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I Too Was Pregnant @15....i Understand What Your Going Through~

I was almost 15 when I found out I was going to be a mother.......I was in a relationship w/ a guy much older than myself (21).....being young and so naive, I thought we would be together forever, but....we weren't!

I wanted this baby so much that I even threw away my birth control pills to get pregnant.

But the one day when my wish became my reality....I was terrified!!!!!

I remember sitting in a chair watching a movie of an ultrasound and I just couldn't believe that a little life was growing inside of me.......wow.....so powerful and overwhelming......what a responsibility!

I was a young girl who wanted love and I thought......this child will fulfill my need for love....little did I know I would spend my life doing all that I could to fulfill his life in every way and provide him with the very best foundation  I was capable of giving, to guide him throughout his life.......like the angel he was for me~

He is 20 yrs old now and has a family of his own.....I am very proud of the man that he has become!

uniquelyme3076 uniquelyme3076 31-35, F 54 Responses Jul 6, 2009

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<3 love it.

How sweet.

a friend of mine is 15 and pregnent and her boyfriend is the biggest *** i have met. i dont know what to tell her. side note her boyfriend is dying of cancer he is also 19. help??

Beautiful story
Itd be intersting though if you told what happened to hid dad though : )

Awesome mom!

im 15 and´pregnet im with a guy much older than me to i thank god tho that he blessed me with a guy who truely loves me and wants to me with me through this <br />
i am right now across the country in peru while my boyfreind is home in united states working hard to give our chile that is due 22 or december the best life we can give our child i belive im truley blees so girls with there heads down dont worry u will be the best mothers even if u struggle at first just work your way up im 15 and pregnet and i can truley say im happy that god gave me this blessing that i can share with my boyfreind so that me and him can be truely happy he has even asked me to marry him i told him wait to ask me again when i come home case it was to sad for me to just listen to his voice while im all the way ove in peru i can truely say i found the guy i want my life with

I'm 15 & pregnant. i need advice please msg m or add me as a friend

I just found out I'm pregnant. I realize this was awhile ago so I was wondering how it was for you :) God bless

I found out I was pregnant when i was 15 and had my daughter 2 weeks before I turned 16. My daughter is now 2 and my whole world has tipped upside down. I wont say it is all bad, but luckily for me i have a very good support system.<br />
even when i was pregnant i knew that the father wasn't going to stick around for long...and low and behold, i was right. he see's her when he wants to see her and pays no support. therefore i am now a single mother. everything revolves around your child. nothing is ever simple. you can no longer just go out with friends on a limb. everything has to be planned and if your child is sick or fussy...guess what? you dont get to go out. <br />
I am not saying it is all bad, but everything is so much more difficult when you have a child especially while you are young and not financially or emotionally ready for a child. I have to say if it wasnt for my daughter i wouldnt be where i am today. i graduated school a year early and just recently passed my LNA exams. I have drive and determination because of my daughter <3

I am 15 and I'm going threw that exact same thing now. But, I don't knw for sure if I'm pregnant. /: I just know that I'm terrified, and don't know what to do.

All I can read on here 'mostly' is negative images towards teen mums. I have no problem with them, as long as they show love towards their child. I come from a very large family, my Grandma having her first at age 14, She then carried on & had 7 others. All of her kids started having kids at young ages also. which is how we've ended up with a large family, but because it's so large, there's a lot of support. I was only 15, But coming from a house with 7 other kids, & my mums actually pregnant with another. I know how to look after a new born baby, a toddler & a teen. I do it every day for my parents still. I have a boyfriend - before we even ever had sexual intercourse, we already had committed to one another, not by marriage, but with something that'l one day lead to us getting married, we have commitment rings, both of us, but parents 100% back the idea, because they can see how devoted we are to one another. Before my boyfriend & I have sexual intercourse we firstly discussed every possibility of what could come of it, & I am one day look forward to being a mother, & he so much wants to be a father. We had spoken about that, if when we did it, & we were to get pregnant, we wouldn't abort the baby, or adopt it out, & we wouldn't even want to rely on our family. He has a far bit of money saved up, from about the 3/4 month we dated, for when in the future we wanted a child, he's still staving to this day. We had our babies future planned out, while we were both still virgins. So no one could say we wouldn't be able to support a child, or love it. But that night, that both of us lost our virginity, at age 15, already being committed to each other, we fell pregnant - & I say we because we said to each other, even though the babies in my belly, it's still both of ours, so it's our pregnancy. We were both excited, the baby had a stable home to stay in, parents who could provide for it, without our parents help, & the baby had loving parents, we had our lives then set on our baby. Then about a month after we found out I was pregnant, I had the most heart breaking experience of my life, I went through a miscarriage, it was so painful, & I just couldn't hold back my tears, I had school the day I had the miscarriage & I couldn't even last a quarter of the day there. It broke my heart even more when I saw the reaction my boyfriend had on his face when I had told me, he, to me, looked lifeless, he had something so precious & within a bl<x>ink of an eye, he'd lost it, Even though he was hurting, he was still comforting me, reassuring me it was going to be okay, my boyfriend & I are both the same age, & I am confidently say were are a lot more mature then most teenagers in that generation, & what we went through, I wouldn't put it upon my worse enemy! Now to this day My boyfriend & I are still together, more madly in-love then we were before, & I think that heart breaking experience we went through together, brought us closer. When I was pregnant he was certain it was a girl, & he had a name for her 'Bella-Rose' I know he still misses his baby, because when he has his arms around me, he rubs my belly & He kisses it before he falls asleep. He has shown me he's father material. Which is why I'm hoping I'm pregnant this time round.<br />
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What I'm trying to say, is most teenage's don't consider the responsibility's of sex, they just see the pleasurable side to it, But when a teen finds out they're pregnant, they're going to be in shock, & panic & not have a clue what to do. So Parents out there how has a son or a daughter about to become young mums n dads - support your kids, they'll believe in themselves more that they can do it, if they have your support.

I know exactly how you feel. I found out I was pregnant and lost the baby about a month later, as well. I didn't tell my boyfriend until I actually had the miscarriage, though, because I didn't want to worry him before it was actually necessary. If I were still pregnant today, I would be five months along--the baby would be visible and I would probably be putting a crib in my bedroom for her to sleep in. I was sure that for the month that I had her inside me that she was a girl. I named her Blakeleigh Ann, and she is my little angel. Like you and your boyfriend, my boyfriend and I became closer through this tragic experience. You hear people say that you've never experienced true loss until you've lost a child, and I definitely believe that is true: a piece of me was lost when I lost her.

You sound like you are very responsible and will be an amazing mother one day. If more teenagers were like you, there wouldn't be such an awful sentiment about teenage parents. Good luck to you!

seriously that's the cheesiest ending of all ! -_-" <br />
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if u were saying the truth , why won't he raise ur own .. other than his now ?

seriously -.-'' thats the cheesiest ending i've read ! .. even snow white is jelous !

seriously -.-'' thats the cheesiest ending i've read ! .. even snow white is jelous !

I'm very happy to read this and know that anything is possible!

Hello.... I am going to be a little out of place here, being a guy.... <br />
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I get what your saying uniquely. More than I would like to TBH.... I am 21, and after my first ever girlfriend last year, and the 6 weeks of greatness that it was, I have, in a way, been trying to make people love me.... trying to find someone who wants to be with me... I also, for what ever reson, have the desire to be a father.... ****, I look at my youngest brother (he is 8-9 months now) and think '****, I wish had a family of my own'.

Wow...splitpeasoup.....you are hateful, but you have the right to your opinion...twisted or not, we have to right to disregaurd it as well....but thanks anyway!

Ironically, I was having just the same feeling in the other direction. <br />
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And obviously I was not serious. I was pointing out the evil inherent in your belief in scientific materialism. Essentially, you are listening to people who are like magicians, except they are too blind to see that's what they are. Of course, a real scientific materialist would pity you for not being willing to murder your child. So, you are obviously caught somewhere in between.

wow u sound like a real *****....i feel bad for your loved ones.........if u even have any!

Wow, good point. You are pretty much just a baby carrier, right? Well then why should we allow you to work, or vote, or anything? And shouldn't you currently be trying to figure out a way to have a new baby?<br />
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You are not raising your son better. This has been made clear by your sobering contradiction.

ummmm im sure he wont.......im raising him better then i was raised. And besides even if he did, why are us humans here??>>>>>>>>to reproduce.....right?....so i guess ive done my job

... hopefully he won't impregnate a 14 year old girl.

wow!! this sounds like me. i was one month away from being 15 when i had my son and everyone siad so much stuff but really i think he straightened me out...if it wasnt for him who knows where i would be. Well now hes 6 yrs old and i have been on my own for 5 yrs, i have a full time job a car and i pay all the bills in my family. My son is very well behaved and i cant wait to see the man he becomes i know he will be just as amazing as he is now.

@Theapathy<br />
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"your child DESERVES having the best chance in life they can get, and excuse me for being realistic, but, a 15 year old can hardly give a pet a chance in the world, let alone a child"<br />
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Wow, I will have to let my 12yo daughter know that she doesn't have a chance in life because I had her at 15. Wow and here I thought I was doing well, graduated high school (on time by the way in a regular public school), attended post secondary, I make decent money. I put money in an education plan for her, I pay for all her sports... oh which she won gold in recently. <br />
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I understand that things do not always work out for teen parents but I also know adults who should never have been parents and were far worse then I could ever be. I disagree with making such comments just because they are a teenager.

wat ever happen with u and tha baby do he pay child support.

I blame science for this, trying to convince everyone that there is no right and wrong. This is exactly why you are not supposed to have sex until you are married. Get it?<br />
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The reason you aren't loved is that no one believes in loving one another anymore. It's a me me me society.<br />
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This is also why I would never adopt. I would feel like I am supporting the industry of pre-marital (And I mean a well thought-out and working marriage, not the me me me marriage of Western culture) sex.<br />
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@ uniquelyme<br />
Sorry, you were raped by a depraved man. <br />
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@ lonelychick<br />
So basically, you want a man who will foot the bill and help take care of your kid even if you two do not love each other. Way to show that you are not willing to love someone.<br />
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@ the girls who want babies<br />
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No, stop being stupid. If I have to be smart, so do you.<br />
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@ everyone else<br />
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Yes, I know I am jealous. I deserve to be. These women are giving rapists and loser guys kids and making more rapists and loser guys. Sorry.

Thank You everyone for all of your comments and opinions....Im sure the diversity of what all of us have to say will touch someones life!<br />
WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO SEE....HOWEVER...IS....IF THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT WAS A CHILD BORN IN A SITUATION SUCH AS THIS......TO PLEASE COMMENT ON HOW IT HAS AFFECTED YOUR LIFE, SO WE CAN HEAR FROM YOU WHAT YOUR PROSPECTIVE IS......AS YOU HAVE LIVED IT!<br />
THANKS!!!

Thank You everyone for all of your comments and opinions....Im sure the diversity of what all of us have to say will touch someones life!<br />
WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO SEE....HOWEVER...IS....IF THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT WAS A CHILD BORN IN A SITUATION SUCH AS THIS......TO PLEASE COMMENT ON HOW IT HAS AFFECTED YOUR LIFE, SO WE CAN HEAR FROM YOU WHAT YOUR PROSPECTIVE IS......AS YOU HAVE LIVED IT!<br />
THANKS!!!

Yes you should be proud of yourself. Excellent. You are a good mother.

I became pregrant with my first daughter when I was 23. I was terrified! I can't imagine being any younger than that. It's good to learn that you came through it all!

I agree with Demol, thinking that a baby will solve your problems seems incredibly... naive (I wanna say stupid, but I don't wanna be too offensive, so, lets leave it at naive). And worse than being naive, is irresponsible and SELFISH. Why? Because you can't just bring someone into this world before having the tools to give them a decent life... My gosh, not even an amazing life, but DECENT the least, so that person can grow to be a normal human being! You have to stop and THINK about that little person's life for a second! <br />
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I admire the people who brought children to this world at 15 and tried their best to support them and be a good parent. But, if you haven't done it yet, PLEASE DON'T. Don't contribute more to the valley of tears, your child DESERVES having the best chance in life they can get, and excuse me for being realistic, but, a 15 year old can hardly give a pet a chance in the world, let alone a child. THINK, LIVE, PREPARE YOURSELF, EXPERIENCE LIFE AND THEN BRING SOMEONE TO THIS WORLD IF THE TIME IS RIGHT.

I have known and heard more than my share of stories about underage girls having babies. I live in Gloucester, MA for those of you that have heard of the pregnancy conspiracy) My sister was pregnant,married and divorced before she was old enough to vote one out of three of her kids is getting an education and not on drugs and it is not because she was a bad mother she just was not mature enough and very unprepared. My other sister was 19 and her daughter was killed at 8 months old because she was immature. My wife got pregnant so she could leave me and go on welfare our daughter is going to have a very difficult life being raised by her because she is more immature than my sister that had her first kid at 15. So you kids that read this if you don't believe everyone that has written in this post maybe you should google Amanda Ireland she is my sister in law and the closest thing to a success story that I know and she has said in all her interviews how difficult it is.

My friend is pregnant. At 13.

You're amazing

omg you people must be kidding with me... cause i cannot believe that what im reading is true!<br />
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Be honest, how could you put a baby in the world just thinking it's gonna resolve all your problem? it's gonna make your problems bigger than they really are.<br />
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You should study, work, travel, live, meet new people and good things of the life before you get married and get a child... what's gonna happen is that at some point you're gonna miss these things and gonna start be scared of life... <br />
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start druggin, drinkin, doing stupid stuffs and letting your child depressive...<br />
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but maybe you're gonna be a good mother and gonna feel happy for this, who knows.<br />
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But im tootally against this, that's what i think :)

There is an adage that "any play which leads to giving life isn't bad". it does not also mean one shouldn't be cautious of his or her life. Being pregnant wouldn't make u win someone's love..keep it bcos it could be your doctor, farmer, prof, teacher or anybody. All the best , pal...

billywares, how can you judge someone when you cant ever understand their pain? uniquelyme3076,thanks fr sharing your story. most of these tpes of stories never seem to have much of a happy ending. im glad yours did

waow what a lovely story, and I love your support for Keinani and about not "BRING A BABY INTO THIS WORLD UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES" is very true and considerate. I haven't thought about that either. Thanks for mentioning.

Clearly these 'I want a baby teenagers'are so immature mentally that they cannot think straight.It will be their parents who get saddled with the responsibility and economic cost of caring for such a baby.Parents wake up and explain that a baby cannot be looked after by a teenage mom and that such teenagers are as greatly selfish as the parents are irresponsible.

Uniquelyme your story is very similar to mine. I was sooooo in love with my boyfriend and when I fell pregnant at 16 we both agreed to put the baby up for adoption because we were too young to raise a kid. The morning after I had my Son a student nurse put him in my arms to be fed when I wasnt supposed to see him at all. I instantly fell in love and nothing my Mother or boyfriend said was going to change my mind. I was very fotunate to have my family and the boyfriends family to take care of and raise my Son for the first 6 years of his life because I was too busy being a teen. I regret everyday that I was'nt there during the nuturing time due to immaturity. <br />
My Son is now 35 and has many issues of his own which come from having such a niave and immature mother.<br />
He cant keep relationships and had a vacectomy at 30 because he didnt have a father or mature mother to teach him how to parent in his younger years.<br />
I became his full time mother when he was 6. I wasnt a mothers ******* and I live with the guilt of it everyday.<br />
He left home at 18 and I didnt see him for 10 years during which time we had occasional contact.<br />
Now we are friends and live within visiting distance. I am soooooo grateful for his forgiveness and grateful and proud of the man he has become despite having me as his mother.<br />
Soooo what I'm trying to say is "Ladies please dont have a baby to be loved. First become someone lovable and mature enough to to make your baby feel secure.<br />
Without security children become distrustful and unhappy and it may affect them their entire lives.

No....Kudos to you Nikolita, I totally agree and your website is a great idea......please read my blog on my page...i was quite floored by some of the responses i received about my story..... in no way am promoting teen parenthood!

I can name offhand about a half dozen people who are my age or older who I either went to high school with or am friends with, who have had babies within the last couple of years. A couple are on income assistance, a couple live at home and have their parents helping them raise their kids... none of them have a lot of money, no careers or decent jobs, nothing saved up and so on. <br />
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I've wanted a baby since I was 19, and I'm almost 23 now. I'm with someone stable and I'm finally in a position to have a baby, but as desperately as I want to be a mother, I'm holding off because we have no money saved up. If I have a child, I don't want to be on welfare or living off my parents because I made the stupid choice to get pregnant before I could properly take care of and raise a child.<br />
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If you're wanting a baby because you want someone to love, that's not an appropriate reason to have a baby. Babies are extremely expensive, especially in the first few years, nevermind the money you'll need to have for medical bills, necessities, savings and emergency funds. You'll need an income, a support system, and more. How many 15 year olds that? I have yet to meet a teen mom who could properly care for her child at that age completely on her own or even with a partner. Most teen moms I know are struggling to get by.<br />
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A baby deserves better than a mom or parents on income assistance, struggling to make ends meet and constantly stressed out. A baby deserves better than skipping out on necessities because Mommy and/or Daddy can't pay the bills and give the child what it needs. A baby deserves better than a single parent (although kudos to the single parents out there who have no choice and are making it work). A baby deserves a chance to grow up happy and healthy, with its needs provided for in a family that can give it all of the love and support (financial, emotional, material, etc) that it needs.<br />
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I run a guild aimed at teens on the website Gaia Online, and one of the subjects covered is teen pregnancy. If there's anyone reading this who would like to come talk to other teens and adults who are in your shoes, or if you have any questions, please feel free to come take a look: http://www.gaiaonline.com/guilds/?guild_id=4451<br />
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Another idea for wanna-be teen moms is to look up support programs for girls who come from "at risk" homes and families. Some cities have programs to help discourage young girls from becoming teen moms, and some have programs to support girls who do become pregnant.<br />
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(If there's anyone reading this who was a teen mom in their younger years, I'm not trying to slam you or anything. I'm just trying to be a little blunt to get my point across.)

AuthurStamp....What is the point you are trying to make???

uniquelyme3076 did you read all of the story? muppet.

I am 24 and after yrs of being constently hurt by the ppl i love n care about (including family actually mainly family) i feel that the only way for me to get the love i crave and deserve is to have a baby. I have tried for 3 yrs to get pregnant and in sayin so it has been wit 3 diff bf's in this space of time. My relationships never last and all i crave is a baby i am so scared that i have missed my happy ever after and i crave a baby but no matter how hard i try it just doesnt happen! i dont wanna b an old mum i wanna have a baby soon but i want a baby wit a guy who is gunna b a dad if were together or not! i hurt every day because of this every time i get my period i cry all i want is that beautiful baby of joy...

keinani....you are blocked.....I cannot mess you here... unless you add me so we can talk :)

Please... I would love to...

keinani.....do you want to chat now?

Email: keinani608@gmail.com <br />
I would love to talk about it...

keinani.....I do understand how you are feeling, but ......in no way....EVER.....would i suggest putting yourself and an innocent baby in that situation.<br />
I learned the hard way, that this is not how to get love or keep the love of someone who dosnt want to give it to you.<br />
If someone dosnt give you the love and dedication you desire freely.....then he is not worthy of you!<br />
Your time will come.....I PROMISE!!!!<br />
PLEASE.....PLEASE TAKE MY ADVISE......DON'T BRING A BABY INTO THIS WORLD UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES....IT WILL ONLY HURT THE CHILD AND IT IS NOT FAIR!!!!!<br />
One of my regrets is that my son had to grow up with me as I was illequipped to raise a child on my own and I hurt now because I see what i put my poor kid through......POVERTY......NO FATHER.......IMMATURE MOTHER......INSTABILITY........NEED I SAY MORE??????<br />
I really feel for you.....I to just wanted to love and be loved.....why dont you send me an e-mail and lets talk about this....maybe I can help you work through some of your feelings!

keinani.....I do understand how you are feeling, but ......in no way....EVER.....would i suggest putting yourself and an innocent baby in that situation.<br />
I learned the hard way, that this is not how to get love or keep the love of someone who dosnt want to give it to you.<br />
If someone dosnt give you the love and dedication you desire freely.....then he is not worthy of you!<br />
Your time will come.....I PROMISE!!!!<br />
PLEASE.....PLEASE TAKE MY ADVISE......DON'T BRING A BABY INTO THIS WORLD UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES....IT WILL ONLY HURT THE CHILD AND IT IS NOT FAIR!!!!!<br />
One of my regrets is that my son had to grow up with me as I was illequipped to raise a child on my own and I hurt now because I see what i put my poor kid through......POVERTY......NO FATHER.......IMMATURE MOTHER......INSTABILITY........NEED I SAY MORE??????<br />
I really feel for you.....I to just wanted to love and be loved.....why dont you send me an e-mail and lets talk about this....maybe I can help you work through some of your feelings!

I am I 16 year old girl. I want a many more then anything in the world. After thinking I was pregnant for almost two months, then buying a test to find out that I am really not. I have thrown away all my birth contol pills, and am thinking in my mind all I need to do is get pregnant and maybe someone will love me.....

my hero lol

wow. wasnt expecting that ending. but i liked it :)

wow. u should be very proud of yourself!