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I Am Pregnant At 15

15 And Pregnant In An Abusive Relationship

By: majames1331
Written on January 28th, 2013
A while back I wrote a story saying how helpful and supportive my boyfriend was when we found out I was pregnant early in January. Well, I feel like I'm ready to tell the truth about mine and my boyfriends relationship.
My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year on and off. He is 17 and I am 15. In the beginning he didn't hit me but was emotionally abusive. I never realized this because he was my first boyfriend. He would tell me **** you I don't care about you. Then we broke up for the first time and I called him to try and work things out. He told me he needed someone to be there for him whenever. I told him that I will always be that girl. That's when he told me he loved me. We had only been together for 1 month.
I was so caught up in the moment. We were together for about 5 months when I realized there was something wrong with the way he was so possessive of me and always jealous. That's when we got into a big argument at his house. He pinned me down on his bed slapped and started to choke me. I kept trying to leave, but he just kept throwing me around and squeezing my face. After fighting back for a while I realized it was just making it worse so I let him have his way. I do think he felt bad after because he cried and told me how sorry he was.
After that he didn't hit me for a little while but then he would just out of no where start beating the **** out of me. When he would get pissed of he would break up with me and tell me to go **** myself. I would always end up calling him telling him I need him.
Next thing I know the beating had slowed down and I was pregnant. He tells me that he really wants a kid now and that he will be there for our family. He has only choked me once since we found out I was pregnant. He still calls me mean names and tells me to go **** myself.
I'm highly considering abortion, but I'm scared it will really hurt. I'm just not ready to ruin my life for someone who hurts me so much. I still really care about him and thats what keeping me from doing anything. I need advice please. It's hard for me to get advice from friends because he wont let me go anywhere without him. I know I should leave him, but I feel like I need him. What's wrong with me?
By: majames1331
Age: 13-15 , Female
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5 responses
  • majames1331
    majames1331

    I told my parents that my boyfriend beats me and now his dad is threatening to tell everyone I am pregnant. I am trying to get an abortion so I can go away and never look back. I feel bad because I love the my baby's daddy. His dad says I can never ever talk to Angel again.

    Feb 5
    1 like
    • touching69
      touching69

      well sweety iam a guy with a big heart plus iam very fond of pregnant females,plus i think your beautifull and hot either way ,if you would like and or need a friend to getaaway for a while or any advice im here ok call me 347-316-3072 call me im jay dont hesitate!,no man no person should BE VIOLATING YOU in any form or shape,its unsafe and real bad for you i would leave ASAP IF I WAS YOU! well dont forget that i would like to be there for you in any way possible ok !

      Feb 14
      1 like
  • notmytime
    notmytime

    Can you talk to your parents? Do you have any family that you can talk to? Your boyfriend will not change. The fact that he has beat you several times, is a VERY VERY bad sign. You are not in a safe place and you need to get away and stay away from him. If you do not have family, you can go to a battered women's shelter. There is help, they will make sure you are in a safe place and you will NOT be found by anyone you don't want to know. Please, for your sake, please leave him. Do not tell him, just leave and NEVER look back. I know the emotions are overwhelming, you have already dealt with more in your life than most women ever do. But you have made it this far, and I believe that you have it in you to get through this.

    http://www.ehow.com/how_8640_find-battered-womens.html

    And, if you believe you need an abortion, that is your decision!! Whether or not other people believe what is right or wrong, it it your life, your decision. End of story. And if you do this, you will be fine, you will be put to sleep.

    Please google battered womens syndrome. You are NOT alone, but I know you feel like the only one in the world who has ever been there. I promise you, you will get through this. PLEASE go get help.

    Jan 28
    2 likes
  • Ravens522006
    Ravens522006

    Sweetheart you think you need him but you DON'T you are young i bet there are a lot of other guys would love you for you and show you how love should be . no boy should put his hand on no lady at all in that way. you just have not fine the right one. he can hurt you or can kill you. now about the baby that is going to be a hard one. but i know one thing you DO NOT WANT to this boy who would hit you in your baby alone . he will more likely get mad when the baby will not quit crying . he might hit you for it or the baby. you really need to get some help from your family not your friend. you need someone to protect you and if you are going to have the baby or not. but you need to get rid of the loser sorry to say. i just don't want you to get hurt in no way.

    Jan 28
    1 like
  • weeklyta
    weeklyta

    Ill i can say is get out of this relationship quick to say he only choked me one since he found out i was pregnant is unthinkable he put his hands on a pregneant women.it might hurt but he does not love u if he did he would respect u.you dont need him what does he do for u nothing when your with him your scard to do or say the wrong thing because he might hit u dont put your self through that anymore be done with him and find someone who respects u and really loves you does taking a beating from your so called bf seem right.i may only be 17 but i know this sounds so wrong.and as far an abortion i dont belive in them i feel its wrong.and if u did get one you think about it every day if u dont want he baby try adoption bless someone eles with a baby who cant have one cause its ok to feel not ready and if you do keep the baby take u and your baby away from your so called bf.good luck and god bless you.and stay strong and if you need to talk im here =)

    Jan 28
    4 likes