I Am Precious Too!

Wow I am moved by all these comments and stories. I am the mom of 3 and thank GOD everyday for them. I had a great Mom. I lost her a year ago. I still have my Dad. We are all precious. Love to all on here.

Thank you for sharing your story. You are a child of God. So you are PRECIOUS.

Thank you for sharing.

Wow, you are so strong to have gone through what you have.

When reading your life experience, I think of the movie, "Precious.". Dear Precious, your experiences have helped to mold you into the wonderful mother and person you are Today! My grand-children's mother did NOT leave her children by themselves; she dragged them to places that children should Never go! They have seen and experIenced things that concern me greatly! Thank GOD for women that mentor motherhood!

Cool story, what caught my attention is the dream. I would have dreams like that and my mother also left me pretty much living on my own staying at her bf's and she said it was to give me space (at the grand age of 13) lol

I could relate to the precious movie.my mother was so scary that she enjoyed pulling me up and down the stairs by the hair for the fun begning and brought out the belts if you dared to look her in the eye she would slap the hell out of you.funny she remembers none of this and claims i must be crazy.but you sound like a wonderful person and I wish you much good and a happy life. you have a son that is the best and most great thing in life to be is a mother that cares.I too have a woderful son.

Life is a story, tell it...what's there to hide...thanks for sharing...

I can't imagine how scared and alone you felt!

I'm so glad you bettered yourself because of it, especially since you are a Mom now.

(((Hugs)))

Hello Leeshy,

First, I want to say that you should be proud of yourself. Proud of becoming an educated person and no doubt, a wonderful Mom. It can sometimes be a tough "job" to have, right? But, the most wonderful "job" of all time. Second of all, your mom should be ashamed of herself, by doing the things she did to you. I am glad you have had other "real women" in your life to help guide you and love you and teach you. In many ways you're a very lucky and loved woman! The Best of Luck to You.

it is a nice story to share , past is past if you repeat your feeling of not being treated again and again that never go away, so look at the brighter side of future , sometimes its hard for single parents to do lots of things alone and seeing evry angle of life is differnt job to do , when we become parents overself than we relised how hard they try to give us evrything and be there for ua when we need them ,keep your thinking postive and you are not going to lose anthing in your life .

When my mother and her sister were growing up, their mother (my grandmother) would also take off for days and leave them to fend for themselves. Apparently, my grandma really liked to be on the move when she was young.... She just couldn't be bothered to take her daughters along it seems.



My aunt got out of the house as soon as she was old enough and to this day, resents the treatment she endured as a child. To this day she maintains *as little* contact with grandma as she possibly can.

My mum had the opposite reaction. She stayed at home a bit longer before striking out on her own. She constantly sought the approval (i.e. love) of my grandmother - but never really got it. Grandma is in her 80's now. Not nearly as mobile, but still as carefree. Until recently, It made my mother tearful and angry that she could never receive any empathy or approval from her. Mom FINALLY got the message my aunt learned decades ago - that what she was looking for would *never* arrive (but it still makes her angry at times...)

Thankyou so much for your story!

I, like you thoroughly dislike my mother. If it weren't for my other mums (which is pretty much my besfriend's and my boyfriends mum) I really don't know what I'd do.

Your story, like EPjake says, shows us that we don't have to be like our parents if we don't want to.

There is hope afterall!

you're mother sounds like a full blown narcissist you should look it up it might help give you some peace and closer and help you understand your mother for what she really is

I have a wonderful mother I am really grateful to have her in my life.

you talked about having a role model, someone who was/is a good mom? I knew the kind of mum I wanted, needed and didnt have. I have given my kids the kind of mum I needed and would have appriciated, not the mum they deserve and need. I feel that all my fears and insecurities but not my coping mechanizms have been passed to them. I wish I had had a happy , secure childhood surrounded by people who loved me then I coulh have been the kind of parent I wanted to be. I have not been a bad one, but probably not good enough.

This is sad, but it did make you stronger didn't it?

My mom was ok, my dad was a terror. There were a few things for which i kept blaming my mom but now everything is forgotten and forgiven. I have a daughter and i made it a point to do all those things for her which i expected my mom to do for me. Of course, there was a time when i was not going through a good phase of life and i did ignore my daughter and sometimes when i look back, i do have regrets but when i discuss with her, she didn't mind those things. She is so proud of me and she feels blessed to have me as her mother. It is nice of her to forget and forgive. The best thing we have..is the trust. She knows, no matter what happens, her mother will be always there for her. She is very independent and strong, and a very nice human being. Tomorrow if i am there or not, i am confident that she would be able to get on with her life nicely.

It's an old saying but true- you never do know what happens behind closed doors. My mom got treated similarly by her mother as well, though she stopped the cycle with her own children. It must take tons of courage, determination and self-awareness to overcome such a background; I'm glad to read that you did.

it's sad,that some people doesn't deserved to be mothers and fathers.JobellaEdward comment

on 12/9/09 personally very sad for me,my ex.hated my son,because he looked like me I think, it effected his life and his relationship with woman

It's not always easy to love people who have hurt us, but by doing so...we rise above one of life's greatest challenges.

wow, you story really touch my heart dearly because it sound like and little of my life story and you inspire me too be a very good mother ....

YOU ARE PRECIOUS!!! :-)

huh. wow. i haven't seen the movie Precious though I want to...just haven't had a chance. Yours is the first post I read in this forum and as I said, wow. Wow because I also wasn't allowed to use my mom's bathroom, lol. I never heard of anyone with the same rule. I used her bathroom once (don't remember why) and all hell broke loose. I didn't even feel comfortable going upstairs cuz that was 'her area.' I felt like I always had to stay in my room- out of sight and out of mind. All my belongings had to be in my room as well......other than a photo on the wall it was like I didn't exist in the rest of the house. And all this was normal to me. I'm starting to realize just what I have missed.

Yes you can always break the cycle, just because a parent does wrong it doesn't mean it gives us an excuse to do wrong also. Parents are suppose to be someone to look up to, and they are to teach their children how to be responsible,yet loving individuals that know right from wrong.

My boys had their own bathrooms and bedrooms and I never left them for any length of time till they were grown boys, driving and dating.

you did good, and by over compensating, youre doing even better...be proud of yourself!

The beautiful thing about being adult and having our own will is that we don't have to be like our parents. i think you may have learned things about yourself on those lonely nights. Namely, that you can survive and take care of yourself. You mother was immature. And you can be loving, nurturing and a great mother to your son.

Your mother has a Borderline Personality Disorder. The scary behind-the-scenes mother is described as being like two people--one may be bright, talented, and caring to neighbors and friends, but out of plain view she becomes demanding, accusing, and abusive. Go to your library and look for a book entitled "Understanding the Borderline Mother." It helped me a great deal in figuring out what was wrong with my mother. In front of others she acted like an entirely different person. Nobody would believe the terrors she inflicted upon her children.

Your story hits home for me because we were taught that same thing "CHILDREN SHOULD BE SEEN, NOT HEARD!" & "SPEAK WHEN SPOKEN TO, NOT ANYTIME ELSE! I'm so glad that you found other women to teachyou how to become a great mother and how to nurture you child. Most of all that you learned that you are a child of GOD and he loves you.

You are Precious and Loved by God- read John 3:16 in the Bible