I Am Pregnant And Cannot Enjoy It

Hello, as some of you might have read my story about having been misdiagnosed with a m/c only  to be re-diagnosed w/ an ectopic. I had my tube taken out. well this morning I had a confirmed pregnancy. But I cant enjoy it because I do nothing but worry and even more time easing my worries. I am afraid that I will have another one but part of me thinks I dont because everything from the symptoms to the fact that the test showed positive immediatley opposed to the 2 1/2 weeks it took my last pregnancy to test positive, then when I ease that worry I fear that I will have a m/c. The cycle never end.


But I do have moments where I become excited and fantasize about the sleepless nights I will have feeding and burping my baby. I need hope right now.

quanta quanta
22-25, F
3 Responses Mar 16, 2010

I've been through 3 miscarriages, and am now pregnant again and doing it alone, it is scary and its hard, it should be the happiest time of your life but I understand completely your fear of miscarriage. For myself, I am keeping a journal and scrapbook of my pregnancy. Whatever happens I want to be fair to this baby and try to be as positive as possible, because I'm hoping and praying that there are no complications with this pregnancy, and if I do go full term I don't want to feel like I spent all my pregnancy worrying about the baby instead of enjoying all the experiences of a life growing inside me. It is such a difficult and happy time, I wish the best for you and your baby!

The issue I have with the coffee comment is that all the research that is done with most things is not accurate. They do not follow specific guidelines for the research. I have helped in research before and have realized that most of the things that have been researched have been done by companies that either make the product or benefit from the sale of the product, or it is done by people who cannot do the research properly. I am not saying that I am right about everything,but most of what is read is that 2 cups of coffee is fine. I have had several friends that drank more than that and they had no problems during or after the birth. Same with sugar alternatives. I find it is best to not try to put your own beliefs on others without stating that is your belief not fact!!!!

Just hold on. Don't let fear of what may be take away the joy you should be feeling for your growing child! It would be terrible if that happened again, but you need to stop and take a breath to remember how good it could be and may very well turn out. I hope it all ends up wonderful for you!