I don't have this issue, but the best friend I ever had does. We met in febuary 2012. She practicly moved into my house shortly after that. She never left, we did everything together, we were buds, we read eachothers minds. I never had anyone treat me the way she did. I knew she had this issue. We talked about it and she refered to her self as a yoyo. Come here, go away, come back, get out of here. I was concerned that she would do it to me, but I was willing to take that risk because she was an awesome friend. A few months ago, she went from never leaving, to every so ofen leaving for a few days at a time. Durring the time she was gone she would make no contact with me at all. Then she would come back and everything was fine for a while. Recently, because she was leaving more frequently and avoiding me more, I asked her about it and asked her if she no longer wanted to be friends. Long story short she said she didn't. I didn't hear from her after that for two weeks. Yesterday she came and got all her stuff and tried to make small meaningless talk as she was gathering all her things. (She had a lot of stuff here) she gathered her stuff emotionless like she was doing the laundry or something. Before she left she gave me her house key and said that if I find any of her stuff I can keep it. That means to me that she doesn't plan on ever talking to me again. I feel very hurt. I feel like my sister died. Any advice?
oximoronjes oximoronjes
26-30, F
2 Responses Sep 14, 2012

Have you asked her why that she was avoiding you or why did she get her stuff and leave

everything happens for reasons but that doesn't mean every reason is logical, Every individual has different personality traits... she might have dual life or might be enjoying secrecy, so don't think too much except just try to over come from attachment, and this is a good lesson do not allow people so easily in to your life, had similar experience... seems you are fortunate to have small period... in my case period was of years... and it had negative effect on my personal & professional life... just forget and move on.... always try to understand people with commitment attitude and habits of convenience... one shouldn't attach people with habit of convenience though they are far attractive than people with commitment :)... have a great time

I know she has issues, her mother didn't hold her or care for her the way she should have. She won't allow people to hug and show her affection. She said she craves affwction but she feels guilty for accepting it because she doesn't feel she deserves it. She says its one of the ways she punishes her self.