Doing This Alone?

well this baby is now what 3 yrs old so how has it been?

Thank you very much ward and amyjo3. I appreciate your responses. It's amazing to me that there are so many people out there who care enough to take time out of their day, just to possibly help somebody they don't even know. It's awesome. Refills my faith in humanity.



Congrats amyjo3!!!! Let me know when that baby comes!!! Any day now. :)

The baby is the main thing; you want to take care of him or her. Taking care of yourself is a big part of that, eh, you see that don't you?



Raising children with a spouse is a huge job, doing it unmarried has to be immensely huge. I'd say you ought to start building a support group as soon as you can; you know, friends, single mother groups (check the hospital maternity department), church groups ought to be aplenty, and relatives, your family, maybe the father's family (?), lots of places. Even if you don't need it right now, having the support group is apt to make you feel on firmer ground, especially in that third trimester when everything gets harder to do.



Good luck to you. Lots of guys think pregnant women are absolutely beautiful; I am one of them.

Hi Ready 2 Grow! Well first off congrats on the baby, mine is due Monday and I am nervous as heck. I'm sorry to hear about your situation, being a single mom is tough but certainly no hurdle you can't get past. I am a single mom of 2 soon to be *gulp* 3 and I never intended on being alone and raising 3 children, but fate had other plans. The good thing is that you didn't seem to imply that the father is a bad person in anyway and that always leaves room for hope. Not so much that you can be with him, but hope that when the baby comes he will pick up the roll of dad. It doesn't seem fair at all that we have to go through the 9 months of the good, bad and ugly alone, but I try to remember that we already have a connection to our child. A physical (you can't get much more physical than actually living inside someone lol) connection and emotional connection that the man just does not have at this point. At this point in the game the only thing he has to wrap his head around is a though, a concept and if he has never been a father before of course he is having a hard time grasping the connection we perceive he should have. This isn't lack of caring for most men, we just have a glorified image in our head that the guy should be right there and all consumed from day one. Not usually the case, although there are men out there that probably are :). In any case, just relax and take time to truly enjoy your pregnancy. I have such a foggy memory of my first child because I was so wrapped up in dealing with her father (pretty much same situation as you are in now ) that I forgot to focus on the task at hand! Make sure to keep everyone updated on that baby!! *HUGS*