Anyone Else Know How I Feel?

Okay, heres the thing. I am 14. I will be 15 in a month.
My boyfriend and I have known eachother over a year, and have been together almost 11 months. We are dying to have a baby. We think I may have had a misscarriage, but not sure. But, we are very mature for our age. He is older than me. Not putting any personal information out there though... Does any other teen who is pregnant or already have a baby, is your family strict? I mean thats about the only thing I am really, really, really, worried about. I am stressed out to the max. Thanks to anyone that can help me!
Kiki1997 Kiki1997
13-15, F
14 Responses Sep 10, 2012

I don't mean to be a hard stomp here, but you say you both are mature for you age, but I can't help but feel that's not entirely true. For one, you said you're 15 years old. Do you have a job? Do you own or rent your own roof over your head? Do you have an appropriate enough of money saved up for accidents, emergencies, or resources needed? Do you even have a schedule planned out to where you can look after a baby, but at the same have money coming into the house to maintain a healthy flow of resources? How about you Google how much it takes to take care of a baby, especially until it turns 18. But I'm assuming that since you don't have all these things, you're still dependent upon your parents or guardians right? So how the heck do you expect to take care of a baby when you can't even independently take care of yourself?

Let me just say this; If you're thinking about having a baby now, the ONLY people who will most likely be taking care of that baby are your parents or guardians because THEY have the resources; you don't. And I think that would be EXTREMELY unfair to them for you bring another mouth to feed into the house like that.

If you both are really meant to be, then what the hell is the rush? You have your entire life to look forward to this event, but it's not now. While your friends are out hanging out with no big responsibility, you're going to be sitting at home rocking a drooling crying baby in your arms. You owe it to this defenseless and innocent human being to provide them the BEST environment possible. WAIT.

Omg please wait!!!! You've so much going on right now, you are too young there are some many things you want to live for. Believe me you'll regret it

Hi. I think it would be better if you wait, 15 is young to have a child. U won't e able to go out and eenjoy your teen years. Just wait, finish school, the think it through also if u are 18 ur parents cant be too mad ur not their responsibility anymore, hold it out, see what life brings x

I met my boyfriend (now husband) when I was 12. It was true love at first sight. Like you we talked about having a baby shortly after we met. We didn't start off saying oh yeah let's get pregnant right now! We just never used protection and were ok with it if it happened. But then a year went by without it happening and we were disappointed. So we started really trying, wanting a baby more than anything. We tried for years. Miscarriages happened. No baby. We got married when I was 17. Then a month later got the news that we were pregnant. We were so excited! It was a great day for us. Our son came into the world a month after my 18th birthday. He is the greatest. We have never had any regrets. We both feel that if we had him at 13,14,15 or whatever it would NOT have been a mistake. And I believe if we'd had him then we would have been ready to have a 2nd child a year or so after. I will tell you though that childbirth is no joke. Hurts like hell and you don't forget it. No matter how many people say that you do once your holding your baby , believe me it is still there in the back of your mind like wtf that s*** hurt! LOL. But it IS worth it in the end when you have that beautiful baby. And on the parent front my best advice is Do NOT tell them you want a baby now, or that the pregnancy is planned! They will be much easier on you if they think you made a mistake. I Can't sit her and tell you that it's a bad idea because you are young. Because I firmly believe in a young woman's right to choose what's right for Her OWN body. If that's sex so what. A baby? So be it. Just make sure you can care for that baby and that it NEVER goes with out. I am now 21 husband 23 and our son is 3. Happiest decision I made. Much love wish ya well!

I got prego at age 17 and my parents were dissapointed but since we both had jobs things werent so hard at first but when my baby was born things got really hard I had to stop working & stop with college now im 20, I regret getting prego before I was done with college and had my own house/ car etc... my opinion is that u should wait... my friends parents made her get an abortion at 15 since she was a minor they just took her

I got prego at age 17 and my parents were dissapointed but since we both had jobs things werent so hard at first but when my baby was born things got really hard I had to stop working & stop with college now im 20, I regret getting prego before I was done with college and had my own house/ car etc... my opinion is that u should wait... my friends parents made her get an abortion at 15 since she was a minor they just took her

I got prego at age 17 and my parents were dissapointed but since we both had jobs things werent so hard at first but when my baby was born things got really hard I had to stop working & stop with college now im 20, I regret getting prego before I was done with college and had my own house/ car etc... my opinion is that u should wait... my friends parents made her get an abortion at 15 since she was a minor they just took her

I got prego at age 17 and my parents were dissapointed but since we both had jobs things werent so hard at first but when my baby was born things got really hard I had to stop working & stop with college now im 20, I regret getting prego before I was done with college and had my own house/ car etc... my opinion is that u should wait... my friends parents made her get an abortion at 15 since she was a minor they just took her

I got prego at age 17 and my parents were dissapointed but since we both had jobs things werent so hard at first but when my baby was born things got really hard I had to stop working & stop with college now im 20, I regret getting prego before I was done with college and had my own house/ car etc... my opinion is that u should wait... my friends parents made her get an abortion at 15 since she was a minor they just took her

I got prego at age 17 and my parents were dissapointed but since we both had jobs things werent so hard at first but when my baby was born things got really hard I had to stop working & stop with college now im 20, I regret getting prego before I was done with college and had my own house/ car etc... my opinion is that u should wait... my friends parents friend made her get an abortion at 15 since she was a minor they just took her

I'm sure in your heart you feel completely ready there's no doubt in my mind. You should really take time and advice to thoroughly think it through all the way. Being 22 and having a son was and still four months later is a big challenge in every way possible. If your concerned of your family not approving that should be taken into consideration also because when you have a child your life completely changes and it is no longer your life anymore and family support is the most important help you need at a time like that. You don't realize the changes and sacrifices that are made until it happens planned pregnancy or not. You can never prepare enough to bring a child into this world and at fourteen your still young and not fully matured or developed yourself emotional, mentally. You'll will miss out on a lot of things that people at your age will get to do without children and you'll never be able to get those years back. You need to live, learn and have experiences that you can use to raise a child at fourteen you lack those experiences and mistakes. The best thing you could do for your some day child is to enjoy your youth, get your education and become stable in your life and find out who you are, because once you have a baby you don't have time for that. Raising a child and trying to find your self is the most difficult thing any women could attempt. Please take into consideration the advice people have given you and good luck with whatever choice you choose. Just make the decision for the child .. not you. They are a 24/7 job and the majority of your hours a day should be spent at school to better you and your future family.

Do you know how much money babies cost? My brother works full time and he can't afford 2 kids. Do you and your boyfriend have jobs? How are you going to pay for food, diapers, rent? Why do you think this would be a good idea? Have you discussed this with your parents because obviously they will be paying for this. Do you have any idea what it is like to be a parent of teenagers? Can you imagine your parents reaction? Do you know how much this child is going to change your life? Do you think you're going to be able to hang out with your friends? Do you think your friends will want to hang out with you and your baby? I know teens that have gotten kicked out. And do you really think this guy is going to be around forever supporting you? Especially if your parents decide to kick you out or to not support you? You really need to talk to your family, this is a really bad idea. You may be caught up in the moment now, and I've been there done that. But you will look back at your life and wonder why you made these decisions.

ONLY STUFF I CAN TELL YOU ABOUT WOULD BE BACK IN 1961<br />
if you think you may be you need to see a doctor asap <br />
really to alittle to think about what mom and dad are going to think you made the choice alread when you allowed him to remove your panties off<br />
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and yes i know how your mind just over rides you body and it happens<br />
youneed to see dr and get on the medications you need to take no drinking no drugs, drink water soda crackers<br />
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we had 9 other couples inour group in high school all had kids first year we never did as we could not have kids

Hey. I'm Melissa , I'm fourteen and pregnant , like you my birthday is next month. To be honest , my boyfrien and I spoke about having a baby before I got pregnant. I hate to say it, but my pregnancy was a mistake. But in the same way, it's not. Just a new beginning. My parents are ******* psycho tho, and my mother went ballistic when she found out. Not in rage but she was so hurt. But I don't blame her, pregnancy is a bigger deal then you can ever dream of. My father doesn't know, not yet. But I know when he finds out, im most likely getting kicke out. Toward the miscarriage part of your situation, this is my decode pregnancy. Lik you I am really mature , and I messed up and lost my virginity when I was twelve, and I got pregnant. I lost the baby after two months and seventeen days , if yu think you lost it. I recommend getting a pregnancy test and finding out. It's always best to know. I hope te best for you, no matter what outcome your life may take for you. Be strong, and understand your a rich girl , you're rIches is your life. (:

If I was to get pregnant now, it would not be a mistake. We have been talking about having a baby for months now, when we thought I was pregnant back in March, we bought a few baby outfits. We are ready, believe it or not. I'm just freaking out about the whole parent situation. His parents, im not so worried about. They are understanding. I lost my virginity at 14, about 8 months into our relationship. I hope all goes well for you also. &amp; thanks! (:

Don't sweat it. And I never said you weren't ready, and I dont think my baby is a mistake. It just wasn't planned. it's very Ovious you are ready. But parents are always the scariest part of any situation. Once you truly know for a fact you are pregnant, take a breathe, tell which ever parent you're closest too first. They always are the more supportive from what I've experienced. But, before you even bring it up, because I'm telling you , parents emotionally get pushed over the edge the moment they find out their baby girl is pregnant, get a test. It's always best to know.

You are really messed up. You are going to ruin your life. This is worse than that Honey Boo Boo show!

Excuse me, even tho I don't think it's the best idea to get purposefully pregnant at our age, I also don't think it right for you to be rude about this. It's her choice, abd if you think she's crazy, fine. That's what you think but youre wrong to be so rude to her. If you think it's not the best idea, it's okay to tell someone that, but at the very least be respectful, and keep in mind, she's not you. You don't know what she's gone through or what she's thinking exactly. Be an adult , show a bit respect. This is a support group, not a group for people to be rude. Support groups don't always have to support someone, they can disagree. But there's a line, and you defiantly crossed it by being this rude to this girl.

I'm messed up? Are you ******* kidding me? You don't know if I do or do not have money for this baby... I do not need support from my family ONE bit,yes, my boyfriend WLL be there forever! I do not need to explain **** to you though. Have a nice night.

sweetie trust me you are not ready for this! Babies are cute and wonderful but they dn't stay babies, do you realy want a screaming biting fit throwin toddler running around by the time you're 17?? Do you want to drop out of school, an miss your prom, and have all you're friends desert you? because they will. Do you think your boyfriend will still be in the picture when you are fat, have stretch marks, and a stretched out vagina from a normal child birth? What do you think is going to happen when you look like hell because you've been up with the baby all night and a virgin cheerleader strutts past him in a short skirt? Do me a favor before you decide to get pregnant, do some baby sitting for a toddler, and then think about it, when its your child acting up and throwing a temper tantrum you can't give them back......ever!

oh and als should you become pregnant you mght want to goole cytotec only abortion.

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