Pregnant And 43 Next Month?!
I am 42 years old (43 next month) and just found out that somehow although less than 1% likelihood I beat the odds unintentionally and found myself pregnant! I have 3 beautiful children ages 21, 17 and 13 and considered myself done with childbearing and raising a baby! My new " significant other" is 55 years old and he has fathered no children of his own and never gotten anyone pregnant. We are both quite frankly, baffled this has happened and due to the stage in our lives and our ages, we are uncertain what we plan to do. I am extremely healthy and as a result , likely to maintain a healthy pregnancy at this time despite the documented risks associated with pregnancy at my age. My good friend is an ob/gyn and although a discussion in past months, he would have advised against this. I am not sure I am able to consider raising another at my age. Given the fact partly I am very independent, having had a career I am recently laid off of work due to the poor economy, my initial reaction to this pregnancy was "no way can I go through with this". But now I am at a 50/50 point with deciding if this is something I might consider. I am aware through reading information that miscarriage is a definite possibility at my age.... And termination of this pregnancy is also a possibility which makes me feel a little unwary given the fact this would be my boyfriends one and only natural child and he comes from A family of 12 children (his siblings) who may actually be thrilled to learn he will be a father! I realize thus is a personal decision for us to make. His thoughts are pretty much the same as mine. Do we want to raise a baby at our age and also go forward with this pregnancy despite the possible risks we may encounter? What would my older children and our friends and family think? On another note, a part of me thinks "things happen for a reason". I am 5 weeks along now and actually feel quite well physically, not overly tired, hungry or nausea at all as with my prior pregnancies when u was a younger mother, which is a blessing! Any helpful insight on this? :)