Pregnant After Miscarriage

I had a m/c last April. It wasn't a planned pregnancy, but we were so thrilled and excited. I was feeling deserving of this beautiful experience and was taking it in very nicely. Felt privileged and like I was touched by God.

Unfortunately, it didn't stick. Now, I'm pregnant again. This time, it seems to be alright. But I'm at 9 weeks pregnant, I still feel scared, cautious, sad and unhappy. I don't know if I'm still living the pain of the first loss, if I'm just scared to be happy, scared to be disappointed or maybe even just doubting my capabilities... All I know is this pregnancy is not getting all the attention it deserves and it makes me even more sad to think about it. I felt so hurt to lose the previous pregnancy. I felt like faith had tricked me. Maybe I just can't get over it. Although I thought I had...

I'm sad and lonely. This isn't how it's supposed to be.
gleger gleger
1 Response Sep 11, 2012

I had a very painful miscarriage in 2005. I didn't conceive till 2010, the pregnancy was not really planned. I found out I was pregnant and the next day at work was a robbery, which was traumatizing. I thought about the lost baby and I thought about the munchkin growing inside me and I thought about the robbery, I asked what's more important, what I've lost and I'm not gonna get back, what happened or the miracle God honored me with. My munchkin gave me the strength to move on in life for him his future, it wasn't my munchkins fault that I had gone through whatever. My point in this is, be strong, be happy for your new baby, make this baby your strength and happiness to move on, it's not this baby's fault that you had a miscarriage so why should "it" suffer and mummy to be should be happy and look forward to the new bundle ;) Good luck! Also sometimes the sadness it's because of pregnancy hormones. Do what makes you happy so your baby is happy inside.

Thanks for your reply.

This week, we had an ultrasound and were able to hear the heartbeat and see the baby move around. It was thrilling and liberating.

I was so happy afterwards and it made me realize I was just so stressed out and scared to go through the same pain once again.

Although nothing is ever guaranteed, I'm now much more relaxed and I can finally say I'm happy with this pregnancy.

Thanks for your message and your support. :)