So Lost...

I don't even know where to start....

I am 10 weeks pregnant and single. I had been with a guy for over a year and a half when we broke up. It wasn't until after we split that I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant and I told him. He didn't think we were ready to be parents. So he was less than happy and didn't want to be a part of it, well his words were "couldn't because he wasn't ready, but he wanted to support me however he could" I accepted that. Deep down I wanted his help, more emotional support rather than financial support but I knew he couldn't give it to me. He came to the first ultrasound, as much as he didn't want to and he has been there for me whenever he could be but it's starting to take it's toll and I can see it in his face whenever I am with him. Last week though he told me he wanted to try again - and I know he was only doing it for the child's sake - even though he has been seeing someone else for the last 2 weeks. 4 days down the track he has now told me he can't anymore, he would be doing it for all the wrong reasons - which I tried to explain to him when he asked to come back.

I know this emotional rollercoaster is not good for me and my baby but how do I let go of a man I am still in love with? This is tearing me apart and I don't want to do anything to hurt this child inside me... I don't know what to do :'(
waisian waisian
4 Responses Dec 9, 2012

Honestly, I'm in the same situation, but one day the baby's dad acts like he wants to be there, and the next, he doesn't. In my opinion, you've got to move on and just stay single for a while. That's what I'm doing, and it's working really well for me. Let me know if you need to talk, I'm here for you, and I'll be praying for you and the whole situation!

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Please forget about him. Go your own way, how difficult it will be. You will be happy in a few month time. Enjoy that you are pregnant. Stay well.

All the wrong reasons to be with him