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Alright here's the deal. I'm a 19 year old male and i have a 15 year old girlfriend (dont lecture me about the age difference i know it's bad, but she was a freshman when i was a senior in high school...thats neither here nor there.) And she really wants to get pregnant and have a baby and  no matter what I say to her i cannot change her mind. Can someone please tell me what i can say to her to change her mind, cuz quite frankly i know that neither of us is ready have to have a kid in the equation and i'm really freaked out. What do i do??????
flailabout flailabout 18-21, M 17 Responses Sep 17, 2010

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Don't have sex- she wants a baby because she feels this is the only way to keep you in her life.

Be honest about your feelings. Don't hold back. Tell her that neither of you is in the position to take on such a huge responsibility. Having a child is liken to making a date for the next 18 years.
Keep that in mind.
If she's not ready to accept your feelings, then you should consider leaving the relationship. If she's willing to overlook your feelings on this matter, and willing to give you up because of your very mature decision, perhaps you should give some thought that you're only there to serve as an end to her means.

The answer is really quite simple. Don't have sex.

Run....do not walk but run from this girl.....a pregnant gf isn't something you need at 19. Your life will be forever changed for the worse and you may go to jail with her being so young. Only have babies when your older and able to support them, give them a home and a family....this girl is poison. I know if feels good to do her but really???? think with the head on your shoulders for a change!!

there may be a 4 year age variance where if you are with in 4 years of each others age in some states its over looked but the day you turn 18 or 21 the cops can pick you up you have only two options get her parents consent to marry her if you plan on staying together and getting married when she is older anyways that way if the cops do come for you; you can give your lawyer a copy of the consent form they signed and a copy of the marriage license to give to the judge mind you; you would have to marry her before you turn 21 and within one year of obtaining the license because most expire if they are not used within a year. Your other option is leave the area look for a job out of state or at least in a different city far away. those are your only two options that are legal the third option is to keep having sex with her condom or not and risk getting arrested; even if she says she consented to have sex with you and her parents have consented to allow you two to have sex; since you would be over ages of 18 or 21 depending on the states age of consent law the state and or city d.a. can file charges on the girls behalf against you and against her parents for child neglect and or endangerment so not only would you end up in jail but her parents could as well or at the very least she would be taken from her parents custody and put into a foster or group home until she is an adult and any kid she may have could be taken from her and put in a different foster or group home depending on the states laws. And as for you being able to get a job after getting out of jail not only do you have a criminal record you could never get a job working with or around kids as you would have a charge of child abuse on your record. So again I suggest you find a job or school far away from her. Good jobs are the oil fields and rigs and fishing boats they pay well and if she were to try and follow you to "be with you" she would end up not being able to get to you especially if you were on a fishing boat or oil rig. But its your choice so be careful and always use protection no matter what even if a girl tells you she is on birth control wear a condom and like the camping/backpacking saying goes pack it in/ pack it out in other words bring your own condoms you know haven't been tampered with and take them with you when you leave so any girl you sleep with cant try to impregnate her self with the ***** in the condom and always make sure it has spermicide in it and if you want to be extra sure put some inside the condom when you put it on and put some inside the girl you are with that way if there is accidental breakage of the condom it will reduce the risk of her getting pregnant. Again i say the choice is up to you.

i tink you gatta tell her'if she keeps insisting'den u wnt make love with her....bt if u still wannt to make love with her bt nt get her pregnat'well you cn alwayz use a condom'bt make sure you buy it'make sure you trow it in a safe place'bcz she cn alwayz get it'&&&&stickk ur ***** into her ahhhaaammm'!! be carefull'!!! just talk to her straight up'shes nt ready'!! trust me'ii wanted a bby wen i was 15'years old'nww im 17'!! &&&&im still with d same guy[: i tank him for nt getiing me pregnat even dou at dat time i didnt tought about de sutiation so well'!! by da way his 19years old[: &&&d agee dnnt matter wenn somee onee is in lovee'!! i wnnt judggee youu'!! justt nt get her pregnat'shes oviosly nt ti king everyting truuw'!!

I more than stand by what I wrote. I really hope someone of good influence will finally step into your life or hers so you may have a role model. I think that you are preying on someone too young to know better. It's sad that you think that someone hasn't been in love because they think the situation that you are in is very wrong. I am sorry, but no matter how you look at it, the situation is immoral. I doubt you know what love is nor does she and you are robbing her and yourself of your youth. To the Canadian 15 year old, I believe the same thing no matter where you are located. I think that if you are truly in love then you ought to wait until you grow up, and if he loved you he would wait. I don't care how mature you think that you are, it's highly doubtful that you are ready to be in a sexual relationship with a 19 year old, you don not have the maturity or comprehension it takes to be involved in a relationship of this kind.

If you still need advice, message me. i think I can help.

if you do not resist, and use condoms, you will screw up you life.<br />
1-- you may go to jail<br />
2 you will not go to college and will not find a job to pay the baby bill<br />
3 -early love always end up, and you will be paying child support for te rest of you life.<br />
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also: no trips, <br />
no disco , <br />
no fun with friends, <br />
no others girls, <br />
your little money will all to the baby and you cannot eve buy beer when you finally get old enought to drink (if you are not in jail) <br />
also if you high school teachers find out they have to report the case to DFCS

Lulium i would like to message you but unfortunately you're underage so the site will not allow me to.

Hi, well boy is this a tough situation, but its not impossible . My first thought is for you to leave her before your in way over your head, but if your in love that is likely not the way it is gonna go. your girlfriend is possibly suffering from depression and probably doesn't even know it, and if she does she likely wont admit it. the reason teenage girls want babies at that age is mainly because they want someone to love them unconditionally just like a baby would, they want something for their own. but of coarse they are sadly mistaken as having a baby at such young age will mess around with the whole infrastructure of their life some will even get more depressed and end up hurting themselves or their Child. Take it from me that i went thru this, if you really love her avoid having sex, if you really cant (then it means you don't love her JK) then make sure u use protection tell her u dont want a baby that having her all for yourself is ALL you need that the both of you can fulfill each other with the love and attention that you need. I don't think this is gonna go well for you the gap in age also complicates the issue but give it a try and if she doesn't agree to use protection flee while u can cuz it wont end up nicely.

Hi, well boy is this a tough situation, but its not impossible . My first thought is for you to leave her before your in way over your head, but if your in love that is likely not the way it is gonna go. your girlfriend is possibly suffering from depression and probably doesn't even know it, and if she does she likely wont admit it. the reason teenage girls want babies at that age is mainly because they want someone to love them unconditionally just like a baby would, they want something for their own. but of coarse they are sadly mistaken as having a baby at such young age will mess around with the whole infrastructure of their life some will even get more depressed and end up hurting themselves or their Child. Take it from me that i went thru this, if you really love her avoid having sex, if you really cant (then it means you don't love her JK) then make sure u use protection tell her u dont want a baby that having her all for yourself is ALL you need that the both of you can fulfill each other with the love and attention that you need. I don't think this is gonna go well for you the gap in age also complicates the issue but give it a try and if she doesn't agree to use protection flee while u can cuz it wont end up nicely.

Hi, Im 15 and my boyfriend is 19, luckily its legal here in Canada so I dont get the hate like you do. I have a worry of getting pregs but I dont want to be.. Im sorry that your gf is so into having a child, perhaps I can give you some help on how to make her see reason. Message me if you are interested

annoyedinhawaii...umm first off, i was a senior and she was a freshman, i'm not gonna explain the age situation to your liking though, and yes I know it's wrong but from the negativeness of your comment i take it you've never been in love. And thank you for restating basically everything I did, i know we're not ready for a baby...which is why i'm here, to ask for help, to convince her otherwise.

My stepmom is 10 years younger than my dad. **** the haterz c:

so how did everything turn out for you 2 years later?

Either you're an idiot, and stayed in Highschool way too long, or are lying about how you met. In most states it's illegal to have sex with anyone under 16. Where are her parents? Where are yours? I see that you find it slightly inappropriate due to the first sentence. She obviously isn't mature enough to handle a child and neither are you. I doubt she's even ready for sex, but isn't it nice of you to help her out on that front. Break up with the girl. It's illegal and disgusting. You should have enough self esteem to find someone your own age!!

that's definitely crossed my mind...really hard to say no though.

Simple (but not easy) answer. Stop having sex with her.