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I'm Finally Pregnant After 4 Years!

When my husband and I wanted to try for a baby after 2 years of marriage I was diagnosed with PCOS. I went through 4 years of emotional while taking infertility treatment. Every time someone got pregnant I was sad that I couldn't be a mother and my husband couldn't be a father. It would make me angry that society didn't take infertility serious enough and it made me angry ever time I heard a teenager got pregnant or a woman who just was simple not ready to be a mother for example someone who does not want to stop drinking or taking drugs every weekend. I got tired of hearing things like "It'll happen when it's your time." or "It'll happen in God's timing" from people who already had children. I thought to myself, "What makes you more worthy in God's eyes to have children than me?". In a way it still upsets me that society doesn't take infertility serious enough.

However, I am finally pregnant and I'm extremely happy about it. I just found out last Friday so I'm only between 2 and 3 weeks pregnant. I'm a little nervous about a miscarriage, but in generally I'm just anxious for the first appointment on March 12th to come where I can most likely hear the heartbeat for the first time. I'm also anxious to get further along so I can finally feel the baby inside me, but I know I got a long while to go before that happens.

I just started to go to a church and a woman's bible study (Even though I pretty much stopped believing). I know most people wait until around their 3rd month to start telling to tell people, but after 4 years of trying I was so happy so I told the women and the women's Bible study. Afterwards I found out another woman was trying to have a baby. She's a 46-year-old woman who just got married 2 years ago. I felt so bad because I know the pain. I started to cry when she started to cry after telling us the story. I told her that I was sorry and she told me I had nothing to be sorry about and that the baby is a miracle and I should be happy. However, I'm still sad that she is also going through the same thing I went through. I don't think any woman or mean who is ready to be a parent should have to go through infertility issues.

I know I may not sound very happy after writing all that, but I am. I'm extremely happy. I just want March 12th to get her for starters!

MiChamoMelissa MiChamoMelissa 26-30, F 9 Responses Feb 18, 2010

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Congratulations! I could not imagine going through what you have. But that just makes this pregnancy all the more of a blessing. Please keep us updated

I'm very happy for you and I can understand your feelings because I became a father very late and I suffered for that.
I read you are half Italian... If you lived here in Italy, you'd probably be even more angry for how the problem of infertility is (not) treated.
This is one of the many shames of our wonderful country.

congratulations

OMG i just turned 20 last month when i was 15 i wanted to get pregnant with my boyfriend he had protected sex until i want to get pregnant i thought it would happen fast but it didint i turned 16 and nothing i was so sad and so mad at the world over this i turned 17 and nothing so i never told nobody i was trying because i felt sad and didint know what they think of me i was always sad when i was got my period i would start crying then i turned 18 but at that time me and my boyfriend had given up but always had unprotected sex because we got use to it over the years then my younger sister got pregnant and i was so mad at everything my mom treated her like the queen anyways she had a girl my little niece that i love to death and am so happy she was born health and beautiful but in my heart i was still wanted my own baby it just wouldn't happen anyways me and my boyfriend got married then i turned 19 it was all the same no baby just those sad moments when you think u are and your not well i found out my sisters pregnant again in my head i was all like all this again but why not me i was sad and mad but i love my niece so i was alright with it finally i turned 20 later month my sister it 3 months pregnant but am not feeling good so i play around with my husband and i tell him baby i think am pregnant then we both laugh at what i said then say yea right but after that May 2013 came along and i tell him lets go get some pregnancy tests to check just to make sure its mothers day i told him we might get Lucky so we go to walmart and buy some go home and do it in the restroom am all ready crying because i know in my head its going to be negative but i see one line and know OMG this line never pops up before then i see the second line that am already use to popping up i start crying and tell him its positive and he cant believe it so i take the other one just to make sure and it comes out positive again and were both so happy because i never thought we could get pregnant so today on May 13, 2013 am pregnant and so happy so i just wanted to tell every one sometimes miracles happen and i hope its to all of you beautiful woman out there trying because i know the pain and it hurts but if it took me 5 years it could happen to you guys as well so dontbno ever give up because your time is coming.

I almost felt like I was reading my own story! I too have been diagnosed with PCOS, and had tried for four emotionally torturous and physically painful years of trying to conceive with my husband. I have been through the hurricane of emotions, from lost hope to refound enthusiasm to hopeless again and round the merry go round... we recently found out we are pregnant and are due early next summer! Yes, hold on to your faith in God! I had to learn that sometimes when we think the answer is no, He's just saying hold on, not yet. The blessing is our trials and waiting make us appreciate the gift He's given us more than those for whom it comes easy. STAY STRONG AND BELIEVE, and above all, take care of yourself!

I almost felt like I was reading my own story! I too have been diagnosed with PCOS, and had tried for four emotionally torturous and physically painful years of trying to conceive with my husband. I have been through the hurricane of emotions, from lost hope to refound enthusiasm to hopeless again and round the merry go round... we recently found out we are pregnant and are due early next summer! Yes, hold on to your faith in God! I had to learn that sometimes when we think the answer is no, He's just saying hold on, not yet. The blessing is our trials and waiting make us appreciate the gift He's given us more than those for whom it comes easy. STAY STRONG AND BELIEVE, and above all, take care of yourself!

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I'm sorry you also have to go through the same thing. I'm sure you will a agree with me when i say PCOS is such a complicated disease both when you want to get pregnant and when you don't. Although, I never heard of it until I wanted to get pregnant and was diagnosed with it. I have no clue if I even had it before I took birth control pills (I wanted to wait at least 3 years of marriage before trying for a baby, but I changed my mind after 2 years of marriage and we started shortly after our 2nd anniversary). I had a completely normal cycle before taking the pills and during, so I have a feeling that since I put on wait while taking them that is what caused my PCOS. Of course I don't know for sure since the doctors don't even know for sure. <br />
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Anyway, I'm glad my story gives you hope. I think you are a lot stronger than I was. I had an extremely hard time reading about pregnant stories while I was still trying. Yes, it gave me hope if I heard a story about a couple finally getting pregnant or giving birth after trying for a year or more, but it was so difficult for me. <br />
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I wound up apologizing to two people I told. I recently started going back to church to see if I could get my faith back and I've been going to a woman's bible study. Naturally I told them I was pregnant, but I had no idea there was a woman there also trying to get pregnant until she told me after I made the announcement. I wound up crying because I know the pain and I felt so bad. She told me I shouldn't feel bad. I should be happy and that she's happy for me. She said she still has hope for a miracle. Her situation is a little different because she's 46-years-old and just had the bad luck of not meeting the love of her life until she was older. I also finally was able to talk with someone who was going through the same thing as me on here. We started to write PM's to each other. She told me she would be happy for me if I would get pregnant, but I still apologized to her if it made her sad after telling her the news. She said she wasn't sad and that she was happy for me. <br />
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Believe or not I still don't completely have my faith back, so I'm still not at the point of praying,(I can't help but think about people loosing their loved ones from cancer or some other deadly disease.) but I defiantly do think about people and hope for them. I'll do that for you.

Oh, congratulations! I know the pain you felt. I was diagnosed with PCOS last July. Since then, My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant. We count days, track ovulation, make love on all the right days and it still hasn't happened for us. Sometimes I get so sad that I am not pregnant, when all my friends are getting pregnant and everyone keeps looking at me and my husband, who have been married a few years now, and we don't have children. I can see them asking themselves 'what is wrong there?" <br />
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But, when I read stories like yours, it gives me hope. I never lose hope, but sometimes it is hard to hold on to the chance of a miracle. But, you and your experience makes me think that this could happen for us too. <br />
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I hope everything goes smoothly for you. Once again, congrats. I'm sure since you have wanted this for so long, you will be a wonderful mother.

Thank you. I'm sorry that you also had to go through the emotional pain before getting pregnant. I've heard several caes where people give up and then wind up pregnant. I'm not one to give up, so either I would wind up never being pregnant while trying and get lucky and wind up pregnant someday. I'm so happy that it was the second one. It's always been my dream to eventually be a wife and mother. I was just waiting for the mother part.