I'm So Tired Of Struggling

 I have been poor my whole life. In a nation as wealthy as America, i often feel like i don't fit in. My friends will say things like, "i'm so broke," while they have $4,000 in their savings account and parents who will hand them cash whenever they want it. Everything i see, read, or hear about is geared towards the middle or upper classes. The working poor are simply ignored.

I moved out on my own at 16 years old due to a bad family situation. I had to drop out of school to do it. I have been working full-time pretty much ever since. At 25, i went back to school, as i felt it was my only way out. I'm still there, at 28, entirely on loans and very small grants. Although i go the most inexpensive school in my area, I worry constantly about the debt i'm accumulating (it will be around $30,000 when all's said and done). 

I have, at times, resorting to selling my possessions to buy food, and even once, to buy Christmas gifts for my niece. I resorted to much, much worse when i was between 16 and 18, and couldn't legally work without a work permit, which my mother refused to sign.

Being so broke often compromises my ideals. Any clothes that i can afford are made in sweatshops. I want to buy organic and ethically produced foods, but i have to buy whatever is on sale, generic, or i have a coupon for. There's no room for ideals in my checkbook.

My husband and i both work and go to school full-time. I have the happiest marriage you could ever hope for, and the only thing we ever fight about is money. I had to switch to part-time work this year in order to stay in school. I make about $100 a week. This doesn't even cover groceries for myself, my husband, and our pets.

We live paycheck to paycheck. My teeth are rotting out of my head but i can't afford dental care. I have not had health insurance for 12 years. We just had to go on government health care. I never thought i would be here, at 28, on welfare. I'm doing all the right things, but it never gets better. My husband and i are waiting to have kids until we are financially ready, and who knows if that will ever happen. In order to be responsible, and stay on birth control, i have to have annual gyno exams. My last one cost $775. When the clinic worker told me that if i paid up front i could get a discount, making my exam around $425. When I told her i didn't have $400 in my bank account, she said, "Can't you use mom's credit card?" like it was the most normal question in the world. 

I'm tired. I'm tired of taking the bus. I'm tired of fighting over $30 purchases. I'm tired of worrying. 

I'm tired of struggling just to get by. 

Update: 11/8/13
Thanks to everyone who commented. I appreciate your kind words and shared stories. It's important that these kinds of stories are shared. People need to realize the severity of the problem we as country are facing. 

Well, it's been 4 years since I posted this story and a lot has changed. I'm still happily married and still have my pets (and we're fostering a baby stray right now, too!). I graduated college at the top of my class (4.0 GPA!) after working, doing an unpaid internship, and volunteering while attending school. It was a very hard time but I got through it. 

We moved out of state and I'm working at a non-profit and making $38,000 a year, which is a lot of money to me. The job is stressful and tough, but it pays the bills. The cost of living is very high here, so that salary doesn't go far. Our rent is $1,100 a month (not a great place or neighborhood, either) and my student loan payments are $360 a month. I won't even get into utilities! BUT, things are still better. I have health insurance! I had my teeth fixed! And my furbabies eat the best quality food. I am happy. I don't have much expendable income, but I also don't have to constantly balance the checkbook down to the penny anymore, which is a GIANT weight off my shoulders. 

Things sometimes get better, but they also sometimes get worse, despite doing all the right things. I realize that everything is temporary, and I'm not getting too used to comfort. I do think the US does a terrible job of looking after our poor and working class. The assumption that these people are just lazy and have all the latest high-tech gadgets and just prioritize badly is flat out WRONG. Calling things like doctor visits "frivolous expenses" is just as wrong. Working class people in this country need job security, a living wage, and the ability to retire with dignity. That is not asking much.

At one point in time in this country, you could support a family of 4 with a factory job. That is not the case anymore. It's time we look at what has caused this change and reverse it. Working people should not have to resort to welfare. Not here. Not ever. 

Sending positive thoughts to all those who commented and those who are also fighting to keep your head above water. I hope the winds change in your favor and you don't have to struggle anymore. Hang in there <3 


Mistletoe10 Mistletoe10
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135 Responses Nov 17, 2009

Unfortunately I am more poor than all of you,my house isnt that good its old,not well painted,we dont even have air Conditioner but i am grateful for what little I have.

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Add a response... I am also so poor and not talented what i do

My situation is far worse i work two low paid jobs i pay rent bus pass food gas and electric a friend at work gives me clothes she no longer wants my neice is entitled to free school meals but my sister refuses even tho i have to do most of the food shopping i want to study but that is not a option as no money or time i work 7 days aweek i live with my 2 sisters and neice they assume cus i wrk i have loads of money so i have to help them out sometimes with cigs boooze i dont drink or smoke i worked 7 years since i left sixth form and ive never saved up i usually have a tener in before my next pay day i give monthly payments to two charities i have never been abroad or on holiday i dont even know what a hotel looks like no man wants me im a poor loser

Look you are going to have to be a little mean here. Cigs and booze can go. Tell them you cannot afford it and do not relent. If they want to force you or get physical then leave. It is that simple you are already a good person for doing this. They can live without their only income for a few weeks, they will change their tune, or they will surprise you and take care of themselves. Its mean and I know you want to care for the little ones, but you have to cut off all un-necessary expenses. Its the only way to even start progressing. BTW getting mean is something you will find yourself doing more and more as you try to survive. LEARN IT NOW. That being said I will pray for you. I know what it's like. You won't find any bull crap feel good answers from me, only practical truth. God bless...

Well shazadei, time to push the self-preservation button. You live with leeches. They gonna drain you financially, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Takers don't have limits so as a giver, you gonna have to set them.
You're visibly a hard working person so that won't be a problem. Now you need to work on your courage: move out, rent a room or a small apartment, live with minimum comfort (tv isn't a necessity), STOP giving money to charities (do it later, when you fixed your money problem), save, save, save and get yourself the education you crave. Do a practical course, acquire a transferable skill; secretary or accounting for instance. Something that won't cost too much nor take too long to give you a chance at improving your life. It's ok to put your needs first sometimes. If it makes you feel bad, think of it this way: when can you help the most, when you're broke and tired or when you're happy and well-off?

Best of luck!

I can relate to some things you said. Except that I am certified disabled and the government refuses to give me assistance despite I have no money and can't work. Your statement, "Everything i see, read, or hear about is geared towards the middle or upper classes." (In Canada its the families that matter... us single, disabled people are nothing to our country) is so true except that its worse for those of us disabled who can't work, can't get welfare or disability and whatever you do don't beg because you will be made to feel like the most worthless human being alive, you will still have nothing, and can only pray and cry for death amidst the anxiety that will consume you. I know this from experience. :(

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I teared up reading how much your situation has improve. I'm happy for you. I'm living in poverty and I hope too,that my situation can improve. I'm 21 and am always scared that this will be my life because my parents never got out of poverty and seem to have accepted it. I have no job,I can't focus enough to keep one,so I am in therapy to hopefully get meds to help with that. I am glad that there are programs that do help (SNAP,Medicaid) with necessities,but I don't want to beon them and it fills me with shame,I feel so worthless and hopeless. I still live with parents who are barely making it themselves,so I feel like a burden. I am hoping that things work out with medication,so I can provide and move up in life.(job,car,college etc).

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I can understand the poverty, I am unemployed and have been for 10 years, no one in our area wants to hire me because of 3 reasons I have been told, no reliable transportation, my location and my age...yes my age is 50! My husband has multiple sclerosis, we live in a very badly falling apart 1967 trailer, and our water is in a holding tank that we have to haul in a bucket to the house, for showers and etc! But the worst part the holding tank has real bad algy by that we can't get rid of!
My disabled husband is getting so skinny, I am afraid he is malnutritioned ..we do eat on $148.00 a month! I may look like I eat more but I do not, I gained weight after my hysterectomy and having to eat a lot of beans and cheap foods that don't go bad easily! We eat one meal a day most the month unless we get a tater for lunch or cheese and crackers! I have tried to get jobs even in places that are scary to me such as the grave yard..so no I have not been picky! We have had people dump their broken junk and trash on our property, and we can't afford a trash dumpster to get rid of it! We live deep in the middle of the desert cause we can't afford regular living!

So, I am American born, but still live as if I,m in a 3rd world country...where's my American dream!

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This I understand. You want to work but cannot. I am disabled, having no right knee cap, among other things. I am lucky I got on disability. It took five years. Before that however things were bad. Really bad. Starving bad. My wife has cancer and we do not qualify for anything bad. We could not afford treatment only to go to the doctor once a month to see it progressing. It drove me utterly mad. I though about a lot of things. I begged. I thought about just getting a gun and forcing a doctor to remove the tumor at gunpoint. Hell I even though about just going to a rich neighborhood and taking everything I needed by force. I thought about robbing a bank. I thought about a lot...

My wife got too sick to work and lost her job. THEN we qualified for something. My wife got better after having the tumor removed and was able to return to work. I eventually got on disability. Now days we live in a house that is poisoning us and does not have heat. I have to wear a brace and take high power narcotics to get firewood cut for every winter. We have to grow our own vegetables, again I have to take narcotics to do it. But we are ALIVE! every year we try to plant more, till more ground, cut more trees.

I do not know what to tell you to help honestly. I just thought you would like hearing from someone who understands. I can only pray for us all and keep trying to survive!

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I agree with most of what you said. Our government helps the poor to the extent of which if you are a single mother with several children and no father in sight. You will get the world in welfare money food stamps benefits and even renting a house in beautiful neighborhoods that the working class can't afford to purchase. Our government overlooks the average working joe that just can't seem to make ends meet and is looking not for a handout but rather a little assistance while they struggle to get their heads above water It seems in today's society you are denied help if you are married have a job and are trying to be a productive member of society

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im poor we have no money i have a broken back on every gov thing there is my rent is 1600 for a piese of crap no job rent eviction two kids mental disordser im poor help me.

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I'm so sorry to hear about the struggles that you've had, but on the other hand, I'm glad that things have improved since you originally shared your story.
I agree that America doesn't do enough to help the poor. While there are some programs that have helped (like food stamps, the Pell Grant, Obamacare, etc.), I honestly don't think that it's enough. Plenty of people are still vulnerable to poverty, hunger, and homelessness - myself included.
I have been looking for work since high school but have had a lot of trouble doing so. While the job market certainly has improved, and while many of my friends have found jobs, there is still the chance that some people, including myself, will remain unemployed indefinitely. Right now, I am fortunate that my parents let me live with them and support me financially, but what will I do if I don't find a job by the time they pass away? Will I become homeless and starve?
In order to prevent such things from happening, the government should take more active steps to prevent this from happening. While some presidents have been better about trying to fight poverty than others (e.g. FDR and LBJ), none of them have taken big enough steps to guarantee the financial well-being and stability of its citizens.
If I were president, I would not take poverty, hunger, or homelessness lightly - and would take active, aggressive steps to end them. There are two possible methods that I would take to guarantee citizens' well-being. One method would be to guarantee all citizens free housing and food. The other method would be to guarantee all citizens a basic income - not a guaranteed minimum income since that only would help those that are already working - not those that aren't. However, due to Congress, I realize that actually getting such things passed would be easier said than done, which might partly explain why such systems aren't already in place.
I hope we have such systems one day, and I hope that nobody will have to worry about working just to have necessities that should be considered basic human rights. I say we adopt FDR's Second Bill of Rights.

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My whole life has been a similar rollercoaster ride. Even though I was poor growing up, I worked hard to get ahead. On into adulthood, at one time I had a wonderful job that paid 40K/yr, I owned a house, could pay my bills, buy tons of groceries, frivolous shopping, and spending, full medical/dental benefits... then I had a baby with a disability and lost everything... 8 years later, I'm almost done with finishing my first college degree, accumulating around 80K in debt, unemployed, living with my parents, trying to figure out how to pay for gas, food, medical, etc... I know it's temporary, I know I'll reach a point where I won't have to struggle so much... but I'm just so tired of the struggle right now - it's exhausting and depressing. I'm glad I found your post, it comforted me and reminded me that it's going to be okay. Hope you're still doing well!

I feel you but for America to fix these problems are going to take a lot of effort and cooperation for us to have a fair wealth environment in America but we can do it!!!

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No words can comfort your pain dear but I can understand your pain as my life is also full of struggle; a never ending struggle..
For me i am okay with compromised life but when it comes to my family i feel so bad n pitty.
Everyday i ask myself why we are poor? my mom lost her teeth cause she can't pay dental bills, i am eager to help ma family but waiting for completion of graduation..each n everyday seems like decade.. My day ends with my tears,i m helpless..
I cant die my mom's face Scare's me.
If you hv some money u cn easily make huge money but if u r bankrupt it needs a long long struggle. Well saying-if u born poor its not ur fault but if u die poor its definitely ur fault..

just die man lol

Homeless with a husband and 3 month old son. My husband works 60 hours a week however
silicon valley is way to expensive!! We can't afford to move in and can't aford toove away.. Streets and this shelter is all we have. I'm 25 my husband is 25 and we just want our son safe and healthy!! I wish we had some help however I guess asking doesn't always work seeing as how this has been going for years now.. Idk anymore I can't give up but this is getting too difficult... :-( the worst pain is looking into your child's eyes and feel helpless

Thanku soo much, for sharing
Helped alot

Omg, i feel for your story. Ever since I graduated I have been struggling financially. Even when I had my first job I had it r ough , barely got through. I was so depressed at the job I had to quit. I was unemployed for almost 1,5 year til I got my another job wich sadly only lasted last year til Summer, I t was more paid than my other job now im on square one again :( on unemployment and so freakin tired of it. I want to travel , I want to earn money like anyone else!!! I apply job after job...not even a single interview. I hope its gonna turn around. This is no way of living. I want the best for my furbabies and me ^^

Thats a great article,helped alot

Thank you for your story. I needed to read this. I'm also struggling as a wife and mother to one child. I was recently laid off. I have a Master's Degree and far from lazy but had to apply for government assistance. The humility I faced while putting the pen to the paper when applying. You're treated differently and looked down upon. Something is wrong with our economy. We pay athletes and celebrities too much $. Who's helping the working class? I'm a believer things will change because I'm tired of the sleepless nights and tears.

Positive thinker,

I'm poor too
But also a founder & CEO of a company
I never earned anything from my Company.
I fight with my parents, I fight with my girlfriend.
I live a low life with big hopes.
I see big people and cry on bed.
Sometimes I feel like committing suicidethen I remember the face of my mom
I don't wannahurt my family
I tried to earn some on fiverr but I just earned 40$ in 6 months
My life is waste I'm 24 yr old guy

I don't have a single friend and I'm always sitting at home and gaining weight. I hardly get a call on my iPhone.

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I need help with my teeth and I don't have the money to get them work on please help me.

I completely understand what your going through. Even though honestly I'm not sure your going to even see my post because this post was up years ago you put up. I moved in September with my boyfriend at the time now fiancé to North Carolina we were staying with my friend and her mother at there place. I moved out of my parents place in new york so did my fiancé. In new York I worked in a department store for 9 years. I applied to a few in North Carolina. A lot of them just plain told me I'm not the right fit which I don't understand. My fiancé worked in an animal hospital in New York and the one here told him they would consider him but didn't need the help. My fiancé and I were out a lot looking for jobs and my friend didn't luke that so she basically just kicked us out one day. We slept in the car one night but my fiancé got a hold of his parents who offered us to western union is money to find a place to stay since I had an interview the following day and wanted to shower and not sleep in the car. We had stayed at a motel for a few weeks and I found a job. Unfortunately at my job I got harassed and constantly made fun of and when I spoke to management about it they seemed to listen but not care much. So I ended up leaving that job my fiancé and I were looking for other work my fiancé got some money from his disability check so we got an apartment. We also have food stamps but they run out pretty fast. My fiancé recently found a landscaping job which pays pretty well but until we get his paycheck or the disability check comes in we really don't have much. I feel bad for my fiancé he's working lots of hours and there are times when he comes in the door and he's hungry for dinner and we don't have much. We tried making hamburgers the other night but because of our money situation we had to use pans that weren't that great and the burgers messed up. We rely a lot on his paycheck and the disability check and if we need help sometimes his parents will help us otherwise my family doesnt help because they don't like the decision I made when I moved. I hope things will get better. Right now we have not much silverware only a few plates. We have an air mattress we sleep on but no furniture. My fiancé and I both need contact lenses but don't have the money now for them. I am way over due for a doctors appointment and need one. My fiancé needs a doctor also because he takes medication he needs. It's just a mess I hope things get better. I pray everyday and some days I feel it's hopeless. I feel horrible seeing my fiancé upset and saying he failed me. Because I love him so much. So I understand the hard times people are facing believe me!

I feel the same way. I was so poor and frustrated I moved out at 15.. I'm now 25 I've had some ups in my life.. I went to college and did well but have nothing to show for.(had to stop because it was too expensive). All in all I have no way of supporting myself financially. I can't even afford to work right now. (No bus route and my car blew its engine) I'm glad you've found a way out of this hell and I hope to some day be able to look back at all of this. I struggle with thoughts of suicide daily because its the only thing I can do to better my situation. If there is a god he's surely not on my side. I just wish people who have support from their family would appreciate it. Just my experience.

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Hello Mistletoe:), don't know if you will see this, as your post is from years ago, but I just wanted to say that I can relate. I currently live in South Florida (Miami) which has grown to be divided between the "haves" and "have nots"; foreign investment has taken over many areas and subsequently forced many apartment rental prices to skyrocket. Months ago, I lived in a one bedroom, that had no microwave or dishwasher and a cockroach issue (that I did not cause) and I was paying $1000 per month, not including groceries or utilities. Thats just one example. Its quite difficult to find a substantial, safe and nice apartment here for less than a $1000 per month, which is currently out of my budget:(. As yourself, I had recently decided to go back to school, pursuing first an AA, then my BA and possibly an MBA later. While I know that this will no doubt accrue loans and take a few years to complete, Im hoping that I can apply the skills learned to finding a higher paying job, as well as help grow my indie business. In the meantime, I am working for a non profit but the salary is not enough to warrant me living on my own. You're right, it is hard and im doing this without the support of a husband or family for the most part. I also agree that the "minimal wage" or salaries that many earn are not in direct correlation with the costs of living in many cities. Rent is not supposed to be more than about 30% of salary but in Miami, on average, the costs of rent takes up about 43% of incomes! that is ridiculous. The concept of "Middle Class" has grown to such an extent that those who were considered middle class years ago are now on the verge of being considered poor or lower class, just based upon salary. I also can relate to what you mentioned about health/dental/vision insurance. My job offers no benefits (argh!) and so I went plenty of years without proper checkups or dental cleanings etc. Recently, I signed up for dental and vision, while my health insurance is covered by a relative but copays and such are still expensive. Im actually considering moving away once my studies are complete. Its just a tad too stressful living here. Im glad to hear that you successfully completed your studies and with a 4.0!! that is quite an accomplishment, considering all that you were dealing with. I am currently trying to fight against the urge to be depressed, Im living in a 1 bedroom apartment with a relative so its not the most comfortable situation and Im a person that thrives in solitude. Wishing you the best!


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Literally, my story, only we have 4 kids (blended family). The struggle feels unbearable at times. Every time it seems like it's gonna get better, something else happens. Not a stitch of saving, can hardly (well, we really can't make it from one week to the next) it's who can we get an advance from, who is still willing to loan us $ (nobody) my husband is a teacher, can't support your family in a very modest lifestyle on that anymore.all 5 of us are in a 2 bedroom part , sharing 1 car. I'm crying and feeling very helpless and hopeless. I'm worried about the future of my children with our American government today...

Well: I came from a POOR family. I borrowed and put myself through university. It took seven years of education, bartending while attending school full time, and massive debt to pay off afterwards, but now I'M doing fine , thank you very much. Me; I got tired of being poor and helpless. and feeling sorry for myself. Boo hoo, life handed me lemons. I decided It would not be easy, but if I didn't do something for myself nobody else would.






im poor too i wear the same clothes everyday and at the same time i live with 5 people in 1 house plus my babygirl i recently had on the 11th of june and i tried applying for jobs all over my local city but noone wants to hire me and theyr are times that my babygirl has to go without and my fiance doesnt know what to do we tried even selling stuff online but nobody wants to buy what we have so we struggle alot also like everyday we wake up with no food to eat and we also worry about what were going to have for dinner everyday and then we also have problems with money cause we have to pay for other peoples bills and food too and im tired of it .''

I know EXACTLY how you feel! :( First of all, I want to say congratulations on your success. I know how hard school is and for you to have struggled with all that and still get a 4.0 is just an incredible feat you should always be so proud of yourself for!!! Seriously! Anyways, I can so relate to your story because I happened to be born into a welfare family with a single parent mother (she was hit by a semi-truck when I was only seven years old and ever since she has been on welfare). Even though I never expected to be able to afford college, I was able to graduate with my AA (with honors) and I just graduated from a State school with my BA (not 4.0 but 3.5 GPA!!) I was fortunate enough to have some emotional (but not financial) support from my fiance, my grandparents and my fiance's parents. However, now I have $15K in debt. Where I live in California, I just calculated that you would need over 5x the minimum wage to afford a decent apartment (outside the extremely dangerous areas). My fiance has a job in San Francisco and we tried moving out on that salary but we were unable to find a safe place to live even just renting out a single room (most people refuse to rent to couples too fyi) so we were forced to move back in with my grandparents. I'm extremely thankful that they let us move back in but I feel extremely guilty that we had to ask them to do it because I feel at 25 I should be able to afford a decent place to live after graduating University. I am still looking for a job but I haven't been hired yet and the added stress isn't helping. Reading your post really helped me (more than you could ever know) because I am living everyday day to day because I am so ashamed of myself, and I really do think a lot of it boils down to the economy and no cap on rent prices that are at the true root of the problem, but I don't want to be someone who makes excuses for myself. I feel like we are trying to do everything we can (doing everything right) and we are still so behind what was expected of us by now. We are even putting off getting married because we want to be able to get married and have a place to go other than my grandparents house, plus we will have to pay for the entire wedding as neither of our families plan on contributing at all to any wedding expenses. This had made me not even want to look at wedding plans because we can barely afford food. I also have two younger sisters who are doing even worse off because they haven't even gotten through any sort of upper education and are either living at home with my mother (on welfare) or in a half-way house because they have mental illness issues (which runs in my family). I feel so sad and as the oldest sibling I feel a need to look after and nurture my sisters too, so I end up spending more time/energy/money on them than I can honestly afford too. My fiance has been amazing throughout all of this and is my only true best friend, but obviously even he is stressed. He is trying to emotionally AND financially support me while I am still struggling to find a job and I feel bad that its the first time since I left my mom's house that I can't even support myself with basic things like food. We only ever fight about money, and we are living paycheck to paycheck just to pay for basic expenses like food, toiletries, cellphone bills and some rent to my grandparents, but we have no savings to speak of. My personal bank account has less than $100. I say this only because I need to say it to anyone who will listen, because I am so desperately at the end of my rope I am starting to lose hope. I have dreamed for so long to have my own place to call my own (growing up my parents would always taunt me with "when you are 18 you can do anything that you want" only to grow up to 25 and everyday have it ingrained that that was such a lie). I have barely enjoyed a minute of my life because I've spend so much time longing after something that seems to just be a thing of the past - having a car, a house, a family, and a stable job all by the time you are 25. I know from reading online that I'm not the only one who is struggling with these things it just makes me so sad the pain is almost paralyzing. Like you said, I'm just so tired of struggling. I'm so sick and tired of trying to do all the right things and it never being good enough. It has effected my self esteem so much that it is taking every muscle in my body right now not to just give up and do something horrible and irreversible to myself. I've struggled with depression (for which I cannot afford any sort of therapy or medication) and I've often had suicidal thoughts. I have never gotten to the point of acting on these (thank God!) but the sad reality is that they are there. They creep in and are determined to defeat me. I'm trying so hard not to let them win. :'(

Yeah I know how you feel. I have been broke all of my life, too. I started college over ten years ago online because my work schedule wouldn't allow me to take classes on campus. I only need six classes to get my bachelors degree, but I don't have the money to finish it because I have maxed out my financial aid. So i'm still working in the same factory with dramatic co workers. I owe everybody and their grandma. My student loans with interest have accumulated to nearly $80,000 over the past 7 years since I stopped going to school. I have had to put my loans in forbearance, get income based payment plans and everything. I live paycheck to paycheck.

It just sucks being broke. I tried to use my education and money from my income tax refund to start an online business. That was a flop, a waste of time, and a serious waste of my money. It is so discouraging, especially when you really put forth an effort to do the right thing to earn a living, and all you end up doing is just scraping the bottom of the barrel.

To make matters worse, we just got a raise at work, just to find out that our insurance premiums have almost doubled per week. It just seems like we just can not get ahead no matter what.

I know your pain. I have a husband and three kids of my own. Hopefully one day things will get better.

Wow . I know what you mean. Im 57. I work in a factory. I make 40,0000 a year. divorce . single income . Even at 40,000 Im still classified as part of the poor . Im also tired of struggling. I want to retire in 9 years. But most likely won't happened.

Glad things worked out for yall. Im only 21 and been living on my own since 16 also, my mom acts like im not her child just cause i look like my dad and her husband doesn't like me and all my dad does is date girls my age and party. It really sucks not having anyone to go to when things get bad. I cry everyday an pray to god to send me some type of miracle but sometimes i feel like hes not listening at all cause things just seem to get harder and harder by the day. I had a baby at 18 which was the most uncosiderent choice of my life cause now she has to sit here with me and suffer this thing i call life. I hate it cause she doesn't deserve this. I just wish things would change or i can just die. I dont know what to do anymore and it sucks.

I really hateto hear the stories about people doing all the "right" things (go to school, get an education, get a job) and still they're living week to week. If there was a way to have financial freedom or at the very least bring in some extra money, would you be open? There is another way!!!

Sounds exactly like my life, except college never happened. From high school to working, working, working to get by. College was never quite within reach, so....
We send so much aid to other countries & ignore our own who sure could use a boost to get on the road to "middle class," but don't, keeping many of us stuck in the proverbial poor house. How about helping our own first & send what's left to other countries? Seems to me we (US) do too much opposite of what we should be doing.

I am very happy things worked out for you, and I too needed to read your great turn around story. I am also broke, I am married to a beautiful woman and we have four perfect little boys, their ages are 7, 6, 3 and 1, I got injured at work three years ago and I didn't kno at the time that I could file for workmans comp so I just went with the flow, we'll three months after my injury, I developed serious back pain and sciatica. I had to be rushed to the hospital for an emergency surgery. After my surgery I called my boss about workmans comp and he said it was to late. Well he was lying and I never got it, a few months later I had to have another surgery and it didn't work either so I filed for disability and got turned down my first time and didn't know I could reapply till about a year and a half ago so I did and got turned down again even though their doctor said I couldn't work ever again so now I have a lawyer and I am hoping it works out because my wife has to wor and she is only making about 900$ a month and for a family of 6 that isn't near enough wit school and everything else, needless to say me and my wife have been very depressed with all that has happened and I don't like seeing her that way because she is the most beautiful and perfect soulmate a man can ask for. I would appreciate all the prayers I could get right now in this trying time. Thank you for listening .

i can relate to your story im married and have kids to support and yet im not eligible for help . i live paycheck to paycheck , sometimes i feel that im bad luck walking . I would like to go back to school yet i cant afford to . between bills, food, school uniform, and lots of car problems it seems like i get no where. i dont know how people do it , they can help when they dont need it and the people that do seems to be the ones that are not help worthy. I have no credit and cant even get help with that to even build up. no matter what i try it seems to me that when something good happens i take a few weeks step back .

I am so glad that it is working out for you. You are a very strong person.Most people in your shoes would have learned to accept failure or start doing drugs and get into that dark black hole. I am 25 now with a bachelors in business and feel lost and broke, but I am thankful that the internet allows for people like me to read stories like yours and get motivated by them. Be strong and positive always and at the very least you would have said that you tried. Life is never what we expect it to be unless we draw our own path that makes us happy by way of action.

I really hateto hear the stories about people doing all the "right" things (going to school to get an education and a job) and still they're living week to week. If there was a way to have financial freedom or at the very least bring in some extra money, would you be open? There is another way!!!

I will feel it and response

I love that you updated this story. It is nice to hear things turned around for you! I am struggling right now as a single mom of a teenager and I feel like all I do is work to pay the bills and sleep so I can get up the next day and do it all over again! Yippee!

I really hate to hear the stories about people doing all the "right" things (go to school, get an education, get a job) and still living week to week. If there was a way to have financial freedom or at the very least bring in some extra money, would you be open? There is another way!!!

Right now I'm sipping a nice glass of Gin,
And you're so poor you haven't got a pot to **** in!

Is that meant to help?

Yes, you see if you imagine just how rich I am, perhaps you can be one day as well, you rapscallion.

I didn't think I'd meet people like you on here. You're a total A$$hole.

I agree fully with what u said lol what a jerk

You sir, or madam are the real jerk. I wager my horses are more well bred than your lot. Oh! That was a verbal rebuke! Yes Oh! I'm, I'm writing that one down.

Agree! We're all just thrilled to hear how speshul you are. Keep sipping that gin,Karma will take care of you.

You Ms. Cat Jenny should watch your ill-mannered responses and get a job, like most commoners as yourself tend to do. Perhaps something in gardening.


No, I'm sorry sir, you need...oh you're a woman...you madam need to watch your manners and behave like a lady. Perhaps if you spent your time investing in the market instead of typing random responses on here you could make something of yourself some day. Stiff upper lip.

You are indeed the real anus, and may I say your language and attitude is not very lady like if that is indeed what you are.

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I truly have hit rock bottom myself. I am fully capable of working, but cannot get a job to save my life. My vehicle is in arrears, my house is in arrears, the mortgage company refuses to reduce the interest on my home, & the Obama reduced mortgage help is a joke. I have now become completely depressed, as I know that it us a matter of time before I am homeless. I keep asking & praying to the good Lord for help, but I have lost all sense of hope. I am happy you found your way out, I hope I make it out before I sadly say that I have had enough & just bring it all to an end. No healthcare, no job security, no means if transportation , I have truly lost all hope as of now.

I can relate, i feel like i am drowning and cant reach the surfac most days. Please don't give up though. I know that on the sunniest days it can even still feel dark and cloudy, but just remember everything that is beautiful about life. Remember your best friend from childhood, or your first trip to the theater. Or perhaps your family :) i know that giving up sounds easier, but paddling to the surface is much more rewarding. Someday you will have gotten past all of this and see it as a thing of the past. Cheer up

Prayers going up for you & everyone else struggling.

I am 26 and though I am a 3.75 + GPA student with no debt I am only able to afford school by starving myself during the semester and keeping only two lights on at a time in my apartment and never using heating or cooling during extreme weather.

I live in low income housing, small town slum lords, I can't find a job, I can't afford a car, I can't get experience because I can't find a job, and I am leeching off my parents to survive, and I may have to stop going to the doctor, therapist, or chiropractor due to losing my father's insurance coverage soon. I already stopped going to the dentist due to it, and I need invisalign for my teeth but hey that won't be an issue with school starting next month and me not going to be able to afford food for 4 months.

The only positive is I have a disability that qualifies me for assistance, but I hate being forced to live off the system and as hard as I try to get a job it never seems to work out.
My last interview was two months ago it was my first in 5 years, I was not hired due to being too outgoing and too energetic..ironic considering at my last interview I was considered too introverted.

I am a fully trained coffee barista but no local places will hire me, no car so I can't go outside of town and as for public transit it's the USA kids we have no working dependable public transit and I can't afford to live in the city by my campus because the cost is too high.

I can't afford a normal college social life, my only positive is when I am in school because other than that it is back to the small town with no job. I try to distract myself but deep down I know I am a failure, my younger sibling has gone farther than I have in life already and he has more worth too. I am honestly considering stripping for an income at this point, I don't have the body right now but after that 4 months I will..after all desperate times call for desperate measures.

I could write my books but..I should really but honestly right now at this moment while I type this I feel completely and utterly worthless as if I am nothing but a drain on the world. That might change tommorow but that is then and this is now, the worst part is I am not from a poor family so I am under tons of pressure to get a job and succeed..of course getting a job in the first place is near impossible right now.

Oh well again, that is why stripping exists.

I'm 24 and feel so horribly depressed because I'm in your before situation, but also kinda different. I work retail making about 7.50 an hour after taxes. My boyfriend works with me and we only see each other at work for 5 min when I go to cover his break or maybe twice a month, because he lives 45 min away and just can't afford the gas to come see me. He was a sergeant in the millitary for 4 years and now all he can get is a job in retail. Yeah the government really cares about the people who serve our country. I've needed my wisdome teeth removed for 3 years but can't afford it and have no dental insurance. I've tried to go to school, but I get no financial aid. I'm scared to take out loans. I'm renting a room for $400 a month which includes everything, from a 35 year old co worker who has 3 kids: an 11 year old boy with ADHD whom I always want to strangle, a 12 year old girl and and a 16 year old girl who's face never leaves her smartphone. My boyfriend can never spend the night because she doesn't want her kids thinking that's okay before marriage (so in turn I have to live like I'm one of her kids at 24) and they always try to get me to go to their cult church. Yet she sells pills from her home in front of her children, pops them and lays in bed all day and just yells at them. But she won't let me medicate with cannabis for my anxiety and depression (I have a medical card for it and everything. I refuse to take pills), because that's a bad drug. But popping pills in front of your kids is totally fine apparently. I just had to return hangers that I needed for my closet so my bank account wouldn't over draft. I hate my job, customers are self entitled ******** who call me names all day when they don't get their way. I hate where I live. I can't afford my own place and my boyfriend and I aren't ready to live together. We've only been together since May I'm about done with my life, I swear. I'm either crying and pitifully sad or angry every day.

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It sounds tough and I wont take credit from all your effort but you are still lucky. In other countries if you move out as a teenager its almost impossible to make a decent living, no way. <br />
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I live in Guatemala and a big percentage of our population live in extreme poverty, its so cruel you could not believe it.

I thought I was the only one in a similar situation like yours. Parent's who don't really care or are into themselves. I don't know why society expects young people like us to graduate high school and suddenly be able to support ourselves, and I don't know why society assumes that every parent or family is this supportive type of structure.

We can't. Sometimes the parents don't want to help and the oh-well attitude from society is disgusting on top of disgusting. Yet this country seems all out in arms to help foreigners and people who don't even live in America. Billions and Trillions of dollars going overseas to countries who will never pay it back and have no intention of doing so. Billions that go to some dictator or tyrant's economy overseas.

It defiantly doesn't make sense from both a patriotic and economical point of view. How is bailing people out from Mexico and the Middle-East helping struggling students like us? It doesn't, but kills our economy.

I work a puny minimum-wage job that does not offer any livable wages. I'm struggling to pay bills, and it has become an increasing financial burden upon me. I had to switch my other job that paid a little $200 in total due to jerks and bullying that made it a toxic environment to work at. I'm already $3,000 dollars in debt and I don't want to add more to the pile. My paycheck only grants me a total of $112 for two weeks and it's a flexible job, meaning, they can change the hours I work on a whim. Every paycheck I make is literally going to paying bills and $10 set aside for 'groceries'. However, this new job seems to be 10x than the last one I was at, and I am actually treated like an employee than some tempo lowbie on the ladder like the last job.

I'm already short $5 on a bill that's coming up on Monday, which of course, has sent me into a panic. What will happen is that the bank will charge me an overdraft fee, then an "extended" overdraft fee or decline the transaction. There seems to be no relief and everyone is exploiting the working poor.

I have cavities in my mouth that I can't afford to pay for, and a gap where a tooth had once been for over 2 years.

I'm just really bothered by this. How can someone go through school, get good grade averages only to come out on jobs that aren't supportive enough for their needs. On top of it I have an aggressive relative who has threatened me twice of being homeless if they are not kept happy over any little thing, and find it in their routine daily to wake me up at midnight with their screaming or constant harassment that spans up to two days to an entire week.

I've been neglected of getting my driver's license in my teens and the only reason why I have a permit is because I pushed for it by studying for the test and taking the exam when I was 21. But because of this I'm having to walk almost everywhere I go, because of my lack of driving experience. It is a total inconvenience and because of sometimes I can't get to where I need to go.

I have never drank, never smoke, never gotten into drugs and am not a trouble-making type of person. Apparently though, this is not enough. I wish the school-systems would have taught us better both financially and independent wise of what really awaited us once we turned 18, instead of these fantasies with "good paying jobs". Well, where are the good-paying jobs, and why is it so difficult for students with 4.0 averages to find these good-paying jobs.

Hoping i'm not going homeless in the up-coming months...

I am very sorry...I am going through something similar to yours and I feel encouraged that I am not the only one going through this.

I am so glad I stumbled across this page and read every response. it's July 2014 and I am 35. In two months I'll be 36. I've had some life struggles in the past two years but I'm in no shape like the rest of u. I guess I have been very lucky or I am an extremely cheerful and optimistic person. I had a $50,000 job at a university and because I was sexually harassed I decided two leave that job and go back to my former contract Job at the University for 15 an hour... that's a $20,000 pay cut. roughly at the same time the guy I was dating got married to somebody out of the blue that caused me a lot of psychological damage. Then my dad had died then the guy I dated who got married tried to come back and have an affair... for a short period Of time I believed him when he was telling me a different story about how hard his life was but luckily I listened to my gut. Then I had my two best friends die in the month following. That was a year and a half ago. I am still without a permanent job so therefore I still make $15 an hour and I have no health insurance..... I do you take meds regularly so I have to pay for that out of pocket. I have applied for many jobs and have gotten many interviews however it's always somebody with more experience that beats me out. And the kicker is I'm an assistant to the Associate Dean and if I was able to be hired I would be making 60000 but the state is on a hiring freeze. So I have a very good job, very good title but very very low paid that is unfair and should be illegal. Now I live in the best part of the city however I am behind on my rent but my landlord has been amazing. I do not own a bed or a couch.... I sleep on an air mattress and in the winter when my heat wasn't working properly.... I was too embarrassed to have the contractors work on my apartment as I had nothing in here so I literally slept On my bathroom floor where there was heat coming up from the radiator. There have been days where I've had literally not even one penny, there been days when I literally had not one thing to eat. I have bad credit, I cannot take out a credit card so luckily I don't have any credit card debt however I did borrow money from basically loan sharks and I cannot pay them back. I am very scared to see how much I will Owe in future. My health is going down my mental wellbeing has gone down I'm tired. Yes, a lot of it is mind over matter, I can tell myself that I'm happy in till I believe it, but alot of it as also poor nutrition and not having enough of my meds everyday. There are times when I have to go to Walmart and buy 22 cents worth of Roman noodles.... because I only had pocket change. I do not have a car; its a hundred dollars for the public transportation a month. I do not have any pets. I do not go to any salon to get my hair done I go to the students so my haircut and hair color is only 25 and that's about every 6 months. I have not been to a sit down restaurant in a very very long time. And yes I'm a thief I have stolen toilet paper I have stolen plastic knives and forks if I should go to Chipotle or something trust me I have learned how to scam them. I might say a water but then go get a coke or I might say I've only had One chicken when I really had two. I mean I'm going there and spending $2.25 on a scoop of chicken because that's all the money I have. I do have electricity however I never put in my name so I'm almost always in the dark I don't use the stove I very rarely use the microwave... again I'm being a thief and scamming the system. I know life would be so much easier if I had a boyfriend and I would love one however I don't even look like myself due to the poor nutrition, I'm embarrassed. My whole situation has caused me great embarrassment and humiliation. I did try to speak with the powers at be about my boss sexually harassing me and nothing happened so its a situation that was absolutely out of my control and no I wasn't going to sit there and have my bra being taken off by my boss so I can make $50000 a year. I rather have made the $15 an hour and know that I wasn't going to be attacked. Fairness and equality is a great slogan but you will be met with lawyers after lawyers and challenge after challenge, it's going to affect you mentally. It's easier to simply walk away. I have my family, they are well taken care of. I have friends back home they're well taken care of. I have friends that I have met thru college and throughout work life that are well taken care of, but then again there's other people who are struggling just like I am. I know we're not supposed to compare yourself to others ut I can't help it and im so embarrassed that you know my ex boyfriends have great jobs, a lot of money, cars, houses. Now they are married and their lives are being taken care of. I am saying the same thing that everybody else is saying. I did everything I was told to do. i have a Masters, I have good work ethic. in my twenties I worked for the same company for 7 years and now recently In my 30's I've been at the same company for 3 years. its bullshit I do a $60000 job and only get paid $15 an hour, no benefits. truly my heart is with you all but I really do hope every one of us can pull through and make a life affects us

These little idiots are complaining about poor....Yet they do nothing about it. I grew up on a family OF 4....YES 4 on 20k INCOME..But do you know what I did. One day when my sister was no longer part of the household(Shes attending NYU)...The food stamps were dropped and I was scared out of mind of starving.And I never wanted to experience it again. So I worked hard and I now attend NYU on a full ride like my sister... And now getting my first internship at goldman sachs(26 dollars a hour as freshman graduate).i networked with my fraternity and my school. And now I am living the american dream.All you guys are still sitting around and not networking one bit in the job market

You're extremely judgemental and seemingly pretty arrogant, but your grammar is really poor by NYU standards...

Actually, reading your post again, your grammar is far below any college's standards.

I don't know how old this is, but I go to GSU. I work a full time job in commercial plumbing, and only make $12/hour. I'm literally broke. Even with student loans I'm in debt and it grows every month. Point being, I'm 22 and do hard physical labor. This is my third week of college as a freshman, and I can say that what he wrote is disturbing. I doubt even a young child would have grammar that poor. I was also enlisted in the Marine Corp so me being a jarhead might be considered dumber than the average person. My particular set of skills disposing of people doesn't translate into a civilian life. So tl;dr.

I'm broke as ****, don't have a college degree, but my alphabet soup makes better sentences than that fucktard.

How nice for you. Hard to get to a college or "network " like many who live in rural areas in poor families & no way (ever hear of transportation?) to get anywhere . I've seen many braggers who lose everything.

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I'm a single mom of 3 children. I struggle a lot! My ex won't pay his alimony or child support. I'm on government aid and I hate it, even though it's a blessing. I hate how people look at me when I pay at the register with my cash aid/food stamp card. I walk to get around, and take the bus when I can afford it. I've got a health issue. So the walking to and from really hurts me. I have no child care, and my youngest is a special needs child. My ex is a state employee, on disability, but he works under the table and won't help with anything for the kids. I'm having a difficult time proving this, as I'm without transportation to follow him. My teeth are rotting as I'm without dental. I shop at thrift stores for almost everything I buy. I can hardly clothe my children. The food I'm able to buy us lasts about three week's, so I've got to ration our groceries throughout the month. Otherwise the fourth week of the month we go without. It's great breaking to watch your children go hungry, and to be bullied at school because they aren't dressed in nice clothes! My kid's and I don't have the extra things that most people have. I left my ex due to the abuse we were subjected too. We were in a safe house through the alliance for a few months, and then we were able to get a home through the housing authority for low income. I need a real job. I never dreamed of being rich. I've always dreamed of growing up and having a happy little home with my husband and kid's. I don't care about being rich. I just don't want to struggle. I've always dreamed of having a career too. I'm still dreaming those dreams... I'm a 41 year old, single, struggling mother of 3 beautiful children! <3

*heart breaking...

I wish I could be happy like you are now, I too am poor.. I work very hard and every job I have my boss walls all over me. Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse my wife graduated with two bachelors degrees (not the bad part). She then fainted at work and was diagnosed with leukemia. Awesome. Now I, the only income, we have no cash and I'm ready to kill myself. What's next?

I live in the uk and my partner and I have just been in tears trying to work out how we are going to afford to rent a house together for us and my 5year old boy. It seems things aren't much different over here. I am studying a part time degree and don't want to have to give that up. That will eventually lead to a career which will help me to afford to live better. As it stands my partner has paid a lot of my utility debts which I have never asked him to do but he genuinely has wanted to do so we can live together as a family. It now seems that in order I can afford child care I will have to work all the hours under the sun. We are not entitled to working tax credits due to my partners wages being a little too high. I do not expect him to have to pay for me or my son. It isn't fair. It's his hard earned money. I plan to pay him back EVERY penny he has spent on my debts. So...I am having to contemplate my son and I living apart from him so I am entitled to some governmental support which will allow me to afford child care and the time to continue my studies (which are bloody expensive too!) My poor man is completely spun out at the cost of living over here. He has lived all over the world and coming back to the UK has made him realise the gap between the cost of living and the average wage is unmanageable.

I wonder what the answer is...All I know is that we live each other and want to be together. It appears too much to hope for in our country though! Unless you don't mind never seeing each other because you're too busy at work. Also, where does it leave my poor son? Basically, without a mother because I will always be out at work? So, I completely sympathise with your struggles. I respect the fact you are waiting to have your child until ou are in a financial position to afford it.

I am sadly in the position of having a child from a previous relationship because it turned out my fiancé and father to my child was gay. I really didn't see it coming! It isn't a position I chose to be in.

I am inspired by your courage and determination and so pleased to hear that you are moving onwards and upwards. Thank you for this inspiration. Much needed. Maybe I will post you my progress! Hopefully it will be a happy ending for both of us!

Love Rachel. X

I thought I did everything right, went to school, got a ph.d now I earn 42,000/year, can't afford a home so I live with my mom, and my checking account is currently -$600 until I get paid next week. I just can't get caught up never mind ahead.

I understand your experiences completely. I always wanted to work hard and achieve something special and early this year I completed my PhD. I am happily married with a daughter on the way. I have applied to hundreds of jobs and only had one interview, which I did not get. 80% of all jobs I have applied to never even bother replying. I started applying for part-time contract positions and even entry level jobs. Many of which I am overqualified for and never received a phone call. I am an avid volunteer, I have written op-ed pieces in newspapers and have been interview by BBC on political topics and I am involved in so many organizations and if you look at my 5 page CV of my experiences you will understand that at only 31 I should easily be making over 100,000 a year but I cannot even get a part-time academic assistant job.

I understand you completely, I'm in the same situation too. I'm 25 and married, my husband is 27 and unemployed. I graduated dentistry in Europe, I work in a dental office ( this may sound ridiculous) I get paid only 200 $ month. My husband has graduated political sciences and can't find a job. I try to spend a dollar or two per day. I keep eating white bread because is cheaper and that's why I'm overweight. It's been 2 years since I haven't bought clothes or haven't received a gift from my husband. I wouldn't ever thought that my life would be so miserable

I must note that I still work in Europe.

I am 41 years old and have a Master's degree in English, and I'm the single mother of a 9-year-old daughter. I teach college-level courses as a "part-time" adjunct instructor and get paid about $300 a week. This is the only job I've been able to find, and the cost of living is so high here that I'm just barely meeting expenses. I've got loans that I had to put on deferment, and many of the other teachers at my school say the same thing: they put their loans on deferment because they can't afford to pay them off. Many of the "part-time" faculty are also teaching 3 courses, for which they are drastically underpaid because even though they work full-time, they are officially part-time. Adjuncts get screwed pretty badly after all the work we put in for our education. Education isn't necessarily the answer to the poverty issue. I've always been good at academics, so I staved off oblivion for awhile going to grad school, but now it's hard to get a lower-level job (I'm overqualified), so teaching is the main thing I can do, and of course, that pays terribly. I could move clear across the country and find a better job, but I have family and my daughter is in school here, so . . . we stick it out and hope that somehow, sometime, a full time job as some kind of administrator will come open so that I can finally know I'll be employed year-round and have a steady paycheck and be able to meet my bills. This is what it is to be a college professor in 2014.

Life is a horrible and cruel place. A place where no one gives a damn about you. Even If you work hard, everyday society punishes you. There is no help for those who are single, work hard, did not have children at a young age. Those of us who live the straight and narrow; society kicks us into the dirt. People who do not work and have countless children get tax deductions while the hard working man or woman has to pay taxes. People who go years without trying to look for work can go and sign up for food stamps and Medicaid programs to help pay for their health. meanwhile, those who slave away at their jobs making peanuts can barely afford to buy food and have a place to live. Society rewards those who makes poor decisions and punishes those who work hard. I have no health insurance, I have no food and I work full time at a health and family services place that issues out foodstamps, Govt medical, free day care assistance, assistance with utilities...you name it! people who sit on their tush and do nothing but complain about how long they must stand in line for govt programs live better than some people who work 8-10 hours a day. It makes me angry! I am angry when I see someone swipe their EBT Card while holding a new Iphone at the grocery store...with 150.00 worth of junk food in their cart...and here I am standing behind them....with barely enough food to make it through the week.... Our society disgusts me. I get sick and have to pay a co-pay even when I pay for insurance out of my check while others have govt health care that is free...the more babies an irresponsible woman has, the more money the govt will give her....yet a single hard working woman will struggle in poverty. this life is ridiculous and I am bitter and angry at how society punishes those who actually try and rewards those who are reckless and make poor decisions...

I can really identify with what you're saying. I subsist on generic yogurt, cereal and random nuts that are on salle and work my *** off to get them while others are handed all this frivolous stuff.

who are you to judge anyone?? if you dont like your job or the people you deal with, quit and get food stamps you bitter %itch. Women have millions of abortions a year. Are you one of the ones who walked the straight and narrow and dont have a kid or children because you had abortions?? why didnt you go medical school or in a field where you would make more money?? dont blame others for your life. get a night job. For the women that got left with children, use public assistance until you can better your self and dont put yourself in a position to depend on a man again. Always be able to do on your own.. oh and grow some balls. life is not a fairy tale.

I completely 100% agree. The saddest things is I was born a child to one of these disgusting people and I am ashamed that I had to be both from a "poor" family who took advantage of these government assistance programs and had to grow up being made fun of for being poor from my peers. Now as an adult I am doing everything I can to try to pull myself out of it by going to college and graduating with my BA and getting $15K in debt only to discover this awful truth - a truth our government keeps secret from our youth until it is too late. :'(

I am right there with you. I''ve been struggling since I left home at 17. I'm in serious debt and since being laid off in 2009 I've been removed from an industry that I was very good at what I did. Every time I get a little money save to finish a licensing exam or take a course to improve my career options some mishap occurs and it's back to square one. This morning my battery died and my car wouldn't start. I missed a day of work because of it and the repair amounts to slightly more than what I would have earned today. I stay positive, believe that God has a plan for my life, but this year my faith has been challenged to its maximum. I want to believe, I have to believe, that a change is coming soon but this year is knocking me down I'm not sure how I will ever meet my potential. Thank you for sharing your story. It is very inspiring. Hanging on.

I feel your pain. I'm 23 with a son and no education. I have no where for myself and own nothing. It's not that I'm not trying but no opportunities presents itself. I'm so tired of crying. I had nothing growing up and I still have nothing. I worry so much because I have a son and it hurts me to think I can't take care of him. And worst I have no one, no help. I so want to go back to school but I can't because I have no money. I resently apply for a online course at ashworth college and I can't pay for it. I'm not working and I don't know what to do. I think so many things, my son is the only thing keeping me alive and sane

Wow... it really feels like a whole other world to read this coming from Sweden.

Here you could theoretically live your whole life with at least 1000$ falling into your bank account every month as long as you can prove that you're looking for jobs and take them from time to time.

Respect to all of you whoa are experiencing similar situations as the OP, if only you'd live in Sweden...

I have done everything in life that I am "supposed to do in life." I am 30 years old raised in a single parent home. I know what it is like to struggle and I have made my best effort for a better life. NO MATTER WHAT EFFORT I MAKE, life just doesn't seem to work out. Im single, I don't have any kids, ive never been on drugs, I graduated from college, I am government employee...and still I struggle. I work sooooo hard everyday from 8 until 7:00...I come home at night and I just cry. I have no money. I hate my job. I go to work everyday and I feel like im in jail. I work sooooooooo much and get paid sooooooooooooo little. It feels like modern day slavery. I went to college hoping to find a career that would allow me to take care of myself an d not struggle...yet I make 25,000 a year working under a boss who Is nasty and horrible, my job Is taxing mentally and I just want to escape but I cant because there are no good jobs on earth these days. I am broke! I work so hard yet still I am broke! I would like to be able to go to the grocery store and by 50.00 worth of groceries. When i get my paycheck. after my rent, life insurance, student loans and utilities drain the life out of me...i have 50.00 left. 40.00 of it will go to gas to get me back to work and i will have a whopping 10.00 left to buy groceries to get me through the next 2 weeks. I CANT KEEP LIVING LIKE THIS! i have hereditary health issues that prevent me from working a second job---trust me ive thought about it! i don't know what else to do. They say when God shuts one door another will open...im standing in a dark hallway praying for so much as a window to crack open to let through the tiniest ray of sun. I hope life gets better.

Omg, Mimi42101! This is my story. You told my story so well, with all the exact details! I just can't believe it! I HATE HATE HATE x 5, 000 my job. The boss is a slave driver, this government job is slavery, it keeps you in debt and bondage. Keeps you coming back for more and more. I'm on online student struggling to put myself through college. I can rarely travel, I have hereditary health issues as well and jobs like these just work you until you drop dead. Trust me you and my story are one and the same and I'm only 23 going on 24 but headed on the same path as you. No drugs, not an alcoholic, have NOOOO childrennn, and struggling like hell! WOW MIMI! JUST Wow! I have no good friends, and no family support. I bet you don't either. Life. So beautiful!

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Ya,I had to move out due to a bad family situation. I want so badly to be a real estate agent but course are 400 dollars. My brother is a **** addict and got kicked out of my dads house ,so now he lives with me. He also has disabilities. However we just got a note in the mail saying after his annual evaluation ,they are now claiming that after 18 years he isn't disabled. To top it off my brother and myself worked at the same place,and since he did some bad stuff there I got fired too. So now I no longer qualify for food help. Plus my brother cannot afford his half of the rent without that assistance. Sigh,it is very hard. I just don't know anymore I have done so many bad things to get by. I have truly compromised who I am. I mean most recently I took to selling my panties on the internet...every girls dream right....sigh,I am too overweight to be an egg donor or surrogate mother. I have filled out 23 applications and cant get a job. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to be poor anymore I will be 21 this year. I spent my youth raising my 4 siblings and battling depression,now I am saddled caring for a sibling again ,and I just want to be free to live and be happy. How will I have a happy and fulfilled life if I cant ever focus on my needs. I literally have 72 cents in my bank account ,and a car payment due. the crap icing on my **** cake of life is that because of some tax snag,after waiting another month for my tax return I am going to be waiting 5 additional weeks for my return. there goes my rent next month . sigh,I cry as I type this because I have no hope.

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I'm 52 with a 17 yr old left in the house.After 15 yrs, hub moved out and into a condo with a gf in 2006.I worked full time ,no car (he had it repossessed)Had a hysterectomy due to a cyst.Got injured at work(worked with 17 -2 yr olds)From there it turned into hypertension,and bad knee surgery.2011 had my first heart attack.2012 type 2 diabetes.I have memory loss,now legally blind,RA,2 other types of arthritis,just had all my teeth pulled due to constant infections,bladder problems,meds for depression,and other sorted problems.Have not worked since 2008.Was denied disability 3 times.The disability office is the biggest scam going.We live on 500 a month child support that will end in july when my son turns 18.He will be going to a community college on fed funding.Which means food stamps will be cut in half.The ex is going to RUN to the courthouse to get the child support stopped in July.We haven't used the air conditioner here in sw florida for 3 yrs.It's 91 degrees in the house.I have worked all my life until 2008.My parents are waiting for me to die so my mother can sell the house I'm in.I don't mind living in a tent in the woods but I have nowhere to store my few possessions nor anywhere to put my 2 cats and 3 turtles.I seem to gain a health problem every month.It is so fast. I need a colonoscopy, mammagram,eye surgery,and more.I'm on the hubs insurance but can't afford all the 25$ copays to see each doctor nor pay the balances I have with them.The heart attack cost me 60k.I owe 20k on that. When people used to say'at least you got yer health',I now know what that meant.I can sit for 10 mins until the back starts up.I can stand for 10 mins till the knees start up.I have called and talked to SO many people in these past years,yet I am either not qualified,or they just can't help. I haven't bought any clothes since 2007.I wear what I got till the holes completely destroy them.I make sure we don't turn on any lights, fans,keep stuff unplugged,reuse paper towels.I have become the biggest budgeter ever.I feel bad my son and daughter have had a hard life with me.The house is falling apart around us as my mother doesn't give a **** since I can't afford the 'going' rent .So our bath tub has had a hole in it since 2007.The water conditioners stopped working in 2008.So anything the well water touches just rusts and disinigrates.Well.... been living like this for so long,that I just have to laugh at my predicament. Things aren't changing and I am still trying to get thru each day/My dream is to live in the mountains and just be at peace.Oh, and to take the bubble baths I used to. Today just got me a 35$ overdraft for being overdrawn $1.25. My car is falling apart. And here it is yet another day in paradise. :)

Hello Susan, sorry to hear that you have had it so rough for several years now. Marriage breakups are always so painful, and I know how health and money issues can absolutely suck the life out of a person. Have things improved for you since your last post? At the very least, I hope that your health has improved. Are you able to exercise, perhaps at a public community center, or even by walking around your neighborhood? I know that losing weight can bring quite an improvement to conditions of diabetes and hypertension. I also hope that your son has begun his studies at college as a start to a better life for both of you.

I am fifty. I was raised by loving parents who worked hard their entire lives and they made enough to get by on. My father retired at fifty seven after a massive heart attack. My parents were blessed to inherit some cash from a friend who had no family so they didn't have to totally struggle the years leading up to my fathers death.

I was married young, worked briefly until I had my three kids and helped my husband by babysitting and temp jobs. We lived nicely but no where near the status of most of our friends. I have since divorced and remarried. My current husband is sixty and received his Masters in Counseling three years ago. He can't find a job that pays what his student loans require for repayment. His wages are garnished now. I am beside myself having to live like a pauper at age fifty. I feel like I am always the one taking care of others and I get taken advantage of because of my kind nature. My husband is now forced to take more of my paycheck, more than half of it each month because of his garnishment. I am bitter. My ship will never come in. I will get sick one day and still have to work while I watch others go on their third vacation in a year!

I guess I wrote this because I am so bitter. Thanks for sharing your story. At least you are young with hope for a better future. Good luck.

Urm, Princess, I hope that by now you realize that harboring a bitter heart is no solution for overcoming obstacles. You do not say exactly what standard of living you enjoyed earlier in life, but why are you surprised to find yourself once more struggling financially at age 50 following a divorce, which for most couples is financial suicide?

You say that you resent that your current husband takes from your check to repay student loans? I though that marriage involved a pooling of resources. I hear too much of "my money / his money" language in your post. Was it ever "our money" to you? Did you ever reflect on the resentment that you caused your ex-hub when you got your big payday in divorce court?

Were you so resentful when you had imagined the big increase in money / quality of life that husband #2's counseling degree would bring? Were you not committed to his educational plan previously? Granted, student loans are a horrible kind of debt, especially when taken on later in life.

The fact remains that your husband could still find a well-paying position as a result of his degree, but your negative energy only saps his vitality and invites discouragement. Begging your pardon, but you sound a bit selfish to say the least. To say the most, you sound more like a screaming harridan.

Great that yo posted this. A lot of people do have different, but similar cases in life. I have myself been through quite a lot of bad times. Dont worry you will come out of it as a much better person than the one you were before.<br />
I have literally gone through hell itself, i cried in despair and wanted to end my life etc, but nothing happend, not even a single hair on my body was damaged.<br />
Now even if the whole world is going to collapse i stay calm, cause i know the lord holds me by my hand. This i gained over time and i believe you are in the same process. So cheer up, and keep praying and keep pushing things. Better days lie ahead.<br />
No eye has seen or no ear has heard what the lord has prepared for you.<br />
Best of luck dear and pray for me too.

I happened to read this through tears and a wounded heart because I begin to feel so forgotten alone and heart broken when I look at my family and realize we work so hard to have so little. But we are alive and well so my life isn't without purpose. I still wish we could afford to buy necessities for our kids without being broke or falling behind on bills. I'm praying for brighter days, And a financial increase. I haven't given up all though I want to.... I won't allow myself to quit.

i got myself out of my hole by a lot of prayer to break the principality of poverty...then i started working on my computer doing surveys. i found a way to make money but it takes work..doing surveys http://www.clixsense.com/?6193102 it takes a while but they pay you when you get to 8$ and i have had no problems getting paid.with the affiliate program i get to make money advertising on google..then make money on everyone who signs up a cut off what they make..its pretty good system. after a while as i started moving opportunities started presenting themselves and i always gave 10% of my money to God if you dont believe in God then give to charity ..i know this sounds counter productive but when you stop thinking of money as a means to an end but a way to help others and something to be managed instead of gotten then you will get the right idea about it...your money is your provision and when you dont have a lot you must spend it on NEEDS not wants ..and dont look at it as YOURS freely you got it and freely you must use it for bills and to help people get to their goals too...if you can...then you will find yourself using your money as a tool and not thinking whether you have it or not.. money is like seeds when you plant them to make more money you make money ...when you get money you buy tools and stuff to make you money...after you pay what bills are due today ..let tomorrow wait for tomorrow...but out of every job you make money on spend some on something that will make you more..this is a seed and when all your irons are in the fire and the seed in the ground then the crop grows without you knowing where it came from...but the most important thing is to not think of money as YOUR money but the money you must use to manage your household and to budget your life...as an outsider.. when you get personal with your money then you enter a codependent relationship with it...and when its gone then you cant think right ...because your mourning the loss and wont live normally....MY CAT taught me when i was looking at him one time telling him about my problems and it occurred to me the cat doesnt have pockets for money but he is happy because he has food and water and a house to live in...he is busy being a cat..i should be busy being David and then the money will be secondary ...i dont even carry money anymore and try to live without it ...as fast food and other impulse buying are a trap of "MY MONEY" instead of my resources and funds to manage my life and i must manage them wisely

I stumbled on this at a low point in my life, thank you for sharing this with us. People talk about God and keeping faith in your life, I don't think that is the case. Much like you dear writer keep persevering and doing what you have to do to make it work. I'm 46 and work for 6th a year with a stay at home wife who cares after my children and mother. The bills pile up and we trade hours for dollars and I'm just getting tired of the day to day. Thank you for bringing a little more perspective back into my life.

Great post, and glad to see your life is doing much better. Just a few simple points I'd like to make:

-Always put God first
-Have a financial plan (and write it down)

Blessings and peace to you,


I love your positive attitude dear. Congrats on the amazing accomplishments

Jessy, I could not have described the current situation in America any better than what you have. I respect you for the hard work you have been doing, and continue to do. I am a born again christian and was told something that might make sense to you, it really did to me. for a non believer that is wealthy beyond our comprehension, this is the closest they will ever get to Heaven. For the believer, this is the closest we will ever get to hell. I guess what I am trying to say is, the grand canyon lyes between the rich and the poor, but it will change for us for the better. Just keep your head up, and remember your not alone in this struggle, my family is in the same situation, and the vast majority of Americans are with you too. I have so much more respect for someone that works hard and never gives up, over people that are handed everything to them on a silver spoon, with wealth and working positions handed down to family and friends generation after generation. Keep up the good work.

Christmas is very depressing for me, especially in the last few years. I think the Country is in financial crisis when it comes to the middle class and the poor and all these corporations and politicians want to do is cut more government programs that help us, all the while giving/getting bailouts and tax-cuts for gambling our money and outsourcing jobs. Why shouldn't the minimum wage be raised? Minimum wage is suppose to rise with inflation, but in the last fifty years it's only risen about 3 to 4 times. The wealthy top 1% (400 people) have 40% of the wealth in this country. They own 50% percent of investments and stock, while suffering 90-something percent own half of a percent; because we are too poor to put any money away. There are people so poor that they don't even register near the poverty line, they are nickel and diming it. I am a mother of two and I work 3 jobs and I'm going to school full-time. In my twenties I was able to work various well-paying jobs to support my 1 daughter at the time and I because most of those jobs were tip based. I didn't have insurance but I was able to put food on the table and a roof over our head. I like you, don't have parents that can help me financially so I can totally relate. I don't think I am lazy or work less than a CEO of some big box company, if anything I think I work 100 x's harder like the majority of us. WE have to change the way the people think because we all have inherit rights to live. I think too many listen to the propaganda spewed by the media and these right-winged politicians. They rather feed us bs and sway us away from the real issues; a woman's reproductive rights, gay rights, and legalizing marijuana are not exactly important issues affecting our country. We have starving children in America. Most of the people working these minimum wage jobs have families, the average age of a fast food worker is NOT 15-18, it's 28... Even people with degrees have a hard time finding jobs and good pay. Education was once suppose to be a way to get out of poverty, not to keep the poverty wheel turning. WE have to start doing are own real research for our own peace of mind and pass on the message-- knowledge is power.

I am 25 years old, the same age you were when you went back to school. But, I am actually having to leave for the 3rd time because I simply cannot afford to take care of myself and attend classes. I have to be at work all the time just to stay afloat, and that leaves no time for Trigonometry classes. Of course I know I am who I am because of my struggles, but what really bothers me is that I can't afford to have children. I feel like school is about class and is ridiculously important, but I have educated myself on crucial topics like economics and sociology and it actually disturbs me that because of circumstances I don't get to share that with my offspring. I work so hard, take care of my customers and ride public transportation in freezing and sweltering weather everyday and its like all the 'responsible' (middle claas) people around me would be disgusted if me and my husband got pregnant but couldn't afford to finance a hospital stay. What about health insurance for the child? I'm not one of those baby-crazy 20-somethings either, I run from possible conception like any other 25 year old, but I was raised understanding that 2 of the most important days in a woman's life is when she walks across th stage-thats her work; and when (if she chooses) she gives birth- thats God's work. I just never thought being born poor would cost me birthrights, but it happens all the time, all over the world. I am greatful that I live in relative physical peace and I still have the right to make decisions for myself as a woman and a spirit, but anyone who doesn't know this already, please understand: our choices all affect one another in deeper ways than we intend. I know from my incomplete education that poverty IS A CHOICE- one made on our behalf by institutions. One thing I never understood was why everyone at our educational institutions seems to know that but can't fix it...

I completely agree. Sadly, I am in the exact same boat. My fiance and I are not only postponing our wedding, we are postponing becoming parents and everything that entails. And yet we still get **** for doing what I personally think is the most responsible thing and use birth control (prevention not abortion) and yet we are still told we shouldn't do that. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Some people won't be happy until we are all nuns and priests, as if that would do anything to solve any problems in this world. We have gotten so far away from the 1950's picture perfect American dream and yet we have to live with the people who came from that prosperity and tell us we are "just lazy," when we have literally done everything we were suppose to do and we are still no better off. :(

well, I am the youngest of 4 kids- the only non ivf baby. So in my parents eyes im the reason they are so poor. They never taught us to save they would just waste money on smokes. I cant borrow money cause there isnt any, but if i lived at home i would have to pay 150 a week rent which i did until i left- but my older 3 sibilings (twins are 26 brother is 28) all live at home free, ive never had that awesome experience of being the youngest favourite cause in my experience thats a crock of crap. the favourites are the middle children whom are twins in my case.

If i get lent 5 dollars my mother will call me every 3 hours to get it back. Bad parents or no parents get us into these situations by not teaching and choosing to have kids when they couldn't support them. Its a vicious cycle- My partner gets given everything is an only child and due to what hes been given has bought 2 houses- but i still ******* support us both on my meager wage while he pretends to be poor.

Sorry to hear your struggle. Have you considered counseling so that you can leave his sorry ***? It can be scary leaving a comfortable situation, but when a situation is making you sick, that should be one in which you should run from. My situation was with my hs sweetheart. We were going to live together for ever, married with children. We did get married. We did have children. But it wasn't the fairytale life. After the birth of our first child, he started drinking. A little at first, but by the time our third child came along, it had become a problem. The first five years we were broke(flat broke) n we decided it would be a good idea to have kids(it was peaches n cream at that time) After I graduated college, and was making 800 a week with a 2yr old, I was still broke. Even though he had a job, I would end up having to pick up the slack to every late bill or thing he had to have(when we could have had a nice nest egg). After 5yrs and 2 more children later, I had to take my children and all of our belongings in order to feel safe from the drinker who tried to beat me up. I was never talked to with respect by him. It was always yelling, and eventually hitting walls, throwing books, whatever. I moved in with a friend for a year, until I could get back on my feet. Four years later, my children have not been happier. We all make choices, but choosing the path we are scared of, should be the one we choose always.

"We all make choices, but choosing the path we are scared of, should be the one we choose always." Good advice...

I'm there with you! I'm almost 50 now. Spent a lotta my younger years in booze& drugs had alot of family problems when I was young. Quit 7 years ago. Barely scrape by have friends that are blessed at every turn. Always wonder when my turn will come. Just to be comfortable not have 2 scrape by to keep the lights on every month would be wonderful. My whole family has had health problems& dies young. I don't think I'll live much longer as I have the same problems! Wish my last few years could be easier!

It might be a good idea to give your pet up for adoption/ sale if you can't afford to buy food for them. What happens when your pet needs a vet etc - that would be too much of a financial burden. Hope you are doing better now!! hugs.

Yeah, i hear you.. But, its 2013 now and you wrote this 4 years ago.. Did anything change?Did you get a better life for you and your family? Did you have kids? Are you financialy independent? I hope you did all those things, as i am also now as you were then.. Im younger tho. Im 25 now. I hope it will be better for me and my family and friends. Your story is very inspiring, you have such a hard time in life and still able to fight and push trough. All the best, may your better life come true!

I am tired of working hard and staying poor While the government
fat cats line their pockets and never pay a dime for health insurance.
They have never worked a hard day of labor in their life.
I along with at least 60% of us citizians have worked 40+ hours a week
all our lives without any retirement money to speak of and no health
insurance. I am a collage grad. and still lived paycheck to paycheck.
My health benefits got cutoff. I can't afford to pay for health
insurance. I got hurt from long term hard work. It cost me my job.
Workers comp. denied me benefits. So now my wife, son, and I are
living with my mom. I feel that everyone that works in Factorys,
and fast food, or any place that gets paid under 75K a year
should stop working and let the people with the health insurance
and higher pay come due the hard work for awhile.

First of all DITCH and FORGET the gyno exam. Why pay the Doctor's mortgage? Honestly FORGET that. Pay for birth control and that is all. Tell the Doctor you can only afford birth control and nothing else. Don't do a 2nd college degree. One is bad enough. College does not guarantee any better life unless you are studying nursing or something like that. As far as your teeth go: floss them after every time you eat and then brush your teeth. Scrape your tongue at night just before bed using a spoon with a flat end. This stops rot. Swish around cooking oil in your mouth 2 or 3X a week (it is called 'Oil Pulling' look that up on internet). This also stops rot. You can reverse tooth rot by cutting out all sodas (especially diet sodas, very bad for teeth) and cut back on sugar. Buy some 'Tums' and take a few of those a week to build up calcium in the body which your teeth will use to repair themselves. Also eat kale or spinach every single week, same reason. You can do all of this. A few changes and things will be better. Hang in there.

great tips on dental health.....
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What mechanism have you given people to get money to you? Do you take credit cards? Do you have a paypal account? Have a hat deep enough to hold money if you held it out? Give people a reason and a way to pay.

If i was you i would maby thank of moving out of the U.S to a less expensive place like Brazil or india. all of the south asia places are very good $ wise and have really good free helth care.

Less expensive? I think you are saying that because you haven't lived in Brazil. Do you have any idea how much more ridiculously expensive things are over there? It's certainly not a good idea to move out of the US because the best products that sell in Brazil and India come from here, and we have direct access to them.

I live in Brazil and everything here is ridiculously much more expensive! I actually want to move to the US! Really! I just can't afford it (yet, i hope).

It's definetly not a good idea.

The salaries are also much smaller. Unless you work there on an expat package such a move would be ridiculous.