a sounding board, giving him ideas and suggestions for compromise, communication and overall success in his relationship, which i was fine with- i wanted him to be successful I wanted him to be happy.
But it just dint work that way, She got demanding, and he got resentful of all he had to sacrifice for him. Then she started ignoring him, and eventually moved to another relationship without so much as a bl
And im left picking up all the pieces, and im frustrated, he's clinging calling me several times a day... not for support but to ***** about the same things over and over again, and sit in silence just breathing at me. And even though i love him dearly after a week of this im starting to dread his name on my messenger.
It's draining me, not just because of the stuff about heartbreak that is tiresome, but because he is obsessing, he's clinging and he's refusing to even TRY to move on. He has a therapist, and he's working it out there.. but in the meantime i'm hoping to preserve what we have and failing miserably.
I dont want to hurt him while he's already so low but im TIRED... work has been really hard on my lately (i work in a mental hospital) and i've got issues of my own.
how can i show him my love and support without draining myself dry over him?
Shierke 26-30, F 4 Responses 0 Dec 7, 2010