I Need Some Advice!

i am 19 years old i have been dating my best friend for a year and 3 months. we have been close friends for 3 years and he was just shipped of to Texas for airforce BMT. i am 9 weeks pregnant we found out together and he is very happy and excited for our little one to come, sad that he won't be here with me to find out if its a boy or girl. he will be gone for 8 1/2 for basic training then i will see him on graduation(fingers crossed). then he has 96 days of tech school. well i just am nervous and that i am alone in this situation without him or have rarely any contact. my family and i are not very close and they are not that happy i am pregnant. while his family are excited which i feel is kinda apart of their culture that they have kids at a young age ( they are cambodian ) which i'm pretty curious about. you see i am white and his first girlfriend that was introduced to his family and they loved me from day one so i'm not sure what they think. but i need some advice how to make time go fast so i don't stress with my family problems and while he is gone.
Missairmanchhay Missairmanchhay 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25, 2012

Your Response


Firstly, let's calm down, secondly, be careful on mental sphere.

Do they get Christmas leave??

I'm not sure ill have to ask clement that on his graduation. i would hope so though!

How do you find out how long his tech school is?

Clement's recruiter told him before he left for basic. he already knows he will be trained in lackland Texas also. so he won't be able to come home for leave until he also finishes his tech school.

i'm relating to you with him not being there for you while you're pregnant. Look at it this way, from all the support HIS family gives you and you keep in touch with them and let him know how everything is by sending him photos of the baby growing inside you with sonograms, you'll be okay. My boyfriend will be in Afghanistan for 9 months starting January. and he's in training right now in California for a month.. I feel alone too, but i'm being super positive, knowing that i'll kiss and hug him and show him our baby. I'm 8 weeks tomorrow and i'm due May 14 :) :D

You'll surprise him with an amazing present you're now creating teehee.
hopefully in your side of the family, things will change.. my mom's up for it and she's excited, but my brother isn't at all, anyways it's whatever- you know.
Keep your head up and think about how happy you'll be when you see the baby in your arms, and usually things change right away when you give birth.
Don't feel like you're alone.. and don't be worried about him not being there for you physically... as long as you know that he is thinking of you too.
Good luck and stay positive <3

awhh congrats on your pregnancy! i have kept really close with his family and i visit them often and it has helped with my stress. my family is doing a little bit better but as you said i think until the baby is born that i will really see the difference. i actually got my first phone call from him and i was so glad to hear from him. i'm glad to have people like you to keep me positive oh i'm sorry i commented a little late.