Just Dumped

Are any of these men willing to cough up any money? What's family law like in your jurisdiction? The man who gets you pregnant owes you at least $500/month, say.



I don't feel sorry for men who impregnate women and then run away. Because I never heard of a woman who made a face when a man pulled a condom out of his pocket.



I met a woman in my 30s. I flew across the continent to meet her. She invited me into her bedroom, and it was thrilling. A week later she rang me up to say that she had missed her period. I proposed marriage on the spot. She was relieved, but not enthusiastic. A week later she rang me to say she finally had her period. False alarm. I feel I did right by her. A few years later we married and we have been married now for 21 years. But I do not feel that what I did at the very outset of our acquaintance has earned me the enduring gratitude I think I deserve.

Wow sounds familiar. I met my ex fiancee on myspace dated got engaged 9 mths later i found out I'm 5 wks pregnant, and he split. He's 30 by the way. I feel for ya. I'm there too.

My heart goes out to you, it truly does. I'm in a bit of the same situation, if in reverse. I met a guy four months ago on a dating site as well. We started hanging out as friends and suddenly it developed into more. I've been married three times, had a pretty messy miscarriage, and have never been able to get pregnant since. Obviously, I was more careless than I should have been because two months later, I found I was pregnant.



I have to admit - I flipped out. I'm 33 and this is my first child with a man I barely know. Now my budding romance seems to be forced upon me, changing my 'maybe someday' with him to a much quicker/harsher reality. In fact, the day I found out, I automatically broke up with him because I figured I might as well do it now than later. All I'm saying is that it is a lot of pressure on a new relationship.



If I were you, I wouldn't judge him too harshly, though I understand why you're scared to go through it alone. I'm terrified myself. But it is better that he was honest with you now rather than buckle under the pressure later. You need friends and family around you that you can depend on and if he can't fit the bill, it's best he step out now. Keep him advised of what is going on and continue to allow him to be a part of your pregnancy. After all, he will be part of your life as long as he is part of your child's. You never know, after he gets used to the situation and the immense pressure of it all, he may realize what a fool he is being and how lucky he would be if you would give him another chance.



In the meantime, focus on yourself and your baby, by utilizing a support network you can count on. Good luck to you and know that you are not as alone as it may seem.