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All Things Point To Single And Pregnant (again...)

At age 19 I ended up Pregnant and Single. However, funny enough, I was stronger then vs. now. At that time my pregnancy made me a stronger person and just filled me with empowerment to get a better life and show the world that its OK to be a single mother.

Today, I'm 27. I am 17 weeks pregnant and feel the opposite from when I was 19 and pregnant. I feel like a total loser and a failure. I have been with my partner for 3 years... I truly love him and willing to fight for our relationship but I know our problems are only getting worse. Constant lies about all things he can lie about. We are not the same ppl as from when we first met. Im 100% sure that I need to just pack and walk away... but like I stated before, I'm scared, confused, and in panic about being a single mom again. My career life became a good one after my daughter but my love life was a mess. Most guys don't want to deal with kids that are not theirs...lets not mention two... and now by different dads.... Ugh...

Just would appreciate the support if anyone feels like they can relate or give positive advice.

Sincerely,
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An Ep User An EP User 5 Responses Jan 11, 2013

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Well from a single dad's point of view first off slow down and take a deep breath and tell yourself everything will be OK because in the end it will second of all everything happens for a reason and you have a great gift inside of you right now sure you were a little older so you may not have the energy you watch that at 19 but you are still young do not sell yourself short there are plenty of great guys out there who would easily fall in love with a single mother of two I can say that because you are speaking to one you just have to make the person see all the good things and set up a second come from my single mother all the love that she had her kids have to offer him as well as the good times together as soon as he gets a sense of a family he's all the good things and set up a second come from single mother all the love that she had her kids have to offer him as well as the good times together as soon as he gets a sense of a family you have to help him see past the fact there are two kids here from two other guys that is not imported the important thing is there are two kids without a father and they have a lot of love to give if someone shows them the same St. Cloud and you might be amazed what might happen and who knows maybe even more little ones may arrive later on A ***** donor is not a father A father is someone who is actually they're supportive and loving so when they say the kids are not mine you turn around and say yes they are yours If you want them to be because want you to be there father

You know what, you just cut him the fucck off. You might be pregnant again but u need to change ur mentality. A man that is meant for u would love your children. Just focus on urself right now because u dont need to attract the wrong guy. Join cooking classes and mommy support groups. Dont look for the guy, enjoy life without one because u want a man to make u shine not to be the source of light in your life.

I definitely feel your apprehension. I'm in a similar boat, just having found out I'm pregnant and I have 2 other kids. With the first I was much more confident. Financially, raising 3 kids alone, and paying for the birth of the upcoming one is crazy to think about. Hope all turns out well for you. I wish we could all enjoy pregnancies without the stresses of relationship issues and all!!

Well you did it the first time, why are you so worried about it this time? I had my first at 20 and then my daughter snuck in there at 21. I left their father because he was a piece of ****! was on my own for 7 years and had to work double to feed them because the POS didn't pay child support. I met a wonderful man at 30 and married him the relationship with him and my kids was rocky but it eventually worked out. I had 3 beautiful boys with this man over a 12yr period. Then he died and here I go all over again. I am scared and stressed but this is not a choice my babies need me to be strong for them as that baby needs you. If you are not happy walk.... no one is going to look out for you but YOU that is your priority and that baby. Best wishes I hope it all works out for you.

Whoa! Your situation hits home so close. I had my first at 19. Father no good I was very strong life with no help AT ALL from him. Now in my 30's I love my guy are LO due any day now, but our relationship has loads of complications. All I know and advice to give is follow your heart I think u might be more overwhelmed that its been so long since u done this and never thought u would be back in that position. Keep your head your kids need you and u never know ur relationship just may take a positive turn.

So I became pregnant at 19 after 2 yrs with my bf. Had my son at twenty. Like yiu say I felt so great and proud.The father and I married right before our son turned one. It only lasted a year and a half due to our immaturity. Feeling so lonely I dated like 4 months after my 5 yr relationship ended. We fell in love moved in together my son adored him. Needless to say our relationship ended and I find out I'm pregnant at 25 and single by another guy. My family is not supportive and make me feel ashamed. We never talk about my pregnancy or appointments. And my ex has been ignoring me for 2 weeks now...So alone and scared